“Having an abortion seemed like being raped again”

Nicole went to her pastor for advice after being raped. She says that her pastor encouraged her to have an abortion with the words:

‘Let me put your mind at ease. Any decision prayerfully considered is OK in the eyes of the church. And in your case I think you should have an abortion.’

Looking back on her abortion, Nicole says:

“For me, having an abortion was like being raped again, only worse – because this time I had consented to the assault.”

“Nicole Cooley: Raped and Pregnant” CBN

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Lesbian rape victim puts baby up for adoption, has no regrets

MARIA KRASINSKI  describes what happened:

“The man who raped me — a neighbor — knew I was gay.  I had been invited to his house to celebrate New Year’s Eve… He asked if I would spend the night, but I simply replied, “I don’t live THAT far away.”  I  just needed to use the restroom and I’d be off.

Upon exiting the bathroom, I saw my coffee mug, and without looking — thinking nothing of it — I gulped down the last of it.  I woke a few hours later with my naked host standing over me.”

He had raped her. She became pregnant, but because of irregular periods, did not discover her pregnancy until she was 4 months along.

“My landlady — a heterosexual atheist, but my closest friend, never suggested an abortion.  Others did however.  But I was raised in a pro-life home, so abortion was never a consideration for me.

The first phone call I made when I got home was to my dear friend in the pro-life movement, Theresa, who was active in Operation Rescue, but I contacted her in particular because she was the adoption coordinator.  “I need some parents to choose from soon.  I’m four months along, and that doesn’t leave us much time.”  She wanted to be my Lamaze coach, no matter what I decided about parents — we were dear friends from pro-life activism.”

She did tell me about two sets of parents she found, but after pausing she asked me, “Can we have her?”

Maria said yes.

“When my baby girl was born, I had mixed feelings about holding her.  I wanted to, but forming a bond only to break it moments later did not seem wise. I did ask to see her. I had watched them give her some water and they were all amazed at how quickly she sucked down the whole bottle!  They put her in my arms — I ached to nurse her, but did not dare.  Theresa asked for a breast pump and handed it to me, so she got my colostrum.  I kissed her head, and handed her back — a healthy child.  I could have died right then without a single regret….

I wanted to kill HIM, but the child is NOT HIM.  It seems so simple to me, and it IS simple, but Planned Parenthood and their ilk take horrific advantage of a woman’s trauma to sell abortion.  They are NOT the place to go for rape counseling or any kind of help after a rape because an abortionist is hardly an unbiased expert…. I’ve shared my story here because my hope is that others will be encouraged to be courageous in choosing life and sharing their own pro-life stories, and to be sure that rape survivors like me are never used as an excuse to justify any abortions, under any circumstances.”

MARIA KRASINSKI  “When I Was Pregnant After Rape, I Wanted to Kill the Rapist, Not My Baby” LifeNews OCT 6, 2014

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Homeless rape victim chooses life

Michelle was homeless on the streets when she was raped and became pregnant. A friend offered to let her live with her- but only if she aborted the baby.

“[She] told me that if I would get rid of the baby that I could come live with her. And I walked out of there and never spoke to her again. I was going to put her up for adoption, but every time I picked up the phone to call about that, I couldn’t do it. I would cry. I knew this was my baby and I would love her no matter what. I decided I wanted to keep her.”

Michelle went to a crisis pregnancy center. She called the staff there “sweet” and “all good.” She decided to have her baby, and says:

“All of the programs to help women were really awesome. I went to several of their classes and the lady that counseled me volunteered to go with me when I gave birth. I didn’t have anyone else to go with me. She was there by my side. After I gave birth, they gave me baby clothes, diapers, and a basket of goodies like blankets. After you’ve had your baby you can keep going back to them for support….

It really upsets me to hear people talking about a woman keeping a ‘rapist’s baby. To me, she’s not the rapist’s baby; she’s my baby. He doesn’t deserve any credit. [The thought of abortion] is based on temporary feelings that the baby is the rapist’s baby. But it’s her baby. In all my research, the majority of women who get pregnant through rape don’t want to have an abortion. This is the outside telling these women that they should have an abortion because their loved ones don’t want to deal with [the rape] or think about it. But that woman is not going to forget it, and abortion is not going to solve that problem. And I think that that misconception needs to be cleared. It’s not the woman herself who wants the abortion. It’s usually her family or her friends.”

NANCY FLANDERS “Raped and Homeless: She Chose Life for Her Baby Not Abortion” LifeNews APR 10, 2013

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Abortion brought back memories of sexual assault

A woman who had been sexually assaulted had an abortion, and commented on how the procedure brought back memories of her sexual abuse:

“I felt very sad after [the abortion], and actually, that triggered my first really big wave of full-on memories of sexual abuse in my childhood.”

