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Teenage birth mother is grateful to CPC

From a teenager who became pregnant unexpectedly and went to a crisis pregnancy center:

“The first time I stepped through the doors of the pregnancy center, I was 15 years old… And I was pregnant. I denied it until I couldn’t deny it any longer and I was already three months along when I finally told my parents.

“We’re going to go away for the weekend. Get it taken care of and no one will ever know,” they said.

By God’s grace, we were somehow sitting in a counselor’s office the next morning. She took time to speak with me alone – without the pressure of my parents. “I know that abortion isn’t the right choice for me.… Life is life no matter how it came about,” I told her…

During my pregnancy, I felt shunned. My classmates didn’t understand and friends didn’t know how to support me. I lost friends because of my choice to carry my child to term… I wasn’t allowed to visit my parents’ public workplaces. They were too embarrassed… We also stopped attending church, as my parents were afraid of feeling shame and being looked down upon…

The pregnancy center staff gave me the emotional support I wasn’t getting anywhere else. For me, the pregnancy center was a safe place. They gave me the power to voice my concerns, questions, and emotions. They treated me with respect and gave me open and honest feedback. At the pregnancy center, I shed tears of sorrow and then tears of joy as I proudly showed off the pictures of my son.…

My heart broke on the day my son left the hospital in someone else’s arms. But while there was pain and sadness, there was never regret. I never regretted that I gave my son life – a better life, the best life I could.”

Mike G Williams “Thank You for Saving My Life” (2016) 32 – 35

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Young mother grateful to crisis pregnancy center

The teenage daughter of a pastor found out that she was pregnant. She was afraid that if others discovered her pregnancy it would reflect badly on her parents. Therefore, she considered abortion. When she became pregnant she wondered:

“What are my parents going to do? My father might lose his job. Maybe we’ll have to move. Maybe I will have to graduate at another high school…

All these emotions ran through my head. I didn’t dare talk with anyone about it… So I did what anyone in my shoes would do. I went online.

You can find anything online… I searched “abortions” and found a website that looked like an abortion provider… offering preabortion counseling and free ultrasound testing…

Before I knew it, I was on a table and looking at an ultrasound. And it was a baby. There was no doubt. There were tiny hands and feet… And a beating heart.

12 week 3-D sonogram

“I don’t really want an abortion. I just can’t end my parents’ lives and careers because of my mistake,” I sobbed to the lady in the seafoam green scrubs.

She took me by the hand and said, “You have a dilemma. Because now you have to decide why you can choose to end the life of this innocent child because of one mistake.”

I never saw that coming. I thought they were an abortion provider. I was wrong. They were not. Through some really creative advertising, they were able to draw me in without ever saying that they did or didn’t do abortions.

The ultrasound technician was a lifesaver. My tears were quickly displaced by loving women who gathered around me to pray for me and pray with me. The nurse was right, I could not choose to end the life of an innocent child…

It wasn’t easy. There were many tears. My mother and father suffered great turmoil… Life, however, has returned to normal with the exception that there is a baby back in the household. Justin and I are still in a relationship… And we plan to get married…

I want to say thank you. It was your center that had that crazy website that brought me in, that rescued me, and that saved me from my own fears. Most of all, you helped save little Emily Joy. You are my heroes. You stood up and helped me make the right choice… thank you, thank you, thank you.”

Mike G Williams “Thank You for Saving My Life” (2016) 20 – 24

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Man writes letter about his post-abortion trauma

Graeme lost a child to abortion. He was encouraged to write a letter by his therapist to his therapist. He explains how his relationship fell apart after she aborted his child against his will:

“I cannot say that you helped me much because there is not much anyone can do to help me and how I feel about my girlfriend’s decision to abort our baby. I don’t think there is anyone who can console me…

NOT all of us men want our babies aborted. I didn’t. I offered everything under the sun for my girlfriend to have our baby, but she didn’t. She kept saying she wasn’t sure she wanted to be a mother. Her mother wanted her to abort. Her friends thought she should abort, and I am sure even the milkman had a say in her decision, EXCEPT ME the father. I was the only one who wasn’t listened to.

Well she went through with it. She took our 13 week baby (I was sure it was a boy) and she had him killed and for this I will never forgive her. In fact I never want to see her again…

Picture of baby at 13 weeks, just like Graeme’s child

The morning she went to the abortion I got blind drunk; I just didn’t want to be thinking while it was happening. I didn’t want to be conscious.

