Post-abortive man shares story of girlfriend’s abortion of twins at 20 weeks

A man who identified himself only as RDF shared his story on Facebook. His girlfriend aborted twins at 20 weeks. He said:

She went into Planned Parenthood because she was “too young” (24) and wasn’t ready for children. She hadn’t “planned” to be a parent. I know… It’s ironic that a person who hadn’t planned to be a parent would visit “Planned Parenthood” to have her babies murdered inside her and then sucked out in little bits and pieces. That doesn’t sound anything at all like “planning” to me.

There were protesters there with posters and booklets and handouts… Offering insight, wisdom, help… An alternative to murder. She walked past the pictures of cut up babies. She ignored the small group of protesters. She was expressing her “legal rights”. She was expressing her “Womanly Rights”. She was a “modern woman”. Her life was about her. Not about the inconvenience of the “fertilized eggs” that were inside her.

They weren’t babies yet. She was less than 20 weeks pregnant… by a few days. Though the Sonogram showed two little babies. With fingers and hands… And feet and faces… And heartbeats… Two little innocent babies who were being protected by their mother in the safety of her womb. Two little babies who had never experienced hurt or pain, who never knew the evils of this world or the great wonders of this world. Who were completely 100% innocent. Alive… Waiting to be born.

The night before the abortion, we were talking about alternatives. I cried. She cried. She was a loose Christian. She believed in God in a spiritual sense but didn’t believe in the God of the Bible. I put my hand on her hand and then on her stomach and prayed and said, “Dear Lord, Please guide us through this dark and confusing hour. Please point us in the direction that only you know is right… Dear Lord…” And then we felt the strongest kick. And then another… And another. I cried. She cried. “The Lord is speaking to us. He answered our prayers.” She said, “But I’ve already made the appointment.” And I said, “That appointment means nothing, God has spoken to us.” I felt it. She said she felt it too. For the first time in her life… She felt God speaking to her.

Later that night, we were talking about the future and future plans. She said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” I told her that nobody is. She said, “I’m scared.” I told her that every mother is scared. Although she wasn’t enrolled in college at the time, she wanted to go. I was enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program and was working toward my degree. She said, “But I want to finish college and do something with my life.” I told her that I would help with the baby and somehow we’d both finish college. “It might be harder. We may have to make some sacrifices but we’ll get through it.” She said that she was going to college and I could stay home and watch the baby. I was working for Lockheed Martin at the time and a condition of my employment was that I had to be enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program. So we disagreed on who was going to finish college first.

The fear and the anxiety and the uncertainty… led to a small disagreement that ended with us going to bed not talking. She faced one way. I faced the other.

That morning I got up and was getting ready to go to work. I thought everything was going to be fine. We made it through the storm. She came downstairs and said, “I’m going through with it.” “What?” She said, “I’ve made up my mind. I’m going through with it.” She asked me to drive her to the clinic.

I tried to reason with her. She wasn’t having it. I refused to take her. She called a cab. I thought to myself, “If I let her get in that cab, she’ll surely go through with it.” So I agreed to take her to Planned Parenthood in hopes of talking her out of it. She wasn’t having any of that. I tried to talk. She was silent. Not a word. I drove. She stared out the window. She was stubborn. She was a “modern woman”, nobody was going to tell her what to do… Not me… Not God… Nobody.

So we got to Planned Parenthood and I pulled into the parking lot and parked as close as I could to the protesters. She was unfazed. I walked with her through the small group of protesters. I took a pamphlet and tried to give it to her. She was determined. I said, “Look those are fingers. That’s a head. They were alive. Our babies are alive.” She was walking briskly… She pretended she didn’t hear me. We got to the security gate of Planned Parenthood and rang the doorbell. A woman came out and unlocked the gate and then locked it behind us. We went into the lobby of the building. I grabbed my girlfriends hand, “Don’t do this.” She tried to pull her hand back and said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” “Please, don’t do this. Reconsider” The lady who escorted us in told her the clinic was on the second floor. “Please, We can get through this. Don’t kill our babies.” She pulled her hand back, turned away from me and went up toward the clinic.

