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Hi my name is Amanda! I am 16 but will be 17 in 15 days. The date is Jan.5th. But on Oct.15th I had my first abortion.I think abortion is really wrong and I would have never got one if I really knew what was going on.

I was actually forced to by my parents and I say this b/c I had to choose between the love of my baby and my parents.

Well, here’s my story I began having sex at early 15 only looking for love and attention. Which later realized that is not what I was getting. I had sex with a guy I knew maybe a year and then later on found out I was pregnant. I was shocked but in a way glad b/c I love kids.
As I told my parents I got the impression which I never expected ( it was only b/c I’m white and he was black). I had no one on my side. I was so upset. All I wanted was for someone to tell me they loved me and they would be behind me 100%. I never got that so mom made the appointment. As I walked in the doors for the appointment everyone looks up. I sit down embarrassed of being there. My eyes are filled with tears. They begin calling names and I am the next to be called back and asked to get dressed in some little pieces of clothes. I go and sit back down and am asked to go get my ultrasound. I go into a room and some jelly stuff is spread on my belly, it’s cold and as I look into the monitor I see my tiny baby. I can see the whole body, I see the heart beating and I ask the women is the baby healthy she says yes. She tells me that I was 12 1/2 weeks so then I know it is not my boyfriends it is a guy I slept with only one time. I go outside to tell mama thinking it would be a bit easier now. Then I’m called back to the room it would all take place. I am asked to climb on the table , lie down ,and put my feet up. As I lie down on the cold table I had a feeling like no other. My heart began to beat fast, It almost hurt to breath, I began to shake all over and am asked to stay still. I tell mama I didn’t want to do this, please mama I say, she replies it will all be over in a minute. I lay there knowing what’s going on and cry loudly. What is said to be six minutes seems a lifetime. Then I’m sent to a recovery room for an hour. Everyone seemed so relieved but not me I’m longing for what I have just let go. I go home and still remember the sounds of the machine,the cold table, and every thought. Not until a couple days later did it really seem to hit. I began to go into a deep depression and still blame my parents. I always think about on may 15th I would be having a baby. I’m young but still know the feeling of heartache. I cry out all the time. I have nightmares that are awful and wake up screaming. I have flashbacks all the time. And sometimes I dream of what the baby would have been like and think of the fun things we would have been able to do together. The crazy thing is sometimes I still imagine the baby being there and feel something that is almost like a baby kicking in my stomach. I truly regret this and only wish I could take it back. The baby is in my every thought.

Thanks, Amanda

August 9th 2000. That’s the day my life changed forever. I was 17, going into my senior year of high school. I am the youngest of five children, and my parents are extremely old fashioned. But anyway, here’s my story:

I had been with my boyfriend for about 3 months and we had just started having sex. We used protection and took precautions, but apparently not enough. I knew I was pregnant even before I took the test. I don’t know how to explain, I guess it was “mother’s instinct.” I told my boyfriend that I was a day late…a day! I just knew. so we waited until I was a week late and we went to the store and he bought a test. the next morning I took it and it came out positive. I just sat there….with no emotion. I called and told him. he didn’t have anything to say, he didn’t know what to say. we just decided that we’d talk about it when we could be together. I never wanted an abortion…not for one second through the entire ordeal. I
couldn’t tell my parents because I thought they would kick me out and I didn’t want them to be disappointed in me. I was seven weeks pregnant when we found out. I was in a trance so it was basically all up to him. I didn’t really know too much about abortion at the time. I went to a catholic high school so all they tell you is not to do it. he found the place but I had to call. it was the hardest phone call to make. the date I was scheduled was august 9th. my baby had a scheduled date to die. my baby. it’s an amazing feeling to have a living thing inside of you. knowing that it needs you to survive.

