Girl pressured to abort by her mother says she had a “ruined life”

Here is one woman’s abortion story:

‘Hi, my name is Renae and I had an abortion when I was 14. I was barely an adult and just didn’t comprehend what was happening. I was pushed (by my mother) into making an uninformed decision out of convenience rather than given counselling and support to wrap my head around the situation I was facing. I now find this lack of care and information very disturbing.

I had no knowledge of what to expect or what would happen at the clinic – I was shuffled in without as much as a word. Someone asked me to confirm my name and that was it.

I was given an inadequate amount of drugs by the anesthetist. I woke up in the middle of the surgery and heard a doctor saying ‘There it is – got it!’ I was absolutely traumatized and distraught as I left the clinic that fateful day….

As a result of this experience I have endured depression, drug addiction and a ‘ruined life’. It’s ironic to think that my mum told me I would ruin my life if I had the baby, but no one ever stopped to think that maybe not having the baby and having an abortion instead would do the exact same thing.”

Women’s Stories” Abortion Rethink

Visited October 3, 2018

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Abortion worker finds job “draining and exhausting”

One abortion clinic worker said the following in a book on abortion counseling intended to be read by abortion workers :

“I find [working in the abortion clinic] draining and exhausting, I become tired to the point where I do not want to relate to anyone, especially my family who may be in need of emotional support. I feel I sometimes suffer from burnout.”

Joanna Brien, Ida Fairbairn Pregnancy and Abortion Counseling (London: Routledge, 1996) 169

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Pro-Choice columnist: ultrasound makes pro-choicers squirm

Pro-Choice columnist William Saletan wrote:

“Pro-lifers are often caricatured as stupid creationists who just want to put women back in their place. Science and free inquiry are supposed to help them get over their “love affair with the fetus.”

But science hasn’t cooperated. Ultrasound has exposed the life in the womb to those of us who didn’t want to see what abortion kills. The fetus is squirming, and so are we.”

On laws requiring ultrasound before abortion:

“Critics complain that these bills seek to “bias,” “coerce,” and “guilt-trip” women. Come on. Women aren’t too weak to face the truth.

If you don’t want to look at the video, you don’t have to. But you should look at it, and so should the guy who got you pregnant, because the decision you’re about to make is as grave as it gets…

Come on. Women aren’t too weak to face the truth. …

Are ultrasound pushers trying to bias your decision? Of course. But of all the things they do to “inform” your decision, this is the least twisted…

The image on the monitor may look like a blob, a baby, or neither. It certainly won’t follow some senator’s script. All it will show you is the truth.”

William Saletan “Sex, Life, and Videotape” Slate APRIL 28 2007

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Rape survivor who became pregnant: My daughter saved my life

Lianna Rebolledo was 12-years-old when she was raped by two men and became pregnant. Lianna decided to keep her baby after she asked the doctor if abortion would ease her pain and he replied ‘no.’

Now Lianna, 35, says she has no regrets about choosing life for her child and that her daughter has helped her overcome suicidal thoughts.

“If abortion wasn’t going to heal anything, I didn’t see the point. I just knew that I had somebody inside my body. I never thought about who her biological father was. She was my kid. She was inside of me…

It was really hard, but just to see that little person telling me how happy she was that I gave her her life. When she said that — and she was only four years old when she told me: ‘Mommy thank you for giving me life’ — I realized that she was the one who gave me my life back.

In my situation, two lives were saved. I saved my daughter’s life, but she saved my life. Even though [the rape] was a very hard moment, if I had to go through that [again] just to know and to love my daughter, I would go through that again. She’s always been there for me. She’s the only person who has shown me a real love. And I always will be grateful.”

SARAH ZAGORSK “12-Year-Old Bravely Rejected Abortion After Rape, She Has No Regrets 23 Years Later” FEB 27, 2015

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Misconceptions on abortion abound in 1990

According to the New York Times:

An August 1990 Wirthlin Group survey of 2,000 voters nationwide showed that 47% believe that there are less than 500,000 abortions per year, as opposed to the actual number of 1.6 million. Respondents also said that an average of 46 percent of all abortions are performed to save the life of the mother and for rape and incest an overestimation of 25,000 percent!