I was defeated. I left the clinic and got in my car and drove way too fast down the street. I ran a couple of red lights. I was so scared and angry and hurt and lost and all the emotions like a broken damn came flooding through me. I wanted to scream. I was helpless to protect my babies. I was completely unable to do a single thing to protect them. Where were my rights? Where were the rights of those two beautiful babies? What in the hell did rights have to do with murder? Nobody has the right to murder!!! All of these thoughts flooded my emotions like a freight train… with each box car a thought… And it was going 500 miles per hour through my head. And then…. like an explosion… A tragic horrific wreck… A screeching scraping explosion of thought…

Everything went high pitch… And then went silent….

The moment my children were murdered, a ripple, a shockwave went through my body. Though I wasn’t there… I felt it. I knew something terrible had just happened in that moment. She felt it too.

I turned around and drove as fast as I could back to that clinic. I parked my car in the middle of the road in front of the clinic, nearly on top of the protesters. I rang the doorbell by the gate. I rang it again… and again… Finally the same lady came out. She let me in… She said, “You can’t leave your car there, the police will have it towed.” “They can have it, please open the door, let me in.” She opened the door. I ran to the top of the stairs. Up to the clinic. I ran through the doors. I went up to the little window. I asked where my girlfriend was… “She’s in recovery.” My heart sank, “Can I see her?” “Let me check,” the nurse said. A few agonizingly long minutes later she returned and escorted me to the recovery room.

My girlfriend was crying. She said, “I was wrong. I felt them when they died. They pulled my heart out with our babies.” I cried. She cried. She said, “Oh God, what have I done? I feel horrible, empty… I feel barren… Like a dead flower” I cried. She cried. I stayed with her for a few minutes but needed some air. I went down and moved my illegally parked car. I parked away from the protesters in the parking lot. Then went back up. When they finally let her leave… We cried. We walked past the protesters. She could barely stand. She cried the whole way home. “Why didn’t I listen?” “What was I thinking?” And on and on and on… The emotional pain was unbearable.

RDF goes on to say that his girlfriend fell into a suicidal depression. She was soon going in and out of mental institutions. “It ruined her life,” he said.

When your rights… ruin your life… There is something wrong with the law.

He concludes:

It is a big deal. It is devastating to the mother. The little babies feel it. The mother feels it. The father feels it. It is murder.”

Sarah Terzo “A father’s heartbreaking story…and Planned Parenthood’s response to men like him” Live Action News July 16, 2013

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Abortion clinic worker encourages abortion for birth control

On the blog The Abortion Gang, an abortion worker says the following:

“Last week, I got into a conversation (as I often do) on access to abortion. The exchange was pleasant and informative, but in the course of the conversation the other party expressed she did not support free choice if “someone is using abortion as birth control.” In my experience (and other abortion ganger’s experiences as well), conversations about abortion often come to this same limit, or some version of ‘abortion is not an acceptable if’ statement.

And when the ‘if statements’ start flying I wonder: Why are we so afraid of liberating the use of abortion for whatever means an individual may choose? Why is it that when abortion comes up, some “moral limit” (within the legal limit) must be placed on the procedure? …Abortion, biologically is birth control, in every case, regardless of if contraception was used during sex or not.

Furthermore, safe, legal abortion is one of the most effective forms of birth control; in the US, abortion procedures only “fail” or need to be re-administered less than .5% of the time. … However, advocating that using abortion for birth control is totally 100% OK/kosher/great/moral usually terrifies people….if someone wants to use abortion as birth control, let him or her do so.”

Quoted in Sarah Terzo “Pro-abortion blog supports abortion as a method of birth control” Live Action News March 31, 2013

This abortion worker has no problem promoting abortion as just another method of birth control.

