Post-Abortion woman says abortion is an “agonizing choice”

Victoria, who had an abortion, says:

“Abortion is not the quick, easy solution as some have been made to believe. It is an agonizing, life–altering choice that we, post-abortive women, are forced to live with for the rest of our lives. The cost that I paid and will pay for my decision to abort was a greater price than I would’ve ever paid had I given birth to my child. I don’t argue that it would’ve been extremely difficult to be a single mother of three small children. But, there were other options. Even adoption would’ve been a better choice…

I would give anything to know that I had a child who was alive and that someday would search for me, her biological mother. But that day will never come for me because my child is gone. I never gave my child a chance to search for me. My child will never ring my phone or knock on my door. Abortion was too permanent a solution. You can never take it back. If I knew then what I know now, abortion would have never been a part of my life.”

Victoria Koloff They Lied to Us (Worldcomm: 2011) 15

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Mother of twins conceived in rape: “I love them with all my heart”

Andrea Villegas, mother of twins conceived during rape:

“My story is a bit sad. I was drugged and raped almost two years ago, and a few days later I realized that I was pregnant. It was very traumatizing, but I decided to get ahead with my baby who was not to blame for anything (so I didn’t know there were two). Three months later, after an ultrasound, the doctor told me: there are two, so I felt that the world was coming over me once more. I didn’t know how I was going to do from that moment and once again, I gathered up courage and thought that God had a very important purpose for me and my children. I have lived the most wonderful moments next to these little ones who have already turned one year old. I do not regret anything. It wasn’t the prettiest way they came into my life, but here they are always inspiring me to get ahead and to not give up, just for them. Sara and Ezequiel are the most wonderful thing that has come to my life and I love them with all my heart.”

Andrea Villegas, mother of twins after a rape, from Spanish division of Save the 1, Salvar El 1.

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Post-Abortion woman: I wanted my son or daughter back

One post-abortive woman says:

“I was very, very confused. My feelings were so mixed. All along I was told it was the right thing to do, but then why was I feeling like it was so wrong and terrible? I hated myself so much. I wanted to scream. I wanted my son or daughter back but it was too late. The nurses wouldn’t talk to me. All they would say is “relax,” or “it’s okay, it’s all over now.”

Quoted in Pam Koerbel Does Anyone Feel Like I Do? And Other Questions Women Ask Following an Abortion (New York: Doubleday, 1990)

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Abortions by pill more painful than surgical abortions

Studies found:

“More pain was reported with medical abortion both during the abortion and during the follow up period. (Jensen found 77.1% of medical abortion patients reported pain vs. 10.5% of surgical abortion patients.)”

Winikoff B, Sivin I, Coyaji KJ, et al. Safety, efficacy, and acceptability of medical abortion in China, Cuba, and India: a comparative trial of mifepristone and misoprostol versus surgical abortion. Am J Obstet Gynecol 1997;176:431-7.

Cabezas E. Medical versus surgical abortion. Internat J Gynaecol & Obstet. 1998;63 Supp. 1, S141-6.

Elul B, Ellertson C, Winikoff B, Coyaji K. Side effects of mifepristone-misoprostol abortion versus surgical abortion. Data from a trial in China, Cuba, and India. Contraception 1999;59(2):107-14.

The FDA and RU-486: lowering the standard for women’s health. Staff report prepared for the Hon. Mark Souder, Chariman, Subcommitte on Criminal Justice, Drug Policy and Human Resouces, October 2006.

Medical Officer’s Review of Amendments 024 and 033“, Final Reports for the U.S. Clinical Trials Inducing Abortion up to 63 Days Gestational Age and Complete Responses Regarding Distribution System and Phase 4 Commitments, Finalized November 22, 1999

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Former abortion worker: Abortionists didn’t give proper amount of sedation

Former abortion worker Annette Lancaster says:

“Physicians often talked badly about patients while performing procedures on them. Sometimes physicians would not use the proper amount of sedation. They would tell the patient they were providing them with certain medications, but they were out, so the patient didn’t get it.”

Nicole Russell “Women Hurting After Working For Planned Parenthood Turn Here For Help” The Federalist JANUARY 30, 2018

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Sarah Weddington did not expect pro-life opposition

In her memoir, Sarah Weddington writes that she did not expect the pro-life movement to emerge and fight abortion, and that the abortion issue was settled after Roe v. Wade:

“Initially I joined others in thinking that the basic question had been settled: abortion was and would continue to be legal. In a few years, I thought, the decision would be accepted, abortion would become a part of routine medical practice, and the opposition would go away. Until that time, we just needed to protect what we had won.”

Sarah Weddington A Question of Choice (New York: The Feminist Press, 2013 ed.) 195

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Feminist: There is “tremendous loneliness” in “right to choose”

Frederica Mathewes-Green wrote:

“There is tremendous sadness, loneliness, in the cry, “A woman’s right to choose.” No one wants an abortion as she wants an ice-cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion as an animal, caught in a trap, wants to gnaw off its own leg. Abortion is a tragic attempt to escape a desperate situation by an act of violence and self-loss.”

