Woman describes hating sex after abortion

Author Luc Boltanski interviewed a woman named Lillian, about what happened after her abortion:

“Afterword, you’re sort of disgusted with the guy, so you don’t want to see him, I don’t know why, but…in my case, with the one I was with at the time, and he was serious, I was fed up with him, sexually I mean, with him, I couldn’t do it anymore. It was purely sexual. I mean that having sex was painful; it really hurt, it was really so uninteresting that I don’t even understand how girls my age who are at that point and think about nothing but sex… It’s so worthless, really there’s no point, because for me, it hurt, it really was bad, but okay, fine, if it doesn’t hurt them, I have the one friend who went through the same thing and had the same reaction as me, but not the other one, she kept on liking it. For me, it’s awful, it hurts, it’s not even fun at all. But the problem is that the guys ask you for it. Indeed, it turns me off, it’s really a chore, but he keeps asking for it. If he doesn’t get it he’s in a bad mood… Well, I can do this to him for a month, but at the end of the month he’ll say to me: “Come on, we better do something about this”, because every night I’m looking for an excuse, because it turns me off, I don’t want it.”

Luc Boltanski The Foetal Condition: A Sociology of Engendering and Abortion (Malden, MA: Polity Press, 2013) 118

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Sarah is a member of the board of The Pro-life Alliance of Gays and Lesbians.

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