9-10 week preborn baby
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Abortion Clinic Escort says Woman who had 10 Abortions is “Empowered”

An abortion clinic escort, whose blog can be found here, wrote the following in a post on March 18, 2013:

“There are times a client and/or companion is so empowered they instantly gain my admiration.”

What is she so impressed by? She goes on to explain:

The companion [of the woman who was having an abortion] got out of the car first. E [the pro-lifer] was hovering right behind me ready to start shaming. I was able to explain the vests and offer to escort them before he began his spiel. E handed the companion some literature. When I explained he was a protester, they handed it right back to him.

The companion and I escorted the client down the sidewalk. We were in a line: E, companion, client and me. E started with “Women regret their abortions. Don’t lead her into this place.” The companion waved dismissively at him and said, “Oh, I know all about abortion. I have had 10 already.” There was a pause then E leaned over towards the client and said “You don’t have to go into that place.” The client turned to me and said, “I am not listening to him.” I replied that was best.

It was great to witness these two completely ignoring the words meant to hurt and shame them…I felt privileged to witness this calm confidence.”

Elsewhere in her blog, the clinic escort talks about sidewalk counselors offering to help the women with adoption or other alternatives. Pro-lifers often offer free help to pregnant women outside abortion clinics. To the escort, this is “shaming.”

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Post-abortive woman: “I want my son or daughter back”

An anonymous post-abortive woman writes:

“I was very, very confused. My feelings were so mixed. All along I was told it was the right thing to do, but then why was I feeling like it was so wrong and terrible? I hated myself so much. I wanted to scream. I wanted my son or daughter back but it was too late. The nurses wouldn’t talk to me. All they would say is “relax,” or “it’s okay, it’s all over now.”

Pam Koerbel Does Anyone Feel Like I Do? And Other Questions Women Ask Following an Abortion (New York: Doubleday, 1990) 3

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Pro-choice author admits that abortion statistics are “almost nonexistent” or “completely unavailable”

Pro-abortion author Johanna Schoen writes:

“If statistical information about women seeking abortion is almost nonexistent, statistical information about abortion providers is completely unavailable. We do not even know how many of them there are.

Only a fraction of physicians providing abortion care, for instance, are members of NAF [National Abortion Federation, an organization for abortionists], and its membership lists are, for security reasons, confidential.

Nor do we know what kind of abortion services abortion providers perform. Although there is aggregate data on the number of procedures performed across the country, for instance, there is no data that might tell us who performs these procedures – or where they are performed.

Proceedings of the annual meetings of NAF and information collected by the organization are confidential and cannot be disclosed outside the organization.

Sources about the two main participants in the abortion experience, then, are mainly anecdotal in nature, gleaned from correspondence, personal recollections and testimonies, and oral history interviews.”

Johanna Schoen Abortion after Roe (Chapel Hill, North Carolina: University Of North Carolina Press, 2015) 17 – 18

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Abortion linked to suicide in men, says counselor

Reporter Corrine Barraclough writes:

“We know male suicide rates are soaring.

Did you know male suicides and abortion-related mental illness are interrelated? Neither did I. It’s poorly understood by professionals too.”

Julie Cook, national director of ­Abortion Grief Australia says:

“Most suicide counsellors aren’t trained to identify abortion trauma. In fact, the vast majority aren’t even aware that it can be an issue for men. Most women have no concept that abortion can hurt men…

Male suicides can be both directly and indirectly related to abortion. One of the biggest predictors of male suicide is relationship breakdown. Unless work is done towards resolution, abortion trauma often ­destroys relationships.”

