“I was your ordinary girl, ready to start my senior year in high school. And like most high school girls I was thinking about things like Friday night football games, which college I would get into, and finishing off the year walking across the stage getting my hard earned diploma. …
One month into my senior year of high school, I found out that through one boy’s selfish desires, and lack of respect for me, I was pregnant, through rape. The next eight months were filled with obstacles to overcome, acceptance of dreams that might not come true, and the reality that I had to complete what I started in order to get my diploma in spite of my situation.
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Twelve weeks into my pregnancy, I came face to face with my little girl as I had my first ultrasound. Wow! It was at that very moment that I knew I was destined to be her mommy and she was destined to be my daughter. Abortion was never an option for me, but it was at this moment that I truly realized why. Life is a precious, sacred gift and it is not ours to choose whether life should end because of inconvenience or because of the circumstance of conception….
One week after graduation Isabella Grace came into the world. I thought I had been strong for the past 9 months but I had no idea how much stronger I would become because of this beautiful little girl.”
BRYAN KEMPER “ISABELLA WAS CONCEIVED 6 YEARS AGO THIS WEEK AND SHE IS A GIFT FROM GOD, NOT A PRODUCT OF RAPE. A STORY OF COURAGE IN A TRAGIC SITUATION.” Stand True SEPTEMBER 24, 2014
“When I was 12 a youth/music minister in his early 20s offered to teach me guitar lessons. My parents readily agreed for his church position was all the credential they needed. Soon the music lessons turned into rape sessions. My past history of abuse increased my vulnerability.
Surprisingly, I conceived. But an unmarried pregnant daughter would have forced my parents out of the mission field, and they were trapped. They had taught me to value life. Yet when they took me to the doctor to confirm pregnancy, they conspired with him to perform a chemical abortion. They told me they didn’t know if I was pregnant or not but the pills would cause me no harm if I were. I celebrated the day my baby died, thinking my period had started. Soon I was put in the hospital with a severe uterine infection. Naïvely, I didn’t put the pieces together until much later – much too late to save my baby.”
Her parents had her aborted without every giving her a choice. She goes on to explain how she suffered after the abortion:
“The abortion has greatly affected every area of my life. I’ve battled suicide, longing for the intense pain to end. I couldn’t save myself from the abuse and rape. I couldn’t save my baby from the abortion. Powerlessness overwhelmed me. Guilt plagued me. Emptiness consumed me as the realization hit that I wouldn’t see or hold him this side of heaven.”
She says:
“People argue that in the face of rape and incest, abortion is not only acceptable but kind. Having lived through all three, I know firsthand that abortion was far more damaging than abuse or rape. Had I been given the choice even of adoption, I wouldn’t be dealing with the death of a child. My life was at risk because the abortion’s pain pushed me toward full-blown anorexia. In the attempt to spare me through abortion, I was almost consumed. What is more final than death? The belief is that it would be cruel to force a child to carry a baby conceived in violence. I have found the opposite to be true. The abortion didn’t relieve the pain of rape and incest. Rather, abortion intensified my pain. The day my baby died, a part of me died with him.”
Wendy Williams, Ann Caldwell Empty Arms: More Than 60 Life-Giving Stories of Hope from the Devastation of Abortion (Chattanooga, Tennessee: Living Ink Books, 2005) 60 – 64
A woman who had an abortion after rape at the age of 11 deeply regretted it. She had an abortion in which the baby was killed by poison and then labor induced. She did not go into labor at the clinic, so they sent her home to deliver her dead child.
“My name is Brenda Darnell, and I am an abortionist! You may think that I have overreacted to make such a statement about an event that happened only once in my life, but for 33 years, I have lived and relived this offense in my heart, mind, and soul.”
When I was 5 months pregnant, my doctor and mother decided I should have an abortion… The abortion was done, but because of a mental block, I did not go into labor for 2 weeks. When I did go into labor, I gave birth to a son. He was black because he’d been dead for 2 weeks. Then, 1 ½ hours later while taking a shower, I delivered my second son – twins! 11, raped, pregnant, sick, abortion, twins, death! Nothing in life has brought me more pain, and no eraser is big enough to make my hurt and pain go away.”
Wendy Williams, Ann Caldwell Empty Arms: More Than 60 Life-Giving Stories of Hope from the Devastation of Abortion (Chattanooga, Tennessee: Living Ink Books, 2005) 47 – 48
Baby aborted at 20 weeks in the same way as Brenda’s. This is what her twins would have looked likeShare on Facebook
A woman who gave birth a child conceived in rape said:
“Consider my beautiful daughter, Jessica. She is eight months old, has no teeth but a full head of hair and seem to be developing a fondness for apple juice. She is loved by me, her grandparents, her uncle and her two sisters more than words can say.
She is also a child conceived in rape…..
When I discovered I was pregnant from the assault, I was horrified. I debated long and hard over what choice I should make.