Cara J. Marianna Abortion: A Collective Story (Westport, CT: Praeger, 2002) 74

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“She’s not the rapist’s baby, she’s my baby” says mother from rape

A woman who gave birth to her baby conceived in rape says:

“It really upsets me to hear people talking about a woman keeping a ‘rapist’s baby,’ To me, she’s not the rapist’s baby; she’s my baby. He doesn’t deserve any credit. [The thought of abortion] is based on temporary feelings that the baby is the rapist’s baby. But it’s her baby. In all my research, the majority of women who get pregnant through rape don’t want to have an abortion. This is the outside telling these women that they should have an abortion because their loved ones don’t want to deal with [the rape] or think about it. But that woman is not going to forget it, and abortion is not going to solve that problem. And I think that that misconception needs to be cleared. It’s not the woman herself who wants the abortion. It’s usually her family or her friends.”

Although she was homeless when she conceived, this mother is raising her child. She has no regrets.

Nancy Flanders “Raped and Homeless: She Chose Life for Her Baby Not Abortion” LifeNews APR 10, 2013

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Mother from rape: the world is a better place with my daughter in it

Shauna Prewitt, a mother whose daughter was conceived in rape, loves her daughter. She says that when she f0und out she was pregnant:

You see, to my surprise, I did not altogether hate the life growing inside of me. Instead, I felt a sort of kinship, a partnership – perhaps the kind that only develops between those who have suffered together – but, nevertheless, I felt a bond.

She describes telling her daughter how she was conceived:

It’s the question [from my daughter] that I had been dreading for almost nine years. So I just told her, I said, ‘you know, baby, sometimes we’re forced to do things that we just don’t want to do.’ She just started sobbing at that point. After crying for a little bit she said mommy, I am just so sorry that that happened to you. But at least you have me.

Prewitt says:

I think this world would be a much worse place without my little girl in it. I think the world needs more people like her.

LAUREN ENRIQUEZ “She Rejected Abortion After Rape, Then The Rapist Sought Custody of Her Daughter” LifeNews  APR 28, 2014

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Rape counselor Sandra Mahkorn on abortion and rape

Sandra Mahkorn, M.D., former rape counsellor conducted a study on pregnant rape victims. She says:

“The central issue then, should not be whether we can abort all pregnant sexual assault victims, but rather an exploration of the things we can change in ourselves, and through community education, to support such women through their pregnancies. The “abortion is the best solution” approach can only serve to encourage the belief that sexual assault is something for which the victim must bear the shame…a sin to be carefully concealed.”

In the study, Mahkorn found that 70% of rape victims carried their pregnancies to term.

Sandra Mahkorn, M.D., “Pregnancy and Sexual Assault,” The Psychological Aspects of Abortion, (Washington, D.C.: University Publications of America, 1979). 66, 68,

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Rape survivor: my son restored my faith in life

Cathy D. Kirkland said of her son, conceived in rape:

“He restored my faith in life and gave me a reason to get up in the morning…I have a lot of fun with people who want to know what race Jonathan is: I say human… Or when they ask what does his dad do, I say he’s an apprentice astronaut or a cowboy. At least they don’t come back asking me silly questions again.”

Fran Arrington, “Mother Rejoices in Son from Rape,” News & Observer (Raleigh, N.C.), 8 Sept. 1991, 1-A & 8-A, 8-A.

Quoted in Mary Meehan “Rape and Abortion: A Double Injustice” Human Life Review, Spring 2013

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Raped woman praises her daughter

In People magazine:

A rape survivor who had her baby described her daughter as “a fun-loving child, so sweet, with so many good qualities.”

“Helen” (a pseudonym), quoted in Peter Carlson and Jane Sims Podesta, “Raising a Child of Rape,” People, 25 March 1985, 34

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12 year old incest victim regrets her abortions

A woman tells the following story:

“… At 12 years old, I became pregnant; it was my father’s baby. Mom and Dad forced me to have an abortion…

As I grew up I fell into one bad relationship after another… These men didn’t want me or the babies we conceived together, supposedly under the guise of love. Each of these five men in my life made me get abortions when I became pregnant. They threatened to leave me if I didn’t have the abortions…

I now know that abortion is the killing of a baby. This realization hurts my mind and my heart every time I think of it, and there is not a day or night that goes by when I don’t think of all my dead babies.…

I’m trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered life…”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 98 – 99, 100

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