CORRINE BARRACLOUGH “Corrine Barraclough: Piecing together the pain of loss for men after abortion” The Daily Telegraph June 3, 2017

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Abortion clinics with health code violations related to cleanliness

American’s United for  Life found health inspection violations relating to unsanitary conditions such as the following:

  • Equipment exam rooms, pre/post operation rooms and patient seating areas had torn, broken or makeshift repairs, preventing the surfaces from being properly sanitized.
  • Staff wearing used scrubs over and over again;
  • Staff performing procedures and examinations, and/or handling dirty objects without washing hands;
  • Blood and bodily fluid stained and/or splattered on floor, wall, lights and other equipment;
  • Medicine, blood testing, and fetal remains kept in the same refrigerators as food;
  • Autoclaves (sterilizers) that were not being properly monitored, not used to manufacturers’ standards, and/or not working;
  • Soiled and clean equipment stored in the same room;
  • Contaminated syringe containers being stored incorrectly;
  • Improper water temperatures for laundry and sterilization;
  • Single-use vials being used multiple times and on different patients;
  • Vaginal probes, surfaces, and other equipment not being disinfected between uses;
  • Infectious waste not being stored or disposed of properly

These violations were found in the following clinics:

ALABAMA

Alabama Women’s Center for Reproductive Alternatives

Beacon Women’s Center, Montgomery

New Woman All Women Health Care

Planned Parenthood of Alabama, Birmingham

Planned Parenthood of Alabama, Mobile

Reproductive Health Services, Montgomery

West Alabama Women’s Center

ARIZONA

Camelback Family Planning, Phoenix

Desert Star Family Planning, Phoenix

Family Planning Associates Medical Group, Phoenix

Planned Parenthood – Flagstaff

Planned Parenthood – Glendale

ARKANSAS

Little Rock Family Planning Services

CONNECTICUT

Hartford GYN Center

Planned Parenthood of Connecticut Inc– Norwich

Planned Parenthood of Connecticut Inc– Stamford

Planned Parenthood of Southern New England – West Hartford

DELAWARE

Planned Parenthood of Delaware

DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA

Washington Surgery Center

FLORIDA

A Jacksonville Women’s Health Center

A Medical Office for Women, North Miami Beach

A Woman’s World Medical Center

A-1 Women’s Health Care, Inc., Miami

All Women’s Clinic, Fort Lauderdale

All Women’s Health Center of North Tampa

All Women’s Health Center of Orlando, Altamonte Springs

All Women’s Health Center, Saint Petersburg

Blue Coral Women’s Care

Florida Women’s Center, Inc.

Planned Parenthood of Greater Orlando, Inc., South Tampa

Planned Parenthood of Southwest and Central Florida

Southwest Florida Women’s Clinic, Fort Myers

Today’s Women Medical Center

GEORGIA

Atlanta Women’s Clinic

Atlanta Women’s Medical Center

Cliff Valley Clinic

Savannah Medical Clinic

Summit Medical Associates

ILLINOIS

Access Health Care Center

ACU Health Center

Advantage Health Care

Hope Clinic for Women

Michigan Avenue Medical Center

Northern Illinois Women’s Center

Whole Woman’s Health of Peoria

Women’s Aid Clinic (Now operating as Women’s Aid Center)

INDIANA

Clinic for Women

Planned Parenthood of Indiana and Kentucky, Bloomington

Potomac Family Planning Center

Prince George’s Reproductive Health Services

Silver Spring Family Planning (American Women’s Center)

Whole Woman’s Health of Baltimore

MASSACHUSETTS

Planned Parenthood/Preterm Health Services, Greater Boston (Boston)

Planned Parenthood/Preterm Health Services, Greater Boston (Fitchburg)

Planned Parenthood/Preterm Health Services, Greater Boston (Springfield)

Planned Parenthood/Preterm Health Services, Greater Boston (Worcester)