so august 9th came. my boyfriend went with me. neither of us realized what was actually going on. we did what they told us and that was it. I didn’t look at my sonogram, they had the screen facing away. I didn’t admit that I was really pregnant until I heard the doctor say, “yup your definitely pregnant.” the doctors there were extremely nice and they reminded me I had other options but I insisted that my parents would kill me. I went into
another room a bit later and there were like 5 or 6ish other girls in there. it was a weird feeling in that room, like we all knew it was the wrong thing to do but we all tried to make each other feel better about it. it was a support group of sorts. I was the last one of my group to get it done. it was torture waiting there, listening to the machine run for a few minutes, knowing another baby was being killed. but I was called and taken into the room. I laid down and they put the shot in my arm. they told me to count to ten and everything got all fuzzy. I was crying through the whole thing. it hurt..yeah like cramps but I kept thinking of what I was doing. when it was
over I was so hysterical, screaming and crying they had to get a wheelchair to take me to the recovery room. I couldn’t walk. I just kept saying “my baby, my baby”. it was over, my baby was gone. just like that.

I haven’t been able to really laugh, or been happy, or enjoy anything since that fateful day. I think back now, and I realize that my parents are my parents forever and they can’t hate me, just like I could never hate my baby. they love me the way I love my baby. I wish I would have understood that a year and a half ago. my boyfriend and I are still together and he’s admitted that when he saw me walk out after it happened that it really hit him and he knew it was the wrong thing to do. I know that if you haven’t decided what you’re gong to do about your pregnancy, you feel very alone. but you have to know there are a lot of women out there who do understand. I need to talk about it. I don’t know how I’m ever going to feel better about it, I doubt I will. I just know that my baby will always be in my thoughts and prayers, and someday I will be with him, and then I can apologize, but
until then I will live with this pain for the rest of my life.

I’m not gong to tell you not to have an abortion, because I heard that my whole life and I still did. the only advice I’m going to give is this: don’t let anyone change the way you feel. do what feels right to you and no one else. I know you’d be embarrassed to be young and pregnant, but you’ll be able to look back 10 years from now and tell you child you love them and see the smile on their face. I will never see my baby smile. I will never hear him laugh. I will never watch him play baseball or graduate high school, or get married. I can’t because I made the wrong decision and I let people influence what I believed in. there are so many people out there who want to
have children that can’t, but you can, and you can give both your child and a deserving couple life and happiness.

remember, you always have a choice…a choice NOT to. thank you for reading this. (by the way, I named him Noah…)

~Julie

I have written and told my story before about my abortion and how sad I got afterwards and how I wish I never did it and how I cry so much still even though it has been a while since I had to lose my baby.

I wish I could have seen your site before I had my abortion, may be I would have keep my baby. But the reason I did not was because wanted to but because I was young and had no where to go if my dad had found out and kicked me out of my house. I am still with the same wonderful guy but we are missing a big part of us. Our little baby. I had the abortion in march and I cry almost every night still. I often come to your site and read the letters that people have sent and how some women/girls feel sad and depressed after having their abortions. I understand how they fell. I understand 100% because I went through the same thing. If you are thinking of having an abortion make sure that it is what you really want to do. Or you will wind up like me wishing you could go back in time, and make every thing ok.

When I found out that I was pregnant I was not the least shocked. I had told my boyfriend who I have been dating for almost a year at the time. he was so happy at first. and as the time went on he was changing his mind about things. I was supporting him and me and I could not support someone else. I was still going to school and working a full time job.

when I finally made up my mind that I was going to tell my mom what was going on I was 16 weeks pregnant. I had told my boyfriend that I was going to move back in with my mom and that I was still planning to have this baby, but that I wouldn’t be able to support him so that he had to move back home. I never thought that he would punch me in my stomach and say that he was more important than my unborn baby. I cried for 2 weeks and I didn’t tell my mom but she suspected that I was pregnant. now I was almost 20 weeks pregnant and I couldn’t do it all by my self, so I went with my exboyfriend who was 4 years older than I and got an abortion. because I was almost half way through my pregnancy they had to dilate my cervix and then I had to go the next day and get the abortion. that day I was so scared I remember when I was at the abortion clinic how cold it was and the therapist asking me if I really wanted to do this. and all I kepted saying was that I had no choice and my friend begged me not to. I could feel some cramping but not much and I got up and I was bleeding alot. I remember walking to the operating room and I remember when they started the IV and how I looked up and told one of the nurses to tell me what was the sex of the baby and to tell the baby that I loved it and I had no choice. from there I don’t remember anything but when I woke up in the recovery room crying and checking my stomach to see if it was a horrible dream. I remember screaming from the top of my lungs and saying I wish I could die too. I fell into a deep depression and I bearly made it to senior year. I tried to commit suicide. I didn’t care for my self or anyone else at the time I was a murder. I rember going to the police station and saying that I had murdered someone and saying that I killed my own baby. I thought that I would never be happy again. now im 19 years old my first year in college and im 5 weeks pregnant and happily married to my exboyfriend who accompanied to the abortion clinic. I could never think of getting an abortion ever again!!

