Young woman pressured into abortion, Planned Parenthood didn’t help her

A post-abortive woman was pressured by her boyfriend, and Planned Parenthood did not help her:

“When I began to realize I was pregnant, [her boyfriend] told me that if I were, I was going to get an abortion… I finally went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. I took the test as soon as we got home, and it was positive. The first thing my boyfriend said was, “Call Planned Parenthood.”

I started to cry, and he began to yell. …I always get very afraid when he begins to yell, and when I tried to offer up an alternative, he said no.

“It should be your choice, but -” He said that he was not “ready to be a father.” …

He made me call Planned Parenthood less than five minutes after finding out I was pregnant; I scheduled an appointment for one week later. This whole time, I felt more and more connected with my baby girl. My boyfriend told me that he would kick me out if I kept our baby, and I would have no place to live.
I called Planned Parenthood when I was able to get alone (to tell them the situation), and they told me that I would just have to tell him I didn’t want to do it. They did not care what would happen to me. I pleaded with them to work with me, just until I could find something to help me.

I asked them if they could do an ultrasound for me. I told them that if I could get an ultrasound and show it to my boyfriend – who is much older than me – he would not make me abort my baby. However, Planned Parenthood told me that they would do a free ultrasound before the abortion to confirm the age of the baby, but if I did not get the abortion, I would have to pay over $100. I did not have the money, and did not know anywhere to turn. However, I did want to keep my baby. …

On the day of the abortion, the nurse knew my situation, but offered no help except for abortion. I cried, so helpless and alone, knowing my poor baby girl was about to be killed. The nurse just told me that they would give me a sedative before the abortion began. Still, I cried through the abortion….
I have had depression and dreams of my little girl ever since….Now, I have to live with this guilt for the rest of my life. I blame myself for the whole thing, and contemplated suicide for months after the abortion….

My boyfriend is happily going on with his usual routine. However, I’m sitting here a few days after my due date – which was Mother’s Day – and I think about how I was forced to give up on my own daughter. By the time my daughter would have been born, I had made enough money to be able to rent an apartment with a roommate and support Xianna – but I don’t have her.
Eleven of my friends just had their babies within the last three months, and a few more will have theirs very soon. I envy pregnant women, and have withdrawn myself from them all. I cannot be around pregnant women or children.”

Guest Contributor “LETTER I was forced to abort my baby – and I’m not alone” Live Action News May 20, 2016

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Woman describes extremely painful abortion

This woman seems to have gone through a second trimester abortion, which takes two visits to commit. At the first visit, laminaria are inserted to dilate the cervix, at the second, the baby is dismembered with forceps and removed piece by piece.

“I didn’t expect the dialation to hurt much. As soon as I got into the operating room I started crying. My nurse was pretty cold and she told me to stop crying and that it would only make things worse. I pleaded for them to stop and told them I didn’t want to do it anymore but since I had signed the consent form they proceeded. I started freaking out when they told me they would put a needle into my cervix but I wasn’t looking and when they did it I just felt a little pain. I must have sworn because the nurse got a little miffed. What hurt the most was being open by some metal thing. I was hyper ventilating and all the nurse said was, “You got yourself into this” and “stop making this harder for yourself”.

As soon as they let me leave I hugged my boyfriend and cried. I cried on the way home because of the pain I just felt. I was angry at the nurse and dreaded the next day when the actualy surgery would begin. In a few minutes I cramped up terrible and took my tylenol 3. The medication did not make me feel much better and I cried and cried at the motel until I fell asleep.

Those cramps were nothing compared to the ones I had the next morning when I took the cyotec medicine at 6:30 a.m. I cried and rolled around. I was screaming and moaning for nearly an hour. Finaly, I called 911 and had the paramedics come. A woman explained to me I was in premature labour. All I could do was cry and moan, “It’s hurting me, It hurts”. It was definately the worst pain I have EVER felt in my life. The paramedics called a taxi and he drove my boyfriend and I to the clinic.