MICHIGAN

Heritage Clinic for Women

Northland Family Planning Centers

Planned Parenthood of Mid-Michigan, Ann Arbor

Planned Parenthood of Mid and South Michigan, Flint

Scotsdale Women’s Center

Summit Women’s Center

Woman Care of Southfield

Women’s Center of Flint

Women’s Center of Saginaw

Women’s Center of Southfield

Women’s Medical Services, Muskegon

MISSISSIPPI

Jackson Women’s Health Organization

MISSOURI

Comprehensive Planned Parenthood

Reproductive Health Services of Planned Parenthood, Springfield

Reproductive Health Services of Planned Parenthood, St. Louis

NEVADA

All Women Care

Birth Control Care Center

Safe and Sound for Women

NEW JERSEY

Cherry Hill Women’s Center

Metropolitan Surgical Associates

Pilgrim Medical Center

NEW MEXICO

Southwestern Women’s Options

NEW YORK

Unnamed (Redacted) (Redacted) New York Abortion Clinic

NORTH CAROLINA

A Preferred Women’s Health Center, Charlotte

A Preferred Women’s Health Center, Raleigh

A Woman’s Choice of Greensboro

A Woman’s Choice of Raleigh

Baker Clinic for Women

Carolina Women’s Clinic

Hallmark Women’s Clinic

Planned Parenthood South Atlantic of Central North, Chapel Hill

Planned Parenthood of Winston-Salem

Women’s Health Alliance/Chapel Hill Obstetrics and Gynecology

OHIO

Akron Women’s Medical Group

Capital Care Network

East Health Central Ohio (Planned Parenthood)

Founder’s Women’s Health Center

Northeast Ohio Women’s Center

Planned Parenthood, Bedford Heights

Planned Parenthood East Health Center

Planned Parenthood Southwest Ohio Regional

OREGON

Lovejoy Surgicenter

PENNSYLVANIA

Allegheny Reproductive Health Center

Allentown Health Center (Planned Parenthood)

Allentown Medical Services

Allentown Women’s Center

Berger and Benjamin

Drexel OB/GYN Associates, Philadelphia

Hillcrest Women’s Medical Center

Philadelphia Women’s Center

Planned Parenthood of Central Pennsylvania, York

Planned Parenthood of Keystone, Allentown

Planned Parenthood of Keystone, Harrisburg

Planned Parenthood of Keystone, Reading

Planned Parenthood of Keystone, Warminster

Planned Parenthood of Keystone, York

Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pennsylvania, Far Northeast Health Center

Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pennsylvania, Locust Street Health Center

Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pennsylvania, Norristown

Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Pennsylvania, West Chester Health Center

Planned Parenthood of Western Pennsylvania

Planned Parenthood – Warminster

Medical Center

Women’s Medical Society

SOUTH CAROLINA

Charleston Women’s Medical Center

Columbia Health Center (Planned Parenthood)

Greenville Women’s Clinic

SOUTH DAKOTA

Planned Parenthood Sioux Falls

TENNESSEE

Knoxville Center for Reproductive Health

Memphis Center for Reproductive Health

Planned Parenthood Memphis

TEXAS

Aaron’s Women’s Center

Alamo Women’s Reproductive Services Clinic, San Antonio

Hilltop Women’s Reproductive Clinic

Houston Women’s Clinic

Planned Parenthood Babcock Sexual Healthcare, San Antonio

Planned Parenthood Center for Choice Stafford

Planned Parenthood of Greater Texas El Paso

Planned Parenthood Gulf Coast (Aaron Women’s Clinic (“Aaron”)

Texas Ambulatory Surgery Center

Women’s Pavilion and Northpark Medical Group

Reproductive Services El Paso

Reproductive Services San Antonio

Suburban Women’s Clinic Houston

Whole Woman’s Health, Austin, Beaumont, Fort Worth, and McAllen

Whole Woman’s Health Austin

Whole Woman’s Health Fort Worth

Whole Woman’s Health, San Antonio

UTAH

Wasatch Women’s Center Inc.