The worst part of the whole damn situation was the fact that I could do nothing to protect my son. He needed me and I couldn’t do anything to stop what was going to happen to him. I don’t think I want to have any children in the future because maybe I won’t be able to help them when they need me, as I wasn’t able to help John…

It didn’t have to happen because we could have managed. We could have got married and had our own family. We wouldn’t have been rich, but we could’ve had our family and slowly things would’ve got better…

I certainly have none of the feelings that I had for her before this. I had seen us together for life. Not anymore.…

She willingly took our baby to be killed. I don’t want to be involved with this kind of person and certainly wouldn’t trust her with any of my children again.”

Anne R Lastman Redeeming Grief: Abortion and Its Pain (Balwyn, Vic: Australia: Gracewing, 2013) 83-84

Graeme is just one of many post-abortion fathers who are hurt by abortion.

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Grandmother is grateful she didn’t abort her daughter

A woman, now a grandmother, expresses her gratitude that she didn’t abort her daughter many years ago:

“If I would have aborted my daughter, I would never have known my wonderful son-in-law. And I would never have known my precious grandson and granddaughter either.

They are a big joy to me. How I love to hear their little voices as they call out to me, “Grandma.” I love to touch their beautiful faces and feel the warmth of their hugs and kisses. They make me laugh and smile, and they bring tears of joy to my heart….If I would have gone through with the abortion, I would have missed out on some of the most beautiful blessings and rewards in my life – the joy of my precious family.”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 73-74

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“She’s not the rapist’s baby, she’s my baby” says mother from rape

A woman who gave birth to her baby conceived in rape says:

“It really upsets me to hear people talking about a woman keeping a ‘rapist’s baby,’ To me, she’s not the rapist’s baby; she’s my baby. He doesn’t deserve any credit. [The thought of abortion] is based on temporary feelings that the baby is the rapist’s baby. But it’s her baby. In all my research, the majority of women who get pregnant through rape don’t want to have an abortion. This is the outside telling these women that they should have an abortion because their loved ones don’t want to deal with [the rape] or think about it. But that woman is not going to forget it, and abortion is not going to solve that problem. And I think that that misconception needs to be cleared. It’s not the woman herself who wants the abortion. It’s usually her family or her friends.”

Although she was homeless when she conceived, this mother is raising her child. She has no regrets.

Nancy Flanders “Raped and Homeless: She Chose Life for Her Baby Not Abortion” LifeNews APR 10, 2013

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Daughter responds to mothers abortion

A pro-choice woman who had an abortion and doesn’t claim to regret it describes what her daughter said to her when she found out:

“But my daughter said something when I told her. She said, ‘Gee I’m glad you didn’t abort me. Aren’t I the lucky one?”

Cara J. Marianna Abortion: A Collective Story (Westport, CT: Praeger, 2002) 65

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Postabortion father: It’s not a fetus, it’s my son

Researcher Arthur Shostak wrote a book about men and abortion. He interviewed countless men in abortion clinic waiting rooms as well as many years after their partners had abortions. When interviewing one man, Shostak asked him about the “fetus.” Then:

“The man’s eyes filled up with tears. He said to me, “It’s not a fetus we’re talking about. It’s my son. He would be 3 years old now.”

Quoted by Steve Chapman, Chicago Tribune, May 18, 1980, 29

Cited in Curt Young The Least of These: What Everyone Should Know about Abortion (Chicago, Illinois: Moody Press, 1984)

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Woman testifies about help crisis pregnancy center gave

Shelly Louis, of Durant, Oklahoma, testified before Congress about the help she received from a crisis pregnancy center run by pro-lifers:

“Unmarried, financially insecure, and six weeks pregnant with my third child…abortion was a very real option for me. Since I was receiving no assistance from the baby’s father and he was encouraging me to terminate the pregnancy, I chose to seek an abortion.

