Wife reflects on feminism when husband tries to coerce her into an abortion

From a woman whose husband tried to force her to get an abortion

“… It has also made me rethink the whole business of abortion.… Because I found that when I became pregnant with Sam that abortion was used against me as a real weapon… He was able to say, “I want you to have an abortion and if you don’t, I don’t want to have a child with you” – to say appalling and dreadful things to me to try and force me to have an abortion.

And I felt, then – all the years of struggling uphill to try and attain some sort of equality and pull my own weight and be an equal with men! It was as though I had landed on a snake and gone right down to the bottom of the board, with a man saying to me, exercising a supreme male prerogative, “If you don’t do this thing, you will be punished and you will always realize that you are being punished.…

He was going on at me up until I was seven months pregnant. When I was nearly 7 months, he phoned me up and said he had found someplace that would do abortions at this stage. He was all the time going on about it. Seven months pregnant!…

In this, Andrew – who was involved with a left-wing political scene – was aided and abetted by feminist friends….

When I was pregnant with Sam, he spoke to a lot of women about it. Mostly a lot of women in their early 30s with no children.… I felt: these young women who certainly say they believe in equality, yet somehow they fail to understand what equality means …there was an acceptance by them that abortion was the only thing.”

Mary Kenny Abortion: The Whole Story (London: Quartet Books, 1986)  278-280

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Author: Sarah

Sarah is a member of the board of The Pro-life Alliance of Gays and Lesbians.

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