Common sense would dictate that an abortion was the answer, right? Wrong. No matter how hideous my child’s conception had been (and rape is a degrading, demoralizing act that alters one’s whole life), I knew there was a life growing inside me. I chose to accept this child as being my baby – not the rapist’s…..
I feared I would see my rapist’s face every time I looked at my child- but I don’t. I see a beautiful, happy little girl who wasn’t planned and wasn’t the result of an act of love – but nonetheless is loved very, very much….
I based my decision upon realization that I was already a victim of violence and knowing that I didn’t want to make my unborn child another casualty.”
“Abortion – Not Even When Pregnancy is the Result of Rape?” pamphlet of American Life League, 1995
Ruth, who became an alcoholic after she aborted her baby, describes forcing her teenage daughter to have an abortion years later:
“I continued drinking and my husband took custody of the kids. He got drunk one night, molested my daughter Rosemarie, and got her pregnant. I believed there was a chance the baby would have birth defects, so I used that to justify my insistence that she have an abortion. She didn’t want an abortion so she ran away. We had her picked up and went before a judge who agreed with me that an abortion would be the best thing under the circumstance. Rosemarie finally relented and had an abortion. Later when she married, she lost three babies due to an incomplete cervix. That was really hard for me because I felt it was more retribution. Because of the abortion and all the alcohol and drugs around her, Rosemarie turned to alcohol and drugs herself… I bought into a lie and convinced myself it wasn’t a baby until it took a breath. That way I could justify my own abortion and forcing my daughter to have one too.”
From a woman who gave birth to her son after a brutal rape:
“Society says, “Who wants this child?”, “Who wants these memories?”, “Do you realize whose kid I’d be keeping?!”, “I don’t want that tied to me!” Even Christians have said these things and yet many have loved and wanted AJ; they can’t help but be drawn to him!
There are those who think abortion is okay, that absolutely adore AJ, and cannot imagine me not having him regardless of how he was conceived. He captures people’s hearts in special ways, and his biological origins or how it happened don’t even matter. Pro-life and pro-choice people alike, who know me and who know him, would be horrified if I said about him what people say about the unborn babies. They know that my son is someone of great worth….
I am so proud of my son and the love he emanates. I am proud of how strong he is (and was in the womb). I am proud of the joy he brings into people’s lives and how inclusive he is.
I didn’t see it coming when I was pregnant and being abused by someone in premeditative, torturous ways. There is so much I didn’t see, but much I honestly feared and wanted to run away from. The problems, shame, and fear was all I could see at the time, but when I had my son, it changed. I changed. My feelings changed. My circumstances changed. I could see clearer how what I once thought before, wasn’t even applicable to me as I held my precious, sweet, baby. Oh how I loved him!…
The memories I dealt with after leaving my ex-husband, [her abuser and rapist] and deal with now, I would have dealt with anyway…baby or no baby. We don’t always know what the future holds but statistics have shown that having an abortion after being raped actually leads to a higher risk for suicide as well as even more pained memories (more so, if the mother had carried the baby conceived in rape to term). So, to make a decision on killing a baby in the womb because we think everything is going to turn out a certain way, or a better way, is often very misleading. When I look at my son, I see him. I feel the same love that any mother does. I don’t see the memories or the pain. I don’t feel regret or hurt. I feel freedom, and I feel blessed.”
From a woman who gave birth to a child who was conceived in rape:
“It really upsets me to hear people talking about a woman keeping a ‘rapist’s baby,’ To me, she’s not the rapists baby; she’s my baby. He doesn’t deserve any credit. [The thought of abortion] is based on temporary feelings that the baby is the rapist’s baby. But it’s her baby. In all my research, the majority of women who get pregnant through rape don’t want to have an abortion. This is the outside telling these women that they should have an abortion because their loved ones don’t want to deal with [the rape] or think about it. But that woman is not going to forget it, and abortion is not going to solve that problem. And I think that that misconception needs to be cleared. It’s not the woman herself who wants the abortion. It’s usually her family or her friends.”
From Ashley, a girl who got pregnant as a result of rape, on her son:
“I swear if it wasn’t for Aiden, I wouldn’t be here today. He has impacted my life more than anyone could ever imagine at a time when I was falling apart. I was 13 years old, terrified, not knowing what the future would hold for me. Now I’m 16, completely confident in what my future will be as a mommy, a mentor, and a best friend. Now here he is, a week away from being 2 years old. So smart, so big, so full of life, and so happy. God blessed me with him and I wouldn’t want my life any other way. I love my son. Aiden saved me.”
Dr. Benjamin Graber, abortionist, was cited for failing to notify authorities that a 10-year-old girl on whom he performed an abortion may have been sexually abused. It could have prevented two years more years of sexual abuse for the child if he had reported the 10-year-old`s case.
Dr. Benjamin Graber said:
“It was not an obvious case of child abuse. She came in with her mother. It was legal. It was out front. There were no signs of abuse.“