I got to the clinic and waited in that damn room for nearly twenty minutes. I was moaning, clutching onto the chair with my head tilted back and breathing heavily. The other girls who were probably no more than a month pregnant pretended not to notice. They called me in and gave me some ativan. In no time I was relaxed and when they inserted the IV in I didn’t have a care in the world. The nurse who I had been so angry at the day before now seemed nicer than ever. I didn’t feel much pain. it felt like they were reaching all the way inside me to my neck and I just said something along the lines of, “Oh my gosh” a few times. Even though I felt pain I was so relaxed it didn’t both me.

I felt a wet thing down my leg and we were finished. I went to recovery and tripped out. It felt like 10 minutes but it must have been two hours. i felt fine the rest of the day and still do. Happy I did this. No regrets. Pain was nearly unbearable but worth it.”

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Woman tells of forced abortion

Catherine Glenn Foster, president of Americans United for Life, was 19 when she had abortion. She changed her mind, but was forced by abortion workers to go through with the abortion:

“I went into that center because I thought I had no choice. I thought I had no other option. And I was terrified. “I found there was coercion, lack of information, at times outright lies, at times force.”

She changed her mind on the abortion table, and tried to get up:

“I asked to get up. I said ‘please let me up. Let me off this table, out of this room. I don’t want this anymore.’ I said, ‘I can’t do this. This is wrong and I feel really bad about this. Just let me go. You can keep the money.’ And they shouted for more people and I had four people holding me down. One – a nurse – and a staff member on each arm. The doctor aborted my child. I’m screaming. That’s not choice.

It was not pro-woman, it was not pro-me. They didn’t care about me, they didn’t respect my opinion. They were just in-‘n-out. They wanted me gone and they wanted my baby gone.
In the end, I was left alone in the recovery room, wishing that I could turn back time and just go an hour, a week, a month back in time and re-do everything.

It took me a long time to recover…physically, and then mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It was devastating.”

She comments on laws that require women to be shown a sonogram if they ask to see it:

“That’s part of my story. Because I was there in the center and asked to see my child’s ultrasound. I asked and I was refused. They said no. And that’s always haunted me. I’ve always wanted and wished, again, that I could go back. And knowing that women in Wyoming now have that right is so impactful.”

Paul Strand “‘I Had Four People Holding Me Down’: Woman Recounts Horror of Forced Abortion” CBN News 01-14-2018

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Woman pressured into abortion; “It was the worst day of my life”

One post-abortive woman tells her story of being pressured into an abortion:

“There’s no way you’re having a baby, I never want kids,” he said.
I told him it’s too late, I’m pregnant and couldn’t be happier. But he accused me of deceiving him and going behind his back, secretly planning a baby without his approval…..

[M]y pregnancy was an accident, it hadn’t been planned and I just assumed that he would be okay with it. I mean, why wouldn’t he? As far as I knew we loved each other, we owned a house together, we were financially secure and our future looked great.

But he was furious and threatened to leave me if I had the baby. So what was I supposed to do? … [A] week later, I found myself in a clinic and it was the worst day of my life, terminating a much-wanted baby. But what could I do when my partner didn’t want a baby?

I was in a lot of pain the following days, both physical and emotional, it was a total nightmare, I started having dreams about my lost baby. I was convinced she was a girl and I was just gutted. Also, I was left with so much guilt, I wish I’d been stronger and convinced Keiran to let me go through with the pregnancy…

One night Keiran told me he needed to talk and he dropped a bombshell, he was breaking up with me… I thought he loved me but clearly he didn’t, and of course I wished I hadn’t terminated my pregnancy because at least I’d have my baby.”

As told to Libby Jane Charleston “‘My ex pressured me to have an abortion because he didn’t want children‘” 9Honey August 19, 2018

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17 year old tells of forced abortion at Planned Parenthood

A woman who had an abortion at Planned Parenthood at age 17 recalls:

“The door opened. It was my turn. I went into an office where I gave them some information. Then they led me into a room where they performed a sonogram, with the screen turned so that I could not see it. From there, I went in to yet another room to watch a video that was supposed to tell me about the procedure.

I say “supposed to” because I couldn’t concentrate and could not tell you one thing that was said. I was taken to a curtained off area and was told to remove all of my clothes and put on a gown.  Everyone was so cold and unfriendly.

