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Daughter upset by mother’s abortions

A daughter whose mother had multiple abortions tells her story:

“I was only 12 years old on that disturbing day when my mother opened up to me … She shared with me that she had experienced more than one abortion prior to my youngest brother’s birth. To be exact, she had had four abortions… A thought hit me: my baby brother almost wasn’t born and almost wasn’t part of my life. …Did she also consider aborting me?

Then my mother complained about how my father was so selfish, how she couldn’t take birth control pills because they made her sick, and how he was never there for her emotionally. She told me that he worked such long hours, blah, blah, blah…

I could not help but be upset and disappointed at her for being so helpless and irresponsible… She then proceeded to tell me the reason why she kept my baby brother. The doctor told her that it would be unsafe to perform another abortion…

Nowadays, the aftermath and repercussions of these abortions still float around us and are still being experienced by our family. My mom constantly cries and complains about her health issues and how the abortions have weakened her body, causing all her aches and pains. She complains to me and nags me, but does not do so to my father. Why me?…

During my temperamental adolescent years, I would get myself heatedly involved between my bitterly enraged parents whenever they would separate. I would argue with them, at them, and for them… They had separated total of three times, and each time it made me extremely angry!… They would vent their feelings, then place me in the middle, as the referee… I felt like screaming, “Hey! I’m the kid here, not the adult!”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 59-62

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Father fails to stop abortion, mourns the loss of his aborted child

A man who got his girlfriend pregnant saw his baby on the ultrasound screen at a crisis pregnancy center:

“Our child was at 8 weeks gestation and had fingers, toes, eyes, everything. I saw and heard my child’s heart beat and I cried. It was a very overwhelming and beautiful experience for me, until she looked over at me and said: “What are you crying about? Worms have heartbeats too”

The woman decided to have an abortion:

Her sister had offered to pay $500 for her to get an abortion. She insisted she was going to get the abortion, was planning to get one that weekend, and broke up with me right before.

I called the abortion clinic and asked what my rights were; they said “You don’t have any”. I then asked them, “What do you do with the aborted babies? I want to bury my child”. They told me that it wasn’t a child, it was a fetus, and to never call again or they would involve the police. My hands were tied. I, as a father had no legal right to protect my child from a death committed by a “doctor”. I called everyone imaginable to see what my rights were and I got the same answer: “nothing”.

The week before my child was aborted; I went to try one more time to ask the mother of my child to not do this. But she was adamant about having an abortion, and told me to leave. So I then asked her if I could do one thing before I left, she told me that was fine. I then got on my knees and kissed the stomach of the mother of my child and said “I love you, and Daddy will see you in heaven”. I then took the ultrasound pictures and left.

He says:

The day my child was aborted was a very painful day for me. I was informed that my child had been aborted in the afternoon on December 2nd, 2006. It was the most painful experience I have ever been through. My relationship ended with the woman that I thought I was going to marry, and I lost my first child. I didn’t want to go on; I was in too much pain. I didn’t eat. I didn’t sleep. I had nightmares of my child being aborted. The day after my child was aborted, I went to see my pastor and he suggested that I have a memorial for my unborn child. I took his advice, and had one the following Sunday at his church. I had my parents and a few friends come. It was a short ceremony, but very painful. I never thought that my child would meet God before I did.

After that day things were still very painful. I still couldn’t sleep or eat, and thoughts of suicide filled my head every waking hour. I joined Bible studies, and post abortion Bible studies as much as possible. Those were the only people that would understand. There were times that I wouldn’t even receive support at church. A man is really not allowed to grieve the loss of his unborn baby. I was told things like: “Your child wasn’t even born, so get over it”, “It wasn’t a baby yet”, or even people saying “Your child deserved to die”. None of those things helped me heal and just put me in more of a state of depression.

On the day of his child’s due date, he went to New York to reach out to couples having abortions. He says he helped save 100 babies. He is now involved in the pro-life movement.

“I had to Kiss my Child, GOODBYE” 911 babies

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Mother from rape: the world is a better place with my daughter in it

Shauna Prewitt, a mother whose daughter was conceived in rape, loves her daughter. She says that when she f0und out she was pregnant:

You see, to my surprise, I did not altogether hate the life growing inside of me. Instead, I felt a sort of kinship, a partnership – perhaps the kind that only develops between those who have suffered together – but, nevertheless, I felt a bond.

She describes telling her daughter how she was conceived:

It’s the question [from my daughter] that I had been dreading for almost nine years. So I just told her, I said, ‘you know, baby, sometimes we’re forced to do things that we just don’t want to do.’ She just started sobbing at that point. After crying for a little bit she said mommy, I am just so sorry that that happened to you. But at least you have me.

Prewitt says:

I think this world would be a much worse place without my little girl in it. I think the world needs more people like her.