Nelly R

I had an abortion on February 17, 2001. I had just turned 18 on January 31, My parents had once told me that if I ever had an abortion that they would disown. I really didn’t believe in them myself. I remember the day of my birthday I skipped school and me and my boyfriend of about 2 years went to the clinic to take a pregnancy test and of course it came back positive. After that he did not talk to me about it for a week

I knew how he was feeling he didn’t want a baby and I knew he was for abortion, but he didn’t understand how I felt. So I told him I would have an abortion for him. He didn’t even think about my feelings and I wasn’t thinking about my babies feelings or mine I was only thinking about him, and to this day I don’t know why he didn’t care. The next day I called a clinic in a nearby town and I scheduled and appointment to go in and talk to someone about having the abortion they told me that it wasn’t very painful and it was a quick process. They gave me an ultrasound just to make sure that I was pregnant. The day finally came February 17 I was scheduled to have my abortion on this Friday at 1:30 up.me. a day that I will never ever forget. I remember they told me not to eat that more because it may make me nausea. I got there about 15 minutes early I could not believe how many girls were there. There must have been at least 40 of them and I just thought to my self its like this is no big deal hundreds of girls do this every day, I thought of myself as just another statistic, but I wasn’t. I was sitting there for at least 3 hours before they even got me into the prep room. As I sat there I just wanted to run out, I had already paid the 350 dollars it cost but I didn’t care I just wanted to run, but something wouldn’t let me and I remember wanting to cry but I couldn’t do that either I just sat there not saying a word. Then I heard my name being called by a nurse. I went back into the prep room and nobody was aloud to come with me. I was so scared. The nurse took my blood and gave my a couple pills to swallow. Then I sat down were 4 girls were sitting that had been called in right before me. They put a movie in that explained what was going to happen I didn’t even want to watch it so I got a magazine off the shelf and started flipping through the pages not even really paying any attention to the magazine. Then I started to get really dizzy and felt sort of numb I figured out that it was one of those pills they gave me to relax my muscles. I was the next girl to be called in and by this time I felt like there was nothing I could do but wait my turn. I remember seeing a girl that had just got through with having hers they were walking her down the hallway to the recovery room and she was screaming saying it hurt so bad and I started to get really scared and then they called me in. There was a nurse there with me to hold my hand and they gave me a couple shots down there to numb things and I think those hurt more than the actual abortion itself. I remember then the nurse said do you want to hold my hand and I squeezed so hard not really because it my body because they were sucking my baby out of me with a machine and what kind of sick person would let this happen to something that was apart of them. Then it was all over all I could think is that God should punish me and I hope I will never be able to have babies again because that is what I deserve for doing this. After I got home and for about 3 months after all I could is cry and I hated my boyfriend for I blamed him for everything, but I was the one who did it, I did it to myself and my baby. I kept telling him I wanted my baby back. And I told him if you can’t give me what I want I don’t want to be with you. I was horrible. Those couple of months afterwards I didn’t even know who I was. Well things started settling down and I started being myself again but believe me I will never forget what mistake I made I am just dealing with it a little better now. Me and my boyfriend moved in together in May of that same year. In June I found out I was pregnant again and that brought every thing back I was so mad at myself. How could I have this baby but I couldn’t have the last one. I hurt so bad. Me and boyfriend decided that the best bet would be to keep this one. Know I kind think I am just trying to replace the baby that I so easily killed. My baby girl is due in 2 months march 3, 2002. And I will never do anything to hurt this baby. There are so many people out there they can’t even have children and there are even more people out there like me that can get pregnant and are so selfish and can just kill there child. I made the worst mistake of my life.

