In the book Women against Abortion author Karissa Haugeberg writes:
“A Fargo – Morehead antiabortion group reported in 1987 that the area CPC’s had facilitated 27 adoptions or foster care placements, fielded over 600 phone calls, administered over 360 pregnancy tests, and persuaded over 100 “girls” to carry their pregnancies to term over the previous year.”
Brochure “Caring” from Help and Caring Ministries, Fargo, North Dakota, December 1988 cited in Karissa Haugeberg Women against Abortion (Chicago, Illinois: University Of Illinois Press, 2017) 48
“Antiabortion activist Robyn Robertson reported that sidewalk counselors who picketed in front of Fargo’s abortion clinic persuaded 76 women to continue their pregnancies just in the first eight months of 1984.”
This was revealed in Robyn Robertson, letter to the editor, Forum, August 8, 1984
Karissa Haugeberg Women against Abortion (Chicago, Illinois: University Of Illinois Press, 2017)
A woman who wanted to have an abortion but changed her mind at the last minute didn’t think she could love her baby. She was unhappy about being pregnant. However, after her baby was born, her feelings changed. She says:
“I was definitely NOT happy about being pregnant. I didn’t want to be anyone’s mom. I went home feeling trapped. I knew I couldn’t go through with an abortion, but I did NOT want a baby. …I sometimes wished that I would die, get hit by a car. Anything to be out of this situation. This was truly the worst thing that could have ever happened to me… or, so I thought……
I worried a lot during the course of my pregnancy that I would not love my child because I did not want her. I agonized over what kind of mother I would be. …
Finally, the big day arrived. I went into labor and accompanied by my mom and boyfriend, checked into the hospital. Seeing our baby girl, Taylor, for the first time melted our hearts. Oh, the joy, the love, welled up inside of us both. She was a perfect, easy baby and we were absolutely crazy in love with her. All of my fears and reservations melted away the minute I laid eyes on her. Twenty years later, I can still say she was the beginning of everything good in my life. Her arrival ushered in an era of blessings that continues to this day. She is a treasure. How wrong I was to think she was anything but a precious gift.
When she was three months old, her dad and I got married. We have been married for 20 years and have three other children, ages 17, 11, and 7. They are each a treasure and a blessing in their own right, none of whom would exist had I ended my first pregnancy. Words will always fail to express the true depth of my gratitude that my inner voice would not be silenced that day in the abortion facility…..
I can’t think of a single woman who regrets having her child, but there is NO shortage of women who regret their abortions. There is always a better option than abortion. It is NEVER the answer.”
The following story about a man who demanded his partner abort his baby appeared in Make Me Your Choice by Cheryl Chew:
“When I shared the news [of the pregnancy] with Ray that evening, he couldn’t believe my words. His first reaction and remark was: “What! That doctor is stupid. He doesn’t know what he’s talking about. He can’t be right. Possibly the pregnancy kit could be wrong. Von, go to another doctor and get a second opinion.”
My man was very angry and emotionally upset. Ray didn’t think he was ready for a child, and he said, “What are you gonna do about it? Are you going to get rid of it?”
I told him, “If anyone has to go, it has to be you!” At that time I had been with Ray for 17 years.
He grew very quiet and finally responded, “Von, if you want this baby, then you will have to be 100% responsible for it!” He was 50 years old at the time, and he felt he was too old to have children…
Five weeks before the baby was born, we hired a nanny…. The day when Avalon was born, Ray held her in his large arms. As she put her tiny, precious head upon his neck, he fell instantly in love with her.
Three days after our return home from the hospital, Ray fired the nanny and took over the complete care of our baby while I went back to work in my salon for weeks later!
Avalon is a true miracle. She has added so much joy and love to our lives. We give her 1000 kisses a day, and thank God daily for her. When Avalon was a year old, I mentioned to Ray, “Just picture life without Avalon. If I had been a weak person and let you coerce me into having an abortion, we wouldn’t have Avalon now.”