Peter Steinfels. “New Voice, Same Words on Abortion.” The New York Times November 20, 1990, page A10.

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Doctors pressure mother to abort her child

Monique tells her story:

“My husband and I found out we were expecting our first baby and we were thrilled. The day came for our 20 week scan, but after the ultrasound we were just left to wait.

After several hours of delay, we were finally taken to see a doctor. They said outright – “There are issues with your baby’s head and heart; would you like to terminate the pregnancy?”

Just like that; no warning, no leading up to it, no more information than “issues” just “your baby’s not perfect, do you want to abort them?”

I was in shock, I couldn’t answer; this morning we were coming to find out what we were having and now you want to kill my baby? We didn’t even find out if it was a boy or a girl.

When I could speak again I said “No, we don’t want to do that” and we were given a referral to see a specialist.

When we saw the specialist, he also asked me straight up – “Do you want to terminate the pregnancy?” I answered “No! We told the doctor on Friday we don’t want to. That’s why we’re here.”

He completely ignored my ‘no’: “You can do it easily for the next four weeks so you have to decide before then. It gets a lot harder but don’t worry, we can still do it.” For a third time I said “No. We’ve already decided.”

He ignored me and said, “I can refer you to Brisbane but it will be stressful and expensive so are you sure you don’t want to terminate the pregnancy?”

By this point I was in tears. I sobbed “I want to do everything we can for our baby,” and after ignoring us 3 times, the nasty doctor finally rang the Mater Mothers Hospital in Brisbane.

We were squeezed in for an appointment that evening where we were told that our darling child had a perfect little heart and that we were having a baby girl.

A few weeks later we hit 24 weeks. I was so inexplicably glad now that it was “much harder” to kill my baby. She was loved from the moment I saw those two pink lines and to be asked 4 times in 4 days, with three of those being in a row, if I wanted to terminate my child was the worst thing that had happened to me up to that point in my life.”

Women’s Stories” Abortion Rethink

Visited October 3, 2018

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Woman pregnant from rape loves her son

Tricia Allen became pregnant from rape. She writes about giving birth to her son:

“The day my son was born, the nurses placed him in my arms, and he latched on and nursed right away.  I gazed at him and my son was just perfect.  I didn’t give one thought to the man who raped me.  My son was mine and mine alone.  And it turned out that my dearest child was the greatest gift I’ve ever been given.  He has beautiful green eyes and adorable red hair….

After a year, I met my husband. … We married a first months later, and now we’ve been married for 15 years and have three children we’ve raised.

My son just turned 16, and he is one of the most empathetic people you’ll ever know.  He’s a senior level Boy Scout — receiving many honors. He’s on the robotics team and he speaks German….

I do have flashbacks sometimes, but not as often now because I only see the beauty of the amazing child I was given through the worst day of my life.”

Tricia Allen “My Amazing Child Who Came From The Worst Day Of My Life” Save The 1 Blog September 7, 2018

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Crisis pregnancy center helps woman have her baby

Sarah Y was facing a crisis pregnancy and went to a crisis pregnancy center. She describes the experience:

“I was 17. Pregnant. They did testing for me, then counseling, and gave me all the options. I appreciated the honesty. Was really nice to have someone sit down and talk with me about priorities and future goals. Helped me put things into perspective and made it seem less daunting somehow. 20 years later, my daughter is amazing and I feel so blessed to have had such an amazing person to help me so long ago.”

Your experiences with CPCs and pregnancy resource centers” Secular Pro-Life Blog OCTOBER 2, 2018

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Reverend describes her abortions

Rev. Dr. Rebecca Todd Peters is Professor of Religious Studies. She writes about her abortions in her pro-abortion book, Trust Women: A Progressive Christian Argument for Reproductive Justice:

“We both wanted to have children, but we were also young, relatively poor students with a lot of educational debt. We felt it was important to build up our relationship and spend some time with each other before we had kids…

We were young and healthy, and although we were struggling economically, we had enough to get by … I was in seminary, and having a baby right then would seriously interrupt my studies and my future career.