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I was 14 when I had my abortion. My boyfriend and I had been having unprotected sex for almost 4 months and I just assumed it wouldn’t happen to me. But then of course it did. My mom caught him at our house one day, and dragged me to the hospital that night to have a pregnancy test.I already knew I was, I hadn’t had my period for 5 weeks. When the doctor confirmed it, I felt the room start spinning and go black. I couldn’t cry, I couldn’t breathe. Later that night my mom called my boyfriends parents and informed them. She asked if I would like him to accompany me and I said no. He ended up paying for it. $360. I remember sitting in the clinic shivering, but I wasn’t really cold. I filled out page after page of useless paperwork. I was then instructed to take off my clothes and change into a gown. I then sat in a room with about 20 other women. They all looked strangely expressionless. I sat there for about an hour, tears welling up in my eyes from time to time. I almost ran out 4 times but I knew that my life would be impossible with a baby. My life. That’s all I was concerned with. One of the doctors that did my ultrasound asked me if I wanted to see it, and I quickly said no. It was bad enough that I was actually laying there going this far with it there’s no way I wanted to see it. I talked to a girl in the clinic with me who slept with her friend then he decided that he didn’t even want a relationship with her, she was 3 months, I was quite happy not to be that far along. During the procedure, I had every anesthetic available. Including nitrous oxide. It felt like someone ripping me apart from my insides. i started screaming for my mom and she came in there and held my hand. I feel so bad not only for what I did to her, but for what I did to my baby. She told me not to think of it as a baby…but as a mistake. I suppose I did for awhile. Long enough to regain some sanity. But as time wore on, it became inevitable. The first time I realized what I did was a few days afterwards. I got out of the shower and noticed a small stream of blood running down my legs. I fell on the ground and starting screaming for God to help me and that I was sorry. It took me 6 months to be able to talk about it and even now I get shaky. I’m currently with the guy that got me pregnant, 2 years ago. I refuse to have and kind of sex now, and I’m glad that he respects that. I get very depressed on the anniversary of it every year. I keep praying that God will forgive me, and I try to do everything I can to make it up. Although I know in my heart that nothing will ever be enough. I plan to have children one day. When I know I can provide and take care of them. When I’m not just a child myself. The procedure caused me to mature and look at life in a different perspective than my friends. Most of them know about it now, and they think I am a strong person. If that is so, then why did I make such a weak decision? God forgive me.Jane

Hi. I realize that on this site there are many personal testimonies to read but I’m hoping mine will be one of them. When I was 20 years old, I found out that I was 4 weeks pregnant. I was shocked and surprised, as for some reason I never believed I could get pregnant. The father wanted me to have the baby and he asked me to marry him.

He even bought an engagement ring and wedding bands for both of us. I turned him down and told him about how fearful I was of having a baby at that time in my life. He was trying too see the positive aspects of me having the child and since he was 8 years older than I, he was in a much better position to become a parent, except for the fact that we weren’t married. There were times when he would lay his head on my stomach and talk to the baby as he cried. One time as he did this he said, “I’m fighting for your life, I’m trying my best to save you.”

At 5 1/2 weeks along, I had an ultrasound and saw my child’s heart beating. I was touched by it but at the same time I was frightened by the reminder that the whole situation was really real. I was so afraid of having a baby this young and all I could think about was how fat I would get and how it would ruin my life. It was all about ME ME ME and how I felt.

Soon I was 10 weeks along and was having a hard time on the decision as to whether or not to have the abortion. I was on an emotional roller coaster, to say the least. One relative bought me maternity clothes…other relatives told me that having an abortion was best and all their negative comments about me having the child reinforced my fears. I made an appointment with another OB/GYN to discuss the possibility of abortion. On the day of the appointment, I heard my baby’s heart beat and the doctor told me that I was a little over 10 weeks along. She said that if I was going to abort, I should do it within a couple of days because the baby was pretty much formed, (including the major organs) and that it just needed to get bigger.