Ray replied, “I don’t even want to think about it!” Tears rolled down his face as he envisioned what life would’ve been like without Avalon if I had given in to him.”
Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 90-91
How many men who tell their partners to abort would come around after the baby was born?
A 17 year old whose boyfriend broke up with her when she got pregnant decided on abortion. She explains what happened the first time she went to an abortion clinic:
“The abortion clinic employee informed me that I would go to a consultation appointment first. Then, 24 hours later, the actual abortion would be performed… They called me back, and the doctor gave me an exam and ultrasound. The screen was turned away from my eyes, so I didn’t have a chance to see my baby. I saw him listen to my baby with the fetal Doppler, but he wore headphones, so I didn’t get a chance to hear the heartbeat, either. But even without hearing or seeing the baby, my heart still ached…
After the exam, I went to the front desk to schedule the actual procedure, but because they were so booked, I would have to wait another week… Every day I could feel this thing inside me was actually growing, but I stood firm in my abortion plans.
On the day before my procedure… I received a phone call from the abortion clinic. They would not be able to perform my abortion. A law had just passed in the House of Representatives, and it shut down all but four abortion clinics in Texas.…
I was still determined to end the life of my baby. I made an appointment at one of the four abortion clinics left in Texas, two hours away. ….
I woke up the morning of my appointment with butterflies in my stomach. But these butterflies weren’t from nervousness. No. They were the flutter of little feet kicking against my tummy. I knew in my heart that this was not a mass of cells… However, I got dressed and made my way to the appointment… They gave me another exam and limited the view of the ultrasound just like before.…
They informed me that I had a urinary tract infection and I would have to wait another week while I took antibiotics…So yet again, I scheduled my appointment for another week later…
That evening, I received a call from my mom. She asked if I would be willing to go get another ultrasound at a local pregnancy center. I was strongly against this, as I knew going someplace like that would make the decision much harder. John [her boyfriend, who wanted the abortion] told me not to go. However, I felt that in order to make my mother happy, I must at least just check this place out, because I already knew I was 100% set on having the abortion… I wasn’t all too excited to sit and be judged by a room full of people telling me how wrong it was to get this abortion.
When I walked in, all I saw was smiling faces. I signed in, and they took me into a back room and began to talk with me. My counselor was smiling and understanding, and she was listening to the words I was saying… They offered to give me an ultrasound, and not thinking that I would be able to identify or see anything – just like at the abortion clinic – I agreed…
That’s when I saw it. I saw a head with a brain. I saw little arms followed by 10 little fingers. I saw tiny legs with two tiny feet moving and kicking around. But most of all, I saw and heard a beating heart. I lay there watching my daughter’s steady beating heart, and I knew that baby was my baby. Tears flooded my eyes. I loved that fluttering heartbeat inside me. I loved this baby, and I knew she deserved life. At that moment, I chose life for my daughter, and I believe by doing so, I chose life for myself.”
Mike G Williams Thank You for Saving My Life (2016) 120 – 125
Vicky went to Planned Parenthood for a medical abortion (by pill), but while she was in the waiting room, she had second thoughts. She thought she might come back, but she went outside and saw sidewalk counselor who encouraged her to have a free ultrasound at a pregnancy center nearby. She says:
“After hearing my baby’s heartbeat, I just kept thinking, what if I hadn’t heard it? If I had continued where I was, I most likely would not have heard it. I changed my mind when I heard that heartbeat, but my counselors made me feel like I was supposed to have this baby and that I could do it.”
Mike G Williams Thank You for Saving My Life (2016) 92
Suzan, a British woman, told her story. She was pregnant and already had three children. She didn” think she could cope with another, and she scheduled an abortion. But she met pro-lifers on the way in:
“When I got there [pro-life protesters from the group Abort 67 ] gave me information about abortions…
They had some leaflets about abortions and they started talking to me. They had pictures of a foetus at eight weeks and they had pictures of aborted babies…..