I opened the curtain once I was dressed and then was led to a room with a table and equipment. I laid down and began to cry. They asked me what was wrong and I told them that I did not want to do this. I had changed my mind. I wanted up.

The doctor began to tell me that I didn’t need a baby and that I had my whole life ahead of me.

I began to cry harder and they strapped me down. I asked them to please unstrap me and let me leave. The anesthesia was administered and I fell asleep to the sound of their laughter. When I woke up, I was hurting physically as well as emotionally. All around me were the sounds of other women sobbing.”

Years later, she got married. But  she suffered :

“I had anger, bitterness, and resentment living inside of me. It touched every part of my life from my marriage to how I parented my children. I yelled a lot and cried a great deal. I would often cry myself to sleep and not even realize why I was crying.”

Eventually, she found healing through a post-abortion support group.

I Was Strapped Down and Forced to Have an Abortion at Planned Parenthood” Save the Storks   December 1, 2017

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Blogger regrets the abortion her partner talked her into

A blogger who identified herself as Chase and claims to be pro-choice wrote about her abortion:

“What is making it so difficult for me is the fact that I didn’t want to have an abortion. When I found out I was pregnant I wanted the baby. I knew I couldn’t handle an abortion, I knew I didn’t want one, I knew as I sat in the clinic crying I should leave but I didn’t. I got on that table crying, shaking, being told by the nurses I needed to calm down so they could give me the anesthesia. It was horrible. It was traumatic. I don’t know why I didn’t leave. I let TK convince me if I did it everything would be OK, that he was going to take care of everything and make it better. I knew in my gut that was not going to happen. I knew I shouldn’t abort my child but I wanted to believe in the impossible. I wanted to believe that if I did it magically TK and I were going to have some kind of wonderful relationship. We didn’t have a relationship before I got pregnant, why would I think we could have one after? I longed for what I had never had – love, family, someone to be there for me. I knew if I kept the baby TK was going to shut me out so stupidly I did what he asked me to, I aborted my baby.”

Quoted at JivinJehoshaphat

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Abortion worker describes how parents forced their daughters to abort

An abortion clinic worker named Tonya wrote:

“[T]eens, young adults, and minors who are still living at home with their parents or legal guardians, are sometimes being forced to have an abortion or even feeling like they’re being pressured into having an abortion by that parent or legal guardian. This happens a lot of times to minors and young adults…

On the day of the appointment, you can usually tell the minor who does not want to be there just by their facial expression. Being upset and very emotional. When this is noticed, I’ll pull that patient to a private room to have a one-on-one talk with them without the parent being present, and sometimes the patient will say, “Yes, I am being forced to do this, and if I don’t, my parents will put me out or send me away.” And in other words, just turn their backs on them. You have parents who try to convince their child….

These parents will tell their daughter anything. They will even go as far as bribing them by telling them, “Just do this for mommy right now, and I will take you shopping, and I’ll get you whatever it is that you want, just please don’t do this to your mommy, you will have plenty of time to have a baby in the future when you’re old enough.” Parents don’t care about how their child feels, nor do they understand that a decision like this is no easy decision and that it can and will affect them in the future mentally.

You have these parents who don’t even think about what they are making their child do. All they are thinking about are themselves, what they are not wanting to deal with, so they think that this is the best way out of the situation, so they don’t even try to understand that young girl’s feelings about the whole idea of abortion…

The parents will sometimes deny that they are trying to force their child to have an abortion because they put them in the spotlight, and I have heard a child making a comment saying, “yes, you are, mama, I didn’t know that I was coming to an abortion clinic. I thought this was just a regular doctor’s appointment for my pregnancy.”…

Sometimes the parent will try and ask for an employee’s advice to see if they can help them when their child has refused abortion…

Sometimes it gets me very upset when I get one of these minors that is in the situation because of their parents forcing, threatening, convincing, and persuading a minor into having an abortion.”

Tonya P From behind Closed Doors: “Abortions” (Xlibris, 2013) 27-29

Tonya wrote about this in her memoir after leaving the abortion facility. In her book, she does not make any claim to be pro-life.

