The moment that haunted a woman after her abortion

A woman who had an abortion wrote about the moment just before surgery that most haunted her afterwards. The moment that haunted her for years.

“There was one moment [before my abortion] that haunts me the most. She asked if I wanted to see my baby on the screen and my heart was crying out, “Yes! I want to see my baby!” But I knew that if I saw my baby, I wouldn’t go through with the abortion. Unfortunately, I was more scared of my boyfriend than I was of the abortion. I froze.”

Mike G Williams Thank You for Saving My Life (2016) 57

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Ultrasound of first trimester child
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Abortionist’s records show reasons for late-term abortions

National Right to Life wrote about abortion records that were made available to Congress to document the reasons for late-term abortions during the partial-birth abortion trials.

In June, 1995, Dr. McMahon submitted to Congress a detailed breakdown of a “series” of over 2,000 of these abortions that he had performed. He classified only 9% (175 cases) as involving “maternal [health] indications,” of which the most common was “depression.”

The records were examined closely by Dr. Pamela E. Smith:

Dr. Pamela E. Smith, director of Medical Education, Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Mt. Sinai Hospital, Chicago, gave the Senate Judiciary Committee her analysis of Dr. McMahon’s 175 “maternal indication” cases. Of this sample, 39 cases (22%) were for maternal “depression,” while another 16% were “for conditions consistent with the birth of a normal child (e.g., sickle cell trait, prolapsed uterus, small pelvis),” Dr. Smith noted. She added that in one-third of the cases, the conditions listed as “maternal indications” by Dr. McMahon really indicated that the procedure itself would be seriously risky to the mother.

Of Dr. McMahon’s series, another 1,183 cases (about 56%) were for “fetal flaws,” but these included a great many non-lethal disorders, such as cleft palate and Down Syndrome. In an op ed piece written for the Los Angeles Times, Dr. Katherine Dowling, a family physician at the University of Southern California School of Medicine, examined Dr. McMahon’s report on this “fetal flaws” group. She wrote:

Twenty-four were done for cystic hydroma (a benign lymphatic mass, usually treatable in a child of normal intelligence). Nine were done for cleft lip-palate syndrome (a friend of mine, mother of five, and a colleague who is a pulmonary specialist were born with this problem). Other reasons included cystic fibrosis (my daughter went through high school with a classmate with cystic fibrosis) and duodenal atresia (surgically correctable, but many children with this problem are moderately mentally retarded). Guess they can’t enjoy life, can they?

In fact, most of the partial-birth abortions in that [McMahon] survey were done for problems that were either surgically correctable or would result in some degree of neurologic or mental impairment, but would not harm the mother. Or they were done for reasons that were pretty skimpy: depression, chicken pox, diabetes, vomiting. [“What Constitutes A Quality Life?,” Los Angeles Times, Aug. 28, 1996]

Over one-third of McMahon’s 2,000-abortion “series” involved neither fetal nor maternal health problems, however trivial.

“For what reasons are partial-birth abortions usually performed?” National Right to Life” Here.

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Late term abortions done on women “for a variety of conditions”

During the partial-birth abortion debate, pro-choicers made the claim that these late-term abortions were done only when the mother or the baby had serious medical problems. In fact, this wasn’t true. Many were elective. What was true of partial-birth abortions is also true of late-term abortions today. National Right to Life writes about a lawsuit against Dr. Martin Haskell, who pioneered the partial-birth abortion method:

“In a lawsuit in 1995, Dr. Haskell testified that women come to him for partial-birth abortions with “a variety of conditions. Some medical, some not so medical.” Among the “medical” examples he cited was “agoraphobia” (fear of open places).”

“For what reasons are partial-birth abortions usually performed?” National Right to Life” here.

24 weeks. Possible candidate for partial-birth abortion.
24 weeks. Possible candidate for partial-birth abortion.
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“After the abortion, I just hated him.”

A woman named Hannah who had an abortion describes how she felt about her partner afterwards:

“After the abortion I just hated him. I had wanted him to take control and tell me he loved our baby and me. Instead he couldn’t wait for the abortion to happen. It was like nothing to him, but to me it was our baby. I’ll never forgive him! He killed our love and our life together.”

Anne R Lastman Redeeming Grief: Abortion and Its Pain (Balwyn, Vic: Australia: Gracewing, 2013) 122

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Letter to a birth mother from a young man

When you read this young man’s letter to a birth mother, keep in mind that if not for her brave choice he would’ve been one of the 1.3 million babies aborted every year.

“My adopted parents owned a small organic farm and vegetable stand. All of their children worked there growing up. I know how to drive a tractor and how to get up at 5:30 in the morning and love it… I am healthy and taller than anyone in my adopted family. Those height genes were very helpful growing up with three brothers who were older than me.

I did well in school in everything – except biology. That subject was never my forte. Apparently I can eat fried frog’s legs, but I cannot cut them up. History was my favorite subject. I still love books about history, and my favorite television station is the History Channel. I played basketball and soccer all through high school. I graduated at the top of my class. I received a scholarship to a college for playing the Bassoon.… My band teacher told me to master an instrument that nobody wanted to play and that would almost guarantee a scholarship… So if you ever need a Bassoon player who knows how to drive a tractor, I’m your man.