LAUREN ENRIQUEZ “She Rejected Abortion After Rape, Then The Rapist Sought Custody of Her Daughter” LifeNews APR 28, 2014

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Father of aborted baby sees his child

Cecilia, 33, who had an abortion:

“My boyfriend came with me. He was in the room when they did it. He saw the fetus and it really flipped him out. What I remember poignantly about the whole experience was I was drugged and I went home, took a nap, and when I woke up he wasn’t there. He left a note… It was clear that he was f*cked up emotionally.

I called my best friend and told her what had happened.… I went over and we got riproaring drunk. I got really happy when we were drunk and we were toasting my abortion – “Here’s to your abortion!”… Later, my friend’s sister came up and expressed this sympathy – my friend had told her. I remember saying, “What? What’s this sympathy? What for?” I guess I was really detached from it…

I think I was kind of callous about the whole thing… I treated it like a procedure. I had to go and get a procedure done on my body. It didn’t seem quite real.

It certainly made me take birth control seriously. I was a little lax about it until then, but I knew I didn’t want to go through it again, the pain. It was very painful. And the shame that I had…”

She broke up with her boyfriend shortly after the abortion.

Anna Runkle In Good Conscience: A Practical, Emotional, and Spiritual Guide to Deciding Whether to Have an Abortion (San Francisco: Jossey–Bass Publishers, 1998) 51-52

The baby would be dismembered in an abortion at this stage. See what this looks like.

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Rape counselor Sandra Mahkorn on abortion and rape

Sandra Mahkorn, M.D., former rape counsellor conducted a study on pregnant rape victims. She says:

“The central issue then, should not be whether we can abort all pregnant sexual assault victims, but rather an exploration of the things we can change in ourselves, and through community education, to support such women through their pregnancies. The “abortion is the best solution” approach can only serve to encourage the belief that sexual assault is something for which the victim must bear the shame…a sin to be carefully concealed.”

In the study, Mahkorn found that 70% of rape victims carried their pregnancies to term.

Sandra Mahkorn, M.D., “Pregnancy and Sexual Assault,” The Psychological Aspects of Abortion, (Washington, D.C.: University Publications of America, 1979). 66, 68,

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“Crisis pregnancy center made my life 100% better”

This testimony is from a woman who went to a crisis pregnancy center in Mountain View, California:

“When I first went to the Crisis Pregnancy Center, I was in need of temporary housing. With their help, I am staying with a Christian family.

Since the first time I went to the Crisis Pregnancy Center, my life has had a 100% change for the better. I cannot say enough about the Center except I hope that more women go there and get the love and help that I received.”

Curt Young The Least of These: What Everyone Should Know about Abortion (Chicago, Illinois: Moody Press, 1984) 173-174

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Pregnant mom sees ultrasound, becomes pro-life

One pro-choice woman became pro-life after watching her baby develop on ultrasound. Her visits to the obstetrician let her see her baby girl as she developed in the womb.

“When I went to my prenatal appointments, we would take pictures of Avalon via the ultrasound.

I would study those pictures each month, and I was surprised by how well-developed she was while in the womb. I could see her tiny hands, and I watched as she would put her thumb in her mouth, blink her eyes, and yawn. She was so precious, so delicate, and so beautiful!

After looking, evaluating, and cherishing those precious photos, I realized how soon life is created and formed in the womb, and I knew that what was growing inside of me was not just a blob of tissue, but a complete and formed baby – a real, live human being. Now, obviously, my perspective on abortion has changed…

At one time I was pro-abortion; now I am pro-life.”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 91 – 92

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“It wasn’t just getting rid of fetal tissue”

A woman considering an abortion did research on fetal development. She says:

“I started doing some research. I went around the hospitals and I started to see all the latest equipment and scans and all the rest of it.… I started seeing tiny little embryos and fetuses. And they didn’t look at all like lumps of tissue… that’s when I went through some enormous guilt about that last abortion. I just became incredibly miserable about it… I knew that I couldn’t have an abortion because I knew this time I would be killing a baby. It wasn’t just getting rid of fetal tissue…

She had her son and says:

“… the world would be a dimmer place without him. A sunny nature, a funny little boy, absolutely charming and delightful.”

Mary Kenny Abortion: The Whole Story (London: Quartet Books, 1986) 280 – 282

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Rape survivor: my son restored my faith in life

Cathy D. Kirkland said of her son, conceived in rape:

“He restored my faith in life and gave me a reason to get up in the morning…I have a lot of fun with people who want to know what race Jonathan is: I say human… Or when they ask what does his dad do, I say he’s an apprentice astronaut or a cowboy. At least they don’t come back asking me silly questions again.”

Fran Arrington, “Mother Rejoices in Son from Rape,” News & Observer (Raleigh, N.C.), 8 Sept. 1991, 1-A & 8-A, 8-A.

Quoted in Mary Meehan “Rape and Abortion: A Double Injustice” Human Life Review, Spring 2013

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Raped woman praises her daughter

In People magazine:

A rape survivor who had her baby described her daughter as “a fun-loving child, so sweet, with so many good qualities.”

“Helen” (a pseudonym), quoted in Peter Carlson and Jane Sims Podesta, “Raising a Child of Rape,” People, 25 March 1985, 34

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