Only because of their encouragement and compassion was I able to think clearly about my options and make the right choice to protect the life of my unborn child. My arrangements to visit the abortion clinic were cancelled and Kiree’s life was saved,

The support of the Pregnancy Center did not stop there. During my entire pregnancy, I attended weekly lessons, which taught me numerous things about the prenatal process and how to care for Kiree after she was born. By attending these lessons, I earned Mommy Money, which I used to ‘purchase’ clothes, shoes, blankets, diapers, and wipes in the on-site Mommy Market,”

VIRGINIA CLINE “Moms At Risk for Abortion Tell Congress Pregnancy Centers Helped” Life News JUL 26, 2012

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Abortions against the husband’s will poison marriage

From one man:

“Eight years into our marriage, my wife became pregnant with our fourth baby. I was so excited and happy about the soon to come new addition to our family. Three weeks after the announcement of her pregnancy, however, I was hit by shocking news. My wife had aborted our baby without telling or asking me. …. I wanted our baby! We were financially well-off. Why would she do such a horrible thing without consulting me?…

My wife calmly explained that she was physically and emotionally drained. She couldn’t handle a fourth child…

Then, a year later my wife got pregnant again. Once again she made the same horrible choice to have an abortion, and once again I was not involved in the decision. Thus, our fifth child was aborted. This time I became visibly angry with her because of her selfishness. We fought with heated and ugly words. She screamed at me, “it’s my body, and this was my choice!” She accused me of never being home for her or the children…

I had been faithful to my wife for the first 12 years of our marriage and suddenly I realized that I didn’t really know who this woman was.…

15 years have passed…. Yes, we are still married, but in name only… We sleep in separate bedrooms.… I lead my life and she leads hers. The years go by as we sit silently in our anger and rage. Our lives are so empty and devoid of love. Yes, we are still married – a marriage that has lasted 27 years.

I admit that I have had to seek other ladies for solace, while my wife involves herself with the children and her many charities. She’s a good mother, a good woman, and I only wish that she never made those deadly choices. It’s very possible that our lives and our marriage could have been different.

It’s been a long time to be so angry, but I just can’t bring myself to forgive her… Abortion is a decision that doesn’t just affect the woman. It is a choice that also affects the father.”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 56 – 58

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Former clinic escort tells of faithful, praying pro-lifer

Abigail, a former abortion clinic escort, tells a story:

“I was raised by an abortion clinic nurse, and required to work as a patient escort in the clinic parking lot on abortion days. There were many pro-lifers who came out to the clinic on those days; some were sidewalk counselors, some were protestors, some were prayer warriors. There was one woman in particular who never spoke a word, never even interacted with the other pro-lifers. She was a tiny, frail, very elderly woman, who each Friday would walk to the clinic, kneel on the sidewalk at the corner (some distance away from the entrance), and pray the Rosary. Sometimes she would be there for hours, through any weather, with her bony knees on pavement that could be blazing hot, freezing cold, or soaking wet. I saw her every Friday I was there, and she always smiled at me when she arrived and again when she left, but never said a word. One winter day she came and prayed for at least three hours, in freezing rain. The clinic owner came out and saw her, and asked the escorts to ask her to come in for tea when she was done. When she got up from kneeling, I went over and invited her in. She accepted, and I walked her into the clinic and the owner brought over a pot of tea. The three of us sat together on one of the couches in the counseling area. The old lady (I never did find out her name) sipped her tea and smiled peacefully, nodding solemnly as the owner explained that her efforts in prayer were wasted, that she was needlessly inconveniencing or even harming herself by kneeling on the sidewalk, that she would be better off staying at home in comfort since nothing – NOTHING – would ever dissuade the clinic’s owner, doctor, or staff to stop performing abortions; and that by just kneeling and praying without interaction, she was hardly going to convince any women to change their minds. When the owner finished speaking, the old lady put her teacup down, and said “God knows what I’m doing out there, and it matters to him even if it doesn’t matter to you or anyone else. My prayers have value to God. And if I can change one heart – even ONE” – and she looked straight into my eyes as she said this – “then it will have all been worth it. I know God will reward me in the end.” The clinic owner rolled her eyes, sighed, and shook her head. The old lady stood up, thanked us for the tea, and left.

I never forgot her. I was already questioning and doubting my pro-abortion indoctrination; and years later, I would join the pro-life movement as a post-abortive mother, and speak out against abortion and to encourage people to reach out to women considering abortion, people who have been harmed by abortion, and especially to clinic workers. I now pray in front of our local abortion clinic, and I plan to one day pray in front of the clinic where my mother worked. I am certain that the little old lady who used to so faithfully pray there is in Heaven now; and I want to encourage all of us to follow her faithful example. She did change the one heart she hoped for; and who knows how many more?”

“The power of prayer – NEVER give up!” 40 Days for Life – Charlottesville October 29, 2010

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