On the rainy, gloomy day of January 16, 1996, a relative drove me to a clinic for an abortion. In the car on the way there, part of me was hoping that we would get in a wreck because of the weather and that I would miss the appointment as a result. We arrived at the clinic and I cried hysterically as my relative went to the counter to check me in. During this time I noticed a big bellied pregnant woman announcing to someone that she was having twins and talking about how excited she was. This made me cry even harder. My relative came over to me and said, “What’s wrong? I know it isn’t easy but this is the most caring and responsible decision you can make.” She previously had 2 abortions and told me it was “best” for her and the child. To me, for someone to think that killing a child is a “best” and “caring” action is sick.

Soon I was lead into a pre-surgery room and was asked to remove my clothing and put on a gown. As the nurses wheeled me down the hall towards the surgery room, I remember thinking, “My baby’s heart is beating at this very moment and in a few minutes it will stop.” Part of me wanted to jump up onto my feet and scream, stating that I wasn’t going to let them kill my child. Yet another part of me thought illogically, “Everything is already paid for, so I can’t back out now. My relative probably won’t be able to get a refund and she will be angry at me after all this trouble.” As I was wheeled into the surgery room, I remember soft cheerful music playing…by the sound of it, one would never guess that an innocent child was about to be murdered in that very room. The nurses quickly put my legs up in stirrups and they asked me if I wanted to be awake or asleep during the procedure. As I looked around the room, I noticed a table with many unfamiliar items on it, but one thing I did recognize was a long coiled see through tube, which I knew my dismembered child would be sucked through. I panicked as I said, “I don’t want to see anything. Put me out.” The next thing I knew I was in the recovery room. My first feeling was a sense of relief but then a feeling of darkness replaced it when I was hit by the reality that my child was gone forever.

I’m 26 years old now and my child would have been 5 1/2 years old. Every time I see a child of this age, it kills me inside. I can’t help but wonder what my child would have been like or looked like. Nobody will ever know how my child could have touched their lives, nor will we ever get to see how my child would have contributed to this world. I will never be able to look into my child’s eyes; my child will never be able to call me “mom.” My child will never be able to play like living kids can. My child wasn’t given the chance. The only proof of my child that I have is the ultrasound picture and the memory of being pregnant, rather than his/her existence here on this earth. I still have the maternity clothes and every time I see them, sadness fills me because I never needed to wear them. All I can do is pray that I’ll meet my child one day in heaven. I will beg and plead for others not to abort their children. NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION, IT’S NOT THE CHILD’S FAULT; AN INNOCENT CHILD SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO DIE BECAUSE OF IT. Abortion is murder in the womb, despite the fact that people and doctors will try to change the words to make it seem like any “medical” procedure, while attempting to make it seem less harsh and cruel than it really is.

I hope that this letter will help save your unborn child. Thanks for taking the time to read this and please…don’t let your unborn child be just a memory. To my child: I love you very much and you will be a part of my life forever.
THANK GOD FOR THIS WEBSITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello. I am 17 yrs. old. I was 16 yrs old when I found out I was pregnant. I knew befor I took the test. I kept pretty good track of my monthly. And sometimes it did come a couple days early or late. But when it was one week late I started to get worried. Then every time Id eat something it just came right back up and thats when I knew. My boyfriend at that time got me a test to make sure.