I believed that my work on issues of social justice was important; it was my calling in my life. In my prayer and my discernment, I knew that this was not the right time for me to become a mother.…

The truth was, I didn’t want it – the pregnancy or a child. I had regularly used contraception to prevent it, I didn’t bond with it, and I never entered into relationship with it …  Those dividing cells were never a child for me.

Having had three subsequent planned and wanted pregnancies, I know the difference between embracing and rejecting a pregnancy.

A miscarriage at the same point in a wanted pregnancy would’ve been a much more tragic loss for me. It was a pregnancy, but it was never a “baby.”…

I had testified before Presbyterian committees and general assemblies that if my birth control failed, I would likely have an abortion if I wasn’t ready to be a mother. … the decision to have an abortion was neither traumatic nor tragic.

I did not experience it as a theological crisis or as an act that separated me from God. …

I have never regretted my decision or felt any lingering guilt or sadness after my immediate experience of the pregnancy and abortion. My first abortion was not a tragic decision.”

Peters seems to feel that a woman is carrying a baby if she wants the child and “dividing cells” if she does not. But the way a woman feels toward her baby does not change the nature of what her baby is. The child is not a baby only if the mother wants her.

Peters had a child, and then a second abortion. Peters second abortion was done because the child had down syndrome and a heart defect that could have been corrected by surgery:

“… By my 18th week, a diagnosis of multiple severe heart defects that would require open-heart surgery in the first year of life and Down syndrome.

While we never thought we would have another abortion, we were suddenly faced with another unexpected life situation that required serious moral reflection…

Medical technology has advanced in truly remarkable ways. In our situation, it offered both the advanced knowledge of our prenate’s diagnosis and the possibility of open-heart surgery. It was now our responsibility to figure out what to do with this information.

We had to discern whether we were prepared or willing to parent this medically and socially fragile potential child that I carried.

The fact that this was a deeply wanted pregnancy meant that the situation was nothing like my first abortion.

Although my marriage was now solid, I was still concerned for the health of my marriage and I had to think about the obligations that we had to our three-year-old, my calling and vocation as a Christian ethicist and college professor, and my awareness of my own gifts and limitations as a parent.…

My husband and I knew that ending the pregnancy was the right decision for us. But in contrast to our first experience of abortion, this experience was wrenching. We grieved deeply over our loss, but the loss was the loss of our imagined child, the social being we had created in our minds as all would be parents do.…

For very personal reasons, we decided to end the pregnancy.

Rebecca Todd Peters Trust Women: A Progressive Christian Argument for Reproductive Justice (Boston, Massachusetts: Beacon Press, 2018) 24 – 25, 26, 27-28

Peters says this abortion was different than the last one, but it still came down to the fact that parenting the child would have required sacrifices and interfered with her career.

Peters says that her first abortion was done early, but the second baby was 18 weeks along.

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Abortionist claims to be inspired by the story of the Good Samaritan

Willie Parker, who commits abortions up to 24 weeks, claims that the biblical story of the Good Samaritan convinced him to do abortions.

“In listening to a sermon by Dr. Martin Luther King, I came to a deeper understanding of my spirituality, which places a higher value on compassion. King said what made the good Samaritan ‘good’ is that instead of focusing on [what] would happen to him by stopping to help the traveler, he was more concerned about what would happen to the traveler if he didn’t stop to help. I became more concerned about what would happen to these women if I, as an obstetrician, did not help them.”

TARA CULP-RESSLER “Christian Doctor On Why He Performs Abortions: ‘I Came To A Deeper Understanding Of My Spirituality’” ThinkProgress MAY 27, 2014

24 weeks. Parker kills babies at this age
24 weeks. Parker kills babies at this age

In reality, abortion does not help women. It leaves them with physical trauma and psychological scars.

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