I’m currently a business major in school and hope to go on to get my MBA. I hope to one day own a profitable hydroponics form. I know it sounds crazy, but it has been a dream of mine ever since our family visited Epcot years ago.

Since I was about seven years old, I like to build models. Airplanes, cars, trucks, whatever I can put together I love to do…..

Please know that I am at peace with you and have great love for you… I know that I was born in a time when many children did not survive. I know that you had a choice, and I’m so very thankful you chose to give me life.”

Mike G Williams Thank You for Saving My Life (2016) 42 – 44, 47

This touching letter to a birth mother gives details of the young man’s life story. This life story would not exist if his mother had an abortion. The children in the wombs of mothers considering abortion are human beings. If allowed to grow up, they will be people like you and me. This letter to a birth mother shows that life is precious. Adoption is an answer everyone can live with.

 letter to a birth mother

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Pro-choice author: my marriage was hurt by my abortion

Pro-choice author Linda Bird Francke reflects on how her abortion has affected her marriage:

“The effect has indeed been profound. Though my husband was very supportive of me… our relationship slowly faltered.…. I hope we can get back on a loving track again.”

Linda Bird Francke The Ambivalence of Abortion (New York: Penguin Books, 1978) 9

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Review of Dr. Edward Allred, abortionist

A woman who had an abortion at one of the clinics owned by Edward Allred gave the following review:

What a joke that experience was! I had to go to nursing school to find out just how substandard that “care” was. Too bad women out there are still going to you…thanks for the horrible experience…and now I find out that you were an Army surgeon in Vietnam???? That explains a lot.

The review can be found here. 

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Women’s sent to late-term abortionist were pregnant with healthy babies

During the partial-birth abortion debate, pro-choice activists claimed that late-term abortions were done only to save the life of the mother or on babies that had terrible disabilities. In reality, this was not true and is not true today. One doctor testified that the pregnant women she referred to a late-term abortionist had healthy pregnancies. According to National Right to Life:

“In testimony presented to the Senate Judiciary Committee on November 17, 1995, ob/gyn Dr. Nancy Romer of Dayton (the city in which Dr. Haskell operates one of his abortion clinics) testified that three of her own patients had gone to Haskell’s clinic for abortions “well beyond” 4 1/2 months into pregnancy, and that “none of these women had any medical illness, and all three had normal fetuses.”

“For what reasons are partial-birth abortions usually performed?” National Right to Life” here.

Preborn baby at 4 1/2 months
Preborn baby at 4 1/2 months
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Heartbeat of baby convinces mom to choose life

A woman who was considering abortion came to a crisis pregnancy center. She chose life when she saw and listened to her baby’s heartbeat.

“When we came to the pregnancy clinic for our ultrasound, this tiny baby appeared on the screen, and the nurse pointed out her tiny, flickering heart.

All of a sudden, the room filled with the sound of my baby’s heartbeat. Have you ever heard the incredible beat of a tiny life–seeking human heart?

In that moment, I had this overwhelming feeling of love. I knew she was my baby and was meant to be mine. It was in that little ultrasound room that my mind changed, my heart changed, and my future changed…

Kaylee Ann was born in early summer: healthy, happy, and beautiful. The help from the pregnancy clinic didn’t just stop with my sonogram. They stayed with us all the way through the pregnancy…

I can’t imagine not having Katy Lee in my life. I certainly can’t imagine the alternative we were considering. If it wasn’t for the pregnancy clinic and those who sponsor it, my daughter would not be here today.

They provided me with the opportunity to meet the love of my life, and I am so grateful.”

Mike G Williams “Thank You for Saving My Life” (2016) 38 – 40

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Therapist explains how she counseled post-abortion woman

A therapist specializes in postabortion trauma describes one of her cases:

“Post-abortion, Leeann was unable to drive her vehicle. She experienced deep terror, shivering, nausea and disorientation. Indeed, this young woman had become so paralyzed with fear of others “knowing” about what she had done, that she was unable to drive her other three children to school, shop for the family, or even go to the corner store. The car, to this young woman, represented something so painful and so awful that she reacted violently against it. When someone else drove Leanne, she experienced no reaction. She could not even sit in her car alone.

Over many counseling sessions it emerged that she made the final decision to abort whilst driving in her car. She even insisted on driving herself to the clinic (her boyfriend went with her to drive them home after) and all the way there she kept hoping for an accident to happen. These two events, that is, the definitive abortion decision made in the car, and her willing herself to have an accident so that she would not have to go through with the abortion, left on her heart and mind an indelible mark. After the abortion itself, the fear remained that she might still have an accident, especially when she had her children in the car. She had lost complete confidence in her skills in driving, coupled with guilt about the abortion and “his” (God’s) anticipated punishment of her through her children, led to her panic attacks. Much work was done to reestablish her confidence in God and herself and today after many months she is able to drive again.”

Anne R Lastman Redeeming Grief: Abortion and Its Pain (Balwyn, Vic: Australia: Gracewing, 2013) 118

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