It came up postive very quick, but it didnt shock me at all becuase I just knew that I was. Well, we never even discussed abortion becuase I was totally against it and I still am to this day. My mom kept on bugging me about my period. She said she knew I didn’t have it for a while. And that I better not be pregnant. Of course I was too scared to tell her that I was pregnant. So I hid it the longest I could. I had left a letter that Id wrote to one of my friends in Ct about my situation and of course my mother found it. I was over my boyfriends house one day and she called and told me she found out that I was pregnant and she told me well you do know what your gonna do about it right? I told her Im not having an abortion! She told me fine then you are going to tell your father. Well one night at my house me and Mike were going to tell my father. My mom told my dad that I had to tell him something. I was in the bathroom trying to run away from telling him and somehow he just knew what I was going to tell him! My mom told him that I was pregnant! At that moment I knew I had let my parents down! I felt the world come crashing down on me. They both told me the bad things about being 16 and having a baby. My dad gave me one week t o decide what I wanted to do. But honestly it was what they wanted me to do! They failed to tell me about what having the abortion could do to me emotionally. All that they could say was it was for the best! And honestly I started thinking it was for the best. I didnt have a good relationship w/ the father he was a drug addict and alcoholic. And the more and more my parents talked to me the more and more I thought they were right. So my mom called the clinic and made my appointment on July 21,2001! I was scheduled t go in at 2pm. The night before I was planning on not going, or going and not getting out of the car because I did not want to do it. But all I kept thinking about was when my dad told me the night I told him I was pregnant about all the bad consequences of raising a baby at age 16, and how he would throw me out of the house and not to come around until the baby was born. I couldnt sleep at all the night before I had to go in. On July 21,2001 me my mom and my dad got in the car and headed to the clinic. When I got there I felt so sick to my stomach. I couldnt believe I was actually in there, I just wanted to walk out and forget I ever stepped in that horrible place. But then it kept running through my mind of what a disappointment I would be to my parents if I didnt go through w/ it. I was taken in the back room. The nurses checked my blood pressure and pricked my finger. And I asked the nurse if I was gonna be completely knocked out for it. And she told me I would be given a .05 valium and some laughing gas. Thats when I had the nurse call my mom back there and I told my mom that Id basically be awake through it and I couldnt do that. I didnt want to do it anyways so I thought that thatd be the excuse Id use. But it did not work. My mom kept telling me youll be drugged itll be fine, its for the best! So I said well maybe it is for the best. I was then taken back and told to change into the gown thing. And I was in a room w/ about 20 other girls watching a video of one of the nurses telling us how theyd be performing the abortion. I was so shaken up and I couldnt stop crying. I was literally shaking! Then one girl asked me if I was sure I wanted to go through w/ this and I told her not really, because I dont want to do it but my parents will be so disappointed if I dont. Then it was time to go have the sizing done. I layed on that table while the doctor told me I was 14 weeks along. I did not expect at all to see my baby on a screen. I cant believe that they show you the picture of the baby on the screen. I was so shaken up already so after that I ran out of that room and went to the most caring nurse I have ever met and I told her to get my mom back there again! I told my mom I cant do it becuase they showed my the baby on the screen! And all I heard was do you want to disapoint your dad? So then again I gave in and decided I was gonna go through with it. I was still so shaken up that the nurse who talked to me the whole time I was there told me that I do have a choice and that my parents cant make the decision for me. And I didnt say anything, but in my eyes I was being forced to do it. So the nurse got the Dr. who was performing it on all the girls to talk to me and told me to make sure this is what I wanted and no one else, but its hard when you have your parents telling you all of these horrible things about this and that, so I told him it was. So he then took me and my mom in a room and told my mom that I was so shaken uo that when he performs the abortion that hed have to give me more drugs then the others because if I didnt calm down that I could hurt myself during the procedure. When he was in there w/ me and my mom all I wanted to yell out was that I didnt want to do it and how I hated my parents for doing this to me. Well I kept my mouth shut and the nurse then gave me two .05 valiums to relax me. The nurse had to help me walk into the room where Id have the abortion! I was so out of it! I cant even remember how I got on that cold cold table and how my feet got in the stirrups. All I remember was two nurses holding each of my hands. Then I remember seeing the doctor come in w/ a mask on and all these tools. Then I felt so much pain. Like someone ripping my insides out and the horrible noise. I couldnt stop crying and screaming for him to stop becuase I didnt want him to do it. And it hurt so bad! All I kept thinking was how could I have done this? Then I said to myself at least Ill still be loved by my parents. At least they wont hate me! I did it because of them and there’s no denying that! I sort of feel like I was taken advantage of because I know if they didnt drug me up the way that they did that as soon as I walked in that room I wouldnt have done it and I wouldnt have cared what my parents think. I screamed for the doctor to stop but he wouldnt stop! Thats what I did through the whole 10 min of it was cry and scream. On the way home I didnt even speak to my parents, ever since I had it done they act like it never even happened. And so do I! But thats the thing, I keep it all inside! I get so depressed everytime I see a baby! It just brings back reminders of what I have done to my baby that couldve been! Its almost time for my yearly exam and Im so afraid to go get my pap smear becuase its just gonna remind me of what I did to my baby! I always wonder if the baby was a girl or boy what color eyes and hair. No one has any idea of how this is effecting me. No one knows what Ive gone through emotionally since Ive had it done! I have to deal with this until the day I die. I urge woman who are even giving abortion a thought, it may sound like the best thing to do at that time but you have absolutely no idea of what woman have to go through afterwards. Its the worst pain I have ever felt in my life physically and emotionally. And the worst part about it for me is that I have no one to talk to becuase all they tell me is it was for the best! So if anyone wants to talk please contact me anytime!