I was really scared. I told them I had three kids already and I didn’t need this baby but they told me I didn’t have to go through with the termination…..
They took me to a coffee shop, they bought me tea and I said I would go home and try to think about it.
I tried not to listen to them, but they were praying for me and I was crying and shaking.
The way they talked to me gave me faith and their encouragement [and] made me decide to keep the baby.
I promised them I’d go to the doctor in a few days. They promised to come with me.
They kept in touch and came to my home to encourage me. They kept checking I was ok. That kept me going.
Now I thank God I didn’t pass through that process. At eight weeks you can really see the leg is already formed, the head, the face.
Then when I finally saw my daughter, I thought, ‘How could I have wanted to terminate this baby?’
She has given me joy and peace in my family. She has made me and my partner stronger.
The campaigners have also helped me by providing clothes for the baby.
They don’t pressure you outside the clinics if you don’t want to listen. They’re just giving their opinion.
They should be allowed to do it because some people will change their minds. If I didn’t listen to them, I would have regretted it all my life….
I want people to have the happiness and peace that I have.
My daughter Miracle is now eight months and two weeks old. She’s standing, walking around the table on her own. She’s really growing fast…. I thank God I didn’t do it.”
A 21-year-old woman became pregnant, and her husband’s health problems made her arrange an abortion.
“Three years ago, my boyfriend, Darren, was diagnosed with testicular cancer. While radiation treatment saved his life, he was told it might cause serious problems in his reproductive future. He was warned that his future children might be born with deformities and the mother of his children might be harmed by the pregnancy.
It was heartbreaking to be so paralyzed by fear over something my boyfriend and I would otherwise be excited for. Everyone around me was saying abortion was my only option, so I scheduled an appointment.
When we arrived at the clinic, Darren and I couldn’t help but notice a large bus parked in the parking lot. It advertised free ultrasounds and pregnancy tests. I was curious and knew I would need an ultrasound before I had an abortion, so we poked our heads in.
The Stork Bus was parked outside the clinic. It was staffed by pro-lifers hoping to save children whose mothers had scheduled them for abortion.
We explained our situation to the nurse in the bus. She listened to our fears and concerns with deep sympathy.
I laid back on a reclining leather chair, where the nurse gave me my ultrasound. We had no idea that I was already 18 weeks along. It was moving around and waving its hands! The nurse said the baby looked totally healthy. Darren and I both started to cry.
We are so thankful that we chose to get an ultrasound in the Stork Bus. If we hadn’t, we might have never learned that our baby was actually completely healthy. We realized that we could not let the difficulties in our pasts define our future. We can’t wait to be a healthy family of three in a little over a month!”
From the Priests for Life website, which has graphic pictures of aborted babies:
“I am 11 wks pregnant and considered having an abortion. I’ve always been very religious but this was a consideration of mine until now. I can be told how and what the procedure does but never did I really know what it looked like and the aftermath of the child until now. It was very disturbing to see but unfortunately true. I am ashamed to have always been pro-life and considered doing this. I ask GOD to forgive me personally but will say that there was a reason I found this website and it literally changed my heart as well as my mind. I would like to advise to young girls, women that this is not the only option. Every child deserves to be born and live. They are human just like us. We choose as human beings to make love, but God chooses when we create life.”
From the Priests for Life website, which has graphic pictures of aborted babies:
I was truly considering abortion … I have never seen pictures or been told anything of abortion before I stumbled upon your website. I have several friends that have done it and another that was also considering it with me! After seeing this stuff I will never get an abortion! I had no idea it was that horrific and I can’t wait to show my friend (who is considering an abortion) these pictures and I am definitely having her come to this website. I have realized even if I doubt my ability to take care of this child financially, abortion is not the way to go. I must work hard and take care of it the best way I can… Thank you for taking the time to research this because you are truly touching lives!