VIRGINIA

A Capitol Women’s Health Clinic

A Tidewater Women’s Health Clinic

Alexandria Women’s Health Clinic

Amethyst Health Center for Women

Annandale Women and Family Center

Charlottesville Medical Center for Women

Charlottesville Planned Parenthood

Falls Church Healthcare Center

Hillcrest Clinic

NOVA Women’s Healthcare

Peninsula Medical Center for Women

Planned Parenthood, Blacksburg

Planned Parenthood of Metropolitan Washington, Falls Church

Planned Parenthood, Roanoke

Planned Parenthood of Southeastern Virginia

Richmond Medical Center for Women

Roanoke Medical Center for Women

Virginia Health Group

Virginia League for Planned Parenthood

Virginia Women’s Wellness

Whole Woman’s Health of Charlottesville

WASHINGTON

Planned Parenthood of Greater Washington and Northern Idaho

WISCONSIN

Planned Parenthood of Wisconsin

Catherine Glenn Foster, Steven H. Aden, ed. UNSAFE: America’s Abortion Industry Endangers Women (Americans United for Life, 2021)

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Woman hospitalized for six days after botched abortion at Planned Parenthood

Pro-life author and researcher Kevin Sherlock documented the following:

Stephanie M charged Aleksander Jakubowski with botching an abortion he performed on her at Planned Parenthood in Merrillville, Indiana in 1984. He perforated her uterus. She had to be taken by ambulance from Planned Parenthood to a hospital. At the hospital, she had to undergo corrective surgery. She spent six days in the hospital recovering from her injuries. Planned Parenthood abortionist Clarence Boone performed the corrective surgery.

“Stephanie, in deposition, said she was one of 35 or so women and girls packed into the Planned Parenthood facility that day. She also said Jakubowski, while performing her abortion, “stopped everything,” and said, “it’s all your fault.” When the nurse asked Jakubowski what happened, Stephanie said, Jakubowski replied, “I perforated her uterus.” Stephanie said, “He [Jakubowski] ran out of the room, and I never saw him again.” She said nurses and other staffers came into the room and summoned an ambulance for her. In the excitement, Stephanie said, one Planned Parenthood nurse tried to insert an IV needle in her arm but couldn’t do it properly.

Even though Boone wanted her to come back for follow-up treatment [to Planned Parenthood] after her hospital stay, Stephanie said, she sought medical help elsewhere because she “didn’t want nothing to do with Planned Parenthood after that.” Jakubowski and Planned Parenthood evidently reached an out-of-court settlement with Stephanie in 1986.”

Source: Case No C85–1248, originally filed in Lake County Circuit Court in Crown Point, was venued to Porter County Superior Court and received the number 85 –PSC– 1237

Kevin Sherlock The Scarlet Survey (Akron, Ohio, Brennyman Books, 1997) 11

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Pro-choice activist: women abort because they “take lives sacredly”

One pro-choice activist wrote:

“There is nothing moral about giving birth to children we cannot feed and care for … It is precisely because women take lives sacredly – our own as well as our children’s – that some of us choose not to bring into the world those we cannot take care of.”

Quoted in:

Rosalind Pollack Petchesky Abortion and Women’s Choice: The State, Sexuality, and Reproductive Freedom (New York: Longman, 1984) 376

Aborted at 10 weeks. Is this “taking lives sacredly?”
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Pro-choice researcher: contraception increased the need for abortion

Pro-choice author and researcher Rosalind Pollack Petchesky writes:

“As I argued initially, the “contraceptive revolution,” especially the pill, has increased rather than decreased women’s need for access to abortion.

This is true because of two interacting developments: the widespread availability of the pill and legal abortion, reinforcing women’s awareness of fertility control as their right; and a newer political consciousness that refuses to accept risk to reproductive health as fate’s decree.

The current status of contraceptive techniques underlines more than ever that as long as it remains possible for a woman to become pregnant without wanting to be, abortion will be a necessity and its denial a punishment of women – for having sex.”

Rosalind Pollack Petchesky Abortion and Women’s Choice: The State, Sexuality, and Reproductive Freedom (New York: Longman, 1984) 190

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