I had my abortion on February 21st 2000. I was 22 years old and living it up with my boyfriend at the time. I was a bartender for a hot nightclub and raking in dollars so I thought I had it all. It was dinner and drinking out every night of the week, snow-boarding trips every weekend, life was one big party, then the pregnancy test came back positive.

When I saw the blue line I had mixed emotions. One part of me was saying, “Oh no! This can’t be happening, a baby’s gonna ruin my lifestyle!” and the other part of me started feeling the soft pulls of maternal bonding. My boyfriend freaked and insisted I have an abortion right away. I called the clinic the next day and everything was arranged for the following week. I walked around in a daze for the rest of the week. The morning of the appointment I remember standing outside the clinic and crying that I didn’t want to go in and my boyfriend insisting that I should. I went in and talked to the so called counselor (salesperson). She was the nastiest most inconsiderate B-word. I went through the blood test, changing my clothes and sonogram crying. There were 4 girls ahead of me in the inner waiting room and I got to talking with one of them and she had been to this clinic 4 times before. 4 TIMES!!! When it was finally my turn I remember getting on the table and having my feet put in stirrups roughly by the doctor and having an IV inserted for the general anesthesia, I felt so trapped like a cow before slaughter, everything felt like it was going in slow motion. The last thing I remember, I was crying and saying that the IV burned and then everything went black. I woke up in pain and crying in the recovery room. The doctor (abortionist, murderer) came in all annoyed and asked me “What are you still crying for?” He then told me that I cried through the whole procedure even under general anesthesia and that it was very distracting. I ignored him and kept on crying and a woman sitting in a recovery chair next to me held me and rocked me and stroked my hair even though she must have been feeling just as bad as I was. Then I went home. I thought it would be all a bad memory and that I’d be fine but all I saw on tv when I got home were diaper ads and formula ads. My boyfriend and I sank into a year long period of uncontrolled drinking and drug abuse. Both he and I would cry over our dead baby and we’d drink and snort cocaine until we couldn’t feel anything emotionally anymore. What was once just fun and games became almost an obligation because we felt we killed our baby for the privilege of living it up and if we cleaned up our acts it would mean our baby died in vain.I also became physically violent towards him whenever I would have flashbacks to that horrible abortion. What made us both realize that we couldn’t go on living the way we were was I had an overdose one night and it’s only by the grace of God that I didn’t die. We both started down the road of recovery and 2 months later we were married and 2 months after that I was pregnant. Oh what tears of joy we shed. I had one scare during the pregnancy when at 6 weeks along (6 weeks was when I had the abortion with the first baby) I started bleeding. We rushed to the hospital and discovered that I was not miscarrying and heard his little heartbeat for the first time. That was when I started researching fetal development and abortion because the clinic never told me that the “clump of cells” as they called my baby had a heartbeat. I am very angry at abortion clinics because they never tell the woman that she could get a perforated uterus or bowel, become sterile, contract a disease from unsanitary equipment, increase her risks of breast cancer, get an infection from leaving parts of the baby behind in her womb, post abortion syndrome which pro abortion people like to deny the existence of, which my husband and I went through and the list goes on and on. My husband and I are today the proud parents of a healthy and beautiful 4 1/2 month old boy. We have a wonderful life now free of drugs and heavy drinking, he works hard and provides very well for our son and myself. I am now a volunteer counselor for a wonderful crisis pregnancy center(my husband also volunteers). Even though I couldn’t save my own child’s life or saved myself from the aftermath of abortion I am dedicated to saving other women and their babies from this horror they call Choice.