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Pro-Lifer tells story of her mother’s coerced abortions

Melissa Pereira, a pro-life student leader at Caldwell College, tells her family’s story:

“Twenty-six years ago my mother was forced into a Planned Parenthood facility with her supposed husband. As they entered the clinic together, my mother was pushed and verbally abused as her husband exclaimed that this was her only choice right in front of a clinic worker. Rather than defend the woman and her rights, one of Planned Parenthood’s champion causes, the clinic worker not only ignored the abuse, but proceeded to lie about her pregnancy. My mother was 5 months pregnant, but she was told it was just a “blob of cells”. There was no counseling, no chance for my mother to make an informed choice with the guidance of informed educators as Planned Parenthood claims to be. That day was empty of truth as my mother’s womb was emptied of a person too small and vulnerable to defend himself. It became a void for my father to quickly fill with more sexual abuse.

A year later my mother was pregnant again. At this point her abuser knew where to take her to find solace…for himself. After continued abuse of her body and I dare say, her very soul, once again, hand in hand with the Great Enabler, Planned Parenthood, they took advantage of my mother’s vulnerability. She was speedily referred to a nearby hospital that performed abortions. Where were the other options that Planned Parenthood speaks about? It was clear my mother had only one option as another sibling was taken and another void created for my father to intensify his insatiable sexual drives.

Again, my mother found herself pregnant. Obviously, what Planned Parenthood had to offer as a solution was not working. My mother realized it, he didn’t want to. With the support of my grandmother, she mustered the courage to go forward with the pregnancy and keep the child. I was that child. Though my physical life was spared, I was born into the vicious current of abuse established by my father through the empowerment of Planned Parenthood. My life became a reminder that he was defied and therefore I had to pay. The tyrant did not like the void created by the word “no”, so he filled it with child abuse. I was no stranger to life threatening injuries.”

Eventually Melissa’s mother escaped her husband and Melissa went on to be a pro-life leader.

KRISTAN HAWKINS “Planned Parenthood, Abortion Enabled My Abuse; Now I’m Pro-LifeLifeNews APR 1, 2011

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Woman attempts suicide after abortion

A pro-choice textbook meant to train abortion workers recounted the following story:

“Gloria, 28 years old, had an abortion in October….she was told by her partner and brother that she should have an abortion, which she felt told her respectively that her child, and therefore herself, was unwanted, unloved, and that she could not cope. She duly had an abortion. Gloria spoke of various kinds of emotional and physical abandonment that had occurred throughout her childhood and left her unable to trust others or herself.

Although she had received counseling from the family planning nurse who was a trained counselor she had brought along her partner, and her hurt and humiliation did not emerge. She felt unable afterwards to go back to the family planning clinic as this had not been suggested and the counselor had not helped her express her feelings. She went to her GP, where there was a counselling service, and was told that the practice counselor was “full up”, a further rejection. Gloria was prescribed anti-depressants with which she tried to commit suicide.”

Joanna Brien, Ida Fairbairn Pregnancy and Abortion Counseling (London: Routledge, 1996) 62

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Girl pressured to abort by her mother says she had a “ruined life”

Here is one woman’s abortion story:

‘Hi, my name is Renae and I had an abortion when I was 14. I was barely an adult and just didn’t comprehend what was happening. I was pushed (by my mother) into making an uninformed decision out of convenience rather than given counselling and support to wrap my head around the situation I was facing. I now find this lack of care and information very disturbing.

I had no knowledge of what to expect or what would happen at the clinic – I was shuffled in without as much as a word. Someone asked me to confirm my name and that was it.

I was given an inadequate amount of drugs by the anesthetist. I woke up in the middle of the surgery and heard a doctor saying ‘There it is – got it!’ I was absolutely traumatized and distraught as I left the clinic that fateful day….

As a result of this experience I have endured depression, drug addiction and a ‘ruined life’. It’s ironic to think that my mum told me I would ruin my life if I had the baby, but no one ever stopped to think that maybe not having the baby and having an abortion instead would do the exact same thing.”

Women’s Stories” Abortion Rethink

Visited October 3, 2018

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