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Post-Abortive woman: I had a “ruined life”

One post-abortive woman tells her story:

‘Hi, my name is Renae and I had an abortion when I was 14. I was barely an adult and just didn’t comprehend what was happening. I was pushed (by my mother) into making an uninformed decision out of convenience rather than given counselling and support to wrap my head around the situation I was facing. I now find this lack of care and information very disturbing.

I had no knowledge of what to expect or what would happen at the clinic – I was shuffled in without as much as a word. Someone asked me to confirm my name and that was it.

I was given an inadequate amount of drugs by the anesthetist. I woke up in the middle of the surgery and heard a doctor saying ‘There it is – got it!’ I was absolutely traumatized and distraught as I left the clinic that fateful day….

As a result of this experience I have endured depression, drug addiction and a ‘ruined life’. It’s ironic to think that my mum told me I would ruin my life if I had the baby, but no one ever stopped to think that maybe not having the baby and having an abortion instead would do the exact same thing.”

“Women’s Stories” Abortion Rethink

Visited October 3, 2018

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Abortion counselor scolds teen for crying, tells her “the fetus isn’t human”

What one postabortion teenager says her abortion counselor told her when she asked her about God:

“God’s not going to do anything. He’ll forgive you if that’s your issue. Really, it’s not wrong because the fetus isn’t human. You’re six weeks pregnant, and you need to make a decision now.”

The teen began crying before her abortion and was told:

“What’s wrong with you? Who told you about the procedure for terminating a pregnancy? Has someone been telling you this is wrong? It’s no big deal. It only takes about three minutes and that’s it. Three minutes and it’s over. Why are you crying?”

She did go through with the abortion and later regretted it.

Julia C Loren The Note on the Mirror: Pregnant Teenagers Tell Their Stories (Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan Publishing House, 1990) 62, 63

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Post-abortion woman says there was no counseling

A post-abortive woman named Jasmine wrote:

“I was nine weeks pregnant. There was no counseling offered, just a leaflet telling me that I might feel a little upset, but that it was hormonal and would pass…”

Melinda Tankard Reist Giving Sorrow Words: Women’s Stories of Grief after Abortion (Springfield, IL: Acorn Books, 2007) 33

At nine weeks, her baby was rapidly living and growing.

Preborn baby at 7-8 weeks after conception, 9-10 weeks LMP

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Post-Abortive woman: Clinic “deceived” me

From Stephanie Williams, who is post-abortive:

“I was deceived because I was not told the truth about what an abortion means to the life of an unborn baby. I was not told that at 10 weeks (which is when I had my abortion) my child was already fully formed. I was made to believe that I was doing something that was as natural as going to the dentist for a teeth cleaning.”

STEPHANIE WILLIAMS, RIDGECREST, CA in LoveMatters.com Advertising Supplement Vol. 14, 2008 ed.

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Woman tells of forced abortion

Catherine Glenn Foster, president of Americans United for Life, was 19 when she had abortion. She changed her mind, but was forced by abortion workers to go through with the abortion:

“I went into that center because I thought I had no choice. I thought I had no other option. And I was terrified. “I found there was coercion, lack of information, at times outright lies, at times force.”

She changed her mind on the abortion table, and tried to get up:

“I asked to get up. I said ‘please let me up. Let me off this table, out of this room. I don’t want this anymore.’ I said, ‘I can’t do this. This is wrong and I feel really bad about this. Just let me go. You can keep the money.’ And they shouted for more people and I had four people holding me down. One – a nurse – and a staff member on each arm. The doctor aborted my child. I’m screaming. That’s not choice.

It was not pro-woman, it was not pro-me. They didn’t care about me, they didn’t respect my opinion. They were just in-‘n-out. They wanted me gone and they wanted my baby gone.
In the end, I was left alone in the recovery room, wishing that I could turn back time and just go an hour, a week, a month back in time and re-do everything.

It took me a long time to recover…physically, and then mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It was devastating.”

She comments on laws that require women to be shown a sonogram if they ask to see it:

“That’s part of my story. Because I was there in the center and asked to see my child’s ultrasound. I asked and I was refused. They said no. And that’s always haunted me. I’ve always wanted and wished, again, that I could go back. And knowing that women in Wyoming now have that right is so impactful.”