Writer Frederica Mathewes-Green, “Unplanned Parenthood,” Policy Review, Summer 1991, 28-36.

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Woman watches her abortion on ultrasound

Kori, 26, who was having her third abortion, asked to watch the procedure on the ultrasound monitor:

“It was O.K. to watch. Once you had your mind made up to do it, you just suck it up and go with it.”

JOHN LELAND “Under Din of Abortion Debate, an Experience Shared Quietly” New York Times SEPT. 18, 2005

 

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Planned Parenthood fights ultrasound- except when it’s for sex-selection abortion

Planned Parenthood opposes laws that would allow a woman the chance to see her baby on the ultrasound screen before an abortion. According to Planned Parenthood’s website:

“While the ultrasound bill was amended in Virginia, it is still an appalling and offensive government overreach that is designed to shame women who are seeking legal health care. Governor McDonnell clearly has a political agenda to restrict women’s access to health care, and the ultrasound law is just the latest example of his extreme agenda,” said Cecile Richards, president of Planned Parenthood Federation of America. “The bottom line is that Governor McDonnell is looking to further his own political ambitions at the risk of hurting women’s health in Virginia. The country has stood up and is taking notice.”

“Planned Parenthood Federation of America Strongly Condemns Virginia Governor Bob McDonnell Signing Mandatory Ultrasound Bill” Planned Parenthood Website

And yet, when commenting on the morality of using ultrasound pictures to determine whether an unborn baby is a girl in order to abort based on her gender, Planned Parenthood’s director of community relations in Lancaster County, PA said:

“The information about a woman’s pregnancy has to be made available to her. We can’t legislate what a man or a woman will do with medical information. Physicians with problems with the way a patient will use information they give them should let the patient know so they can go elsewhere.”

Christopher Farley “The Debate Over Uses of Prenatal Testing” USA Today Feb 2, 1989 1D

Planned Parenthood opposes women’s access to ultrasound technology if it means that they may be dissuaded from abortion, but supports the use of ultrasound technology if its purpose is to determine whether a baby should be aborted. This blatant pro-abortion bias truly shows where Planned Parenthood’s priorities lie.

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Woman pressured into aborting baby with down syndrome has regrets

Marie Ideson was 16 weeks pregnant when she found out her baby had Down syndrome. Ideson originally wanted to keep her baby. She recounts hearing the news:

A woman said, “I’m sorry to say your baby has Down.” It was devastating. My first thought was, how will we cope?

I told Allan [her husband] I wanted to keep the baby and he agreed.

But Ideson was about to experience intense pressure to abort. She had hoped that the doctor she was seeing would support the decision to keep the baby. Instead:

… doctors said she could be born needing emergency heart surgery and have bowel and muscle tone problems – and that was if she survived. At no time did anyone suggest we might keep our baby. A termination was presented as the only way forward.

A nurse said not aborting my baby would cause it to suffer, and she’d only become a burden on society if I went ahead. She even said, “99 per cent of women in your situation wouldn’t want the baby.” Having it would be a burden on our other children, too, she said, especially if it was likely to need many operations throughout its life.

Our children were at the hospital with us. I looked at them and thought the medical staff must be right.

She gave in to pressure to abort. She swallowed the tablet that would kill her child:

I felt numb as I swallowed the tablet. I remember saying to Allan, “I just want to keep my baby.” But he just kept saying, “But they must think the baby’s really bad, Marie – it’s for the best.”

It wasn’t until Ideson delivered her stillborn baby girl that she was faced with the horror of what she had done:

She was so small, but otherwise perfect. I started sobbing uncontrollably. What had I done? I realized I’d been bullied into taking that first pill. I felt overwhelmed by anger. I should’ve been sent home to think about all the options. It should’ve been pointed out that having my baby was an option and that, with medical advances, most Down babies go on to live happy lives.

Ideson named her child Lillie and mourned deeply for her. She said:

I was bullied into going ahead with an abortion…I only wish I could turn back the clock. I think of the daughter I never had every day. I’ll always regret it.

Ideson came to resent her husband for encouraging her to abort, and the abortion eventually tore apart their marriage.

I knew he was devastated, too, but I was angry he’d allowed staff to rush me into getting rid of her. The feeling he didn’t support me when I needed him most festered between us.

The final straw came when I was in labor with Reuben [her next baby]. We were at home and the midwives wanted me to go to the hospital, but I told them I couldn’t go back to where I’d terminated Lillie. Allan tried to persuade me to go and, in the end, I had no choice. I felt, again, Allan hadn’t spoken up for me when I was at my most vulnerable. I couldn’t find it in my heart to forgive him.

The marriage did not survive. Ideson says:

My eldest sons are 25 now. When I was pregnant with them, I knew of women who had babies with Down syndrome. Today, I never see mums with Down babies. I can’t believe that everyone who finds out their baby has Down syndrome willingly chooses to abort it. I can’t help feeling that other women must be having abortions they don’t want.

Alison Squire Smith “I was bullied into aborting my baby'” Herald Sun December 4, 2011

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