Paul Strand “‘I Had Four People Holding Me Down’: Woman Recounts Horror of Forced Abortion” CBN News 01-14-2018

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Post-Abortive woman tells her story

“I had to wait for the abortion because they said that I was only two weeks past my period and that I had to wait two weeks before I could get scheduled. Before leaving, I asked two questions: Will it hurt? and Was it a baby?

Her reply to my first question was that I would feel pressure and then something that felt like menstrual cramps. Then, she drew a picture of a uterus and placed a circle inside and said it was no bigger than a quarter. *It was like a tumor* – easy enough to be removed with a little discomfort.

While in the hands of the abortionist, I received no medication for pain, no medication for anxiety, nor was I anesthetized. I did not have enough money for these “extras.” Some girls were given low doses of Valium for their nerves. That cost money too, more than what I had. I paid for the operation right up front – CASH ONLY, please.

The pain I felt during the abortion was *the most excruciating pain I have ever experienced in my life.* I could feel the baby being ripped from my womb. I yelled in pain and the nurse told me to relax – that I was tightening up – and to stay quiet. What empathy they feel for you before they take your money.

Everyone was so pleasant in the beginning. But, once the sale is closed, money in hand, *you’re just another person lying on the assembly line waiting to have their product of conception slaughtered.*

When the abortion was over, I felt humiliated, embarrassed, guilty, ashamed and violated all at the same time. I quickly justified my actions and my feelings. I suppressed those feelings, deep down, for ten years.

Three days after the abortion, I awoke in a pool of blood. I had a temperature of 103, abdominal pain, nausea and a migraine. I was rushed to the hospital where I received an emergency D&C. The doctor said I had blood clots. I was sent home with antibiotics.

Shortly after this horrifying experience, I started to experiment with drugs. Soon, I was doing them on a regular basis. I would fall into deep depressions. I lost job after job. There were times when

I would not get out of bed for weeks at a tine. I did not eat. *I went from 108 to 89 pounds. I could not sleep and, when I would finally fall asleep, I would suffer from nightmares. Drugs were the only release and escape from the feelings I could not deal with.”

National Stopp News, February 1992, p. 5. Found here.

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Post-Abortive woman still regrets abortion 38 years later

Ramona Blount, who had an abortion at 17, writes about not being informed:

“I am outraged that at 17 I could go into a clinic, and without any counseling or information, kill my unborn child. I don’t remember all the details of that day so long ago, but I remember that they were worried I might be too far along to do the abortion. I think I had to come back on another day after they confirmed the pregnancy. To be honest, I don’t even remember if they did an ultrasound, but guaranteed I was not offered to see the baby, nor was I given any information about the gestational age, what my baby looked like, or anything that might have persuaded me to change my mind. I got dropped off by my boyfriend’s sister and endured that horrible procedure alone. After it was over, I had no one that I could talk to about it, but I knew what I had done….

It’s been at least 38 years and I still wish I could undo that choice that I made on that horrible day when I killed my baby….oh, how I wish someone had told me, “It’s a life! This is your baby! Give that child a chance to live!…I have regretted that decision ever since the day that I made it.”

Ramona Blount “I had an abortion, but I wish someone would have given me options” Live Action News March 8, 2017

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Doctor “attacks” woman who wants to keep her baby with anencephaly

In a booklet meant to encourage women pregnant with disabled or sick babies choose life, Barb wrote about the pressure she came under to abort her son who had anencephaly:

Seven months into the pregnancy I was referred to the high-risk clinic. It was there where I was attacked by a doctor because I decided to keep the baby. My husband did not come with me, so I had nobody to defend me. The doctor basically told me that by keeping this baby I put myself in a great risk of having a lot of things go wrong. He even offered for me to abort that baby at that time. I cried so much when he was telling me this, but he did not seem to care. As I was driving home. I could not stop crying. How could somebody be so cruel? I couldn’t abort this baby. It was a gift from God even if only for a short time. I heard the heartbeat, I felt the movements, how could I just kill an innocent baby?

Bernadette Zambri Hope in Turmoil: A Guide for Decision-Making after Receiving a Difficult Prenatal Diagnosis Regarding Your Baby (2014)

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