Category: Quotes

A woman called Dr. Laura’s show and told the story of her abortion. She had aborted her baby after tests showed the child had Down’s Syndrome. Shortly afterwards, two people wrote in to respond to her comments. Here are their letters.

“Dr. Laura,

Today, the 28th of March I was listening to talk to one of your callers. She recently had terminated the life of her child in her 20th week of pregnancy and I believe the child’s 20th week of life.

The child’s life was ended when it was diagnosed with Down Syndrome. This really struck a nerve and infuriated me, as I and my wife have the honor of being parents to our 22 month son, Conner, with Down Syndrome that along with our other 2 children (a daughter 8 and a son 5) the joy and light of our life. This person that ended the child’s life has no idea of the joy or divine love that these special people possess. It is hard for me to understand the callousness that she had about thinking that the child was a mistake of nature and it was okay to terminate its life. I would almost dare say that it is our limited understanding of these special people that is the problem.

I have often looked into Conner’s eyes and have felt a true divine, Godlike love shining forth. I will be honest and say that our life has not been changed by Conner. Unlike our other two children that walked before they were one and talked by two and developed in what we understand as “normal”. Conner has yet to walk on his own, but he does possess the ability to brighten the darkest days we have faced.

I would hate to think of life without Conner, he is the light in our families lives. Our other children think the world of him and I feel are gaining a greater understanding and acceptance of “ALL” people, unlike the caller today. She has missed a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow.

Also, Dr. Laura, from what we are told that the DS tests, that are performed when the children are still in the womb, are not that reliable. We know of several people who had those tests and they came back positive and had they chooses to end that life, they would have been out one of their children.

Thanks for letting me vent and now I feel better, keep up the good work. And yes, my wonderful wife is our kids MOM and I am my kids DAD!!!!

Zan N.”

The second letter:

“Dear Dr. Laura,

….I had to respond to a call I heard today that was from a woman who justified killing her 20 week old fetus because they found out that the baby had down syndrome. She felt it was more humane to kill her child than to allow the child to experience life with Down Syndrome.

I am sad she feels that way. I have a 10 year old daughter who has a severe seizure disorder that causes her to have between 8-10 terrible seizures every month. She also has gross and fine motor delays, mild mental retardation, speech delays and low muscle tone throughout her body.

I admit it is a lot of work to take care of and raise my daughter, but when I look at her do I see a sad, depressed child who wished she were never born? No way! I see a beautiful, brave, happy, strong, wonderful child who brings happiness to every life she touches. I see a courageous child who wants to learn as much as she can and sees the world in such a wonderful and peaceful light. She is not concerned with the problems of the world, the worries of the day, the way her hair looks or the way she’s dressed. She isn’t counting her friends or what she has or doesn’t have. She is busy making the people around her laugh. Looking forward to seeing her grandpa and spending their special time together on Friday. Feeling proud that she is learning to stand on 1 foot and the progress she is making! So much innocence in the way she sees the world. I wish I could be more like her.

I gave her the right to life, but she has given so much more to me! She has taught me how to be strong, how to laugh, how to stand up for her rights! How to teach other children acceptance! How to celebrate the smallest of successes! How to reach out to others who learn and grow differently than myself. She has given me more than I can write in just one letter.

How sad for that lady that she will never have what I have. The chance to hug and love one of God’s most precious children! The chance to mold and guide one of God’s special angels. I am fortunate to have ALL my children in my life. But I feel especially blessed and honored that God entrusted ME with one of his most delicate and precious creations! In return, I promise to do my best to give her the best and happiest life that I possibly can, as long as I am lucky to have her in my life! Keep up the great work!

Susan C.
California

C. Everett Koop, the former US Surgeon General, was one of the leading pediatric surgeon specializing in correcting birth defects and an opponent of legal abortion. He says:

“Yet, I have a sense of satisfaction in my career, best indicated perhaps by the fact that no family has ever come to me and said: “Why did you work so hard to save the life of my child?” And no grown child has ever come back ask me why, either.”

Ronald Reagan “Abortion and the Conscience of the Nation” (Nashville, Tennessee: Thomas Nelson, 1984) P. 55 Quoted in John Ankerberg and John Weldon “When Does Life Begin? And 39 Other Tough Questions About Abortion” (Brentwood TN: Wolgemuth and Hyatt Publishers, 1989)

In 1973, Newsweek presented an article entitled “Should This Child Die?” which told the story of two doctors (Raymond S. Duff and A.G.M. Campbell who worked at the Yale-New Haven Hospital. These men were convincing parents to allow their handicapped infants to die by withholding medical care from them. They defended their actions, claiming that the children had “little or no hope of achieving meaningful humanhood” and termed them “vegetables.”

In December 1973, a disabled woman named Sondra Diamond wrote a letter in response to the article. She stated:

“I’ll wager my entire root system and as much fertilizer as it would take to fill Yale University that you have never received a letter from a vegetable before this one, but much as I resent the term, I must confess that I fit the description of a “vegetable” defined in the article “Shall This Child Die?”

Due to severe brain damage incurred at birth, I am unable to dress myself, toilet myself, or write; my secretary is typing this letter. Many thousands of dollars had to be spent on my rehabilitation and education in order for me to reach my present professional status as a counseling psychologist. My parents were also told, 35 years ago, that there was “little or no hope of achieving meaningful humanhood” for their daughter. Have I reached “humanhood”? Compared with Drs. Duff and Campbell I believe I have surpassed it!”

Quoted in Jean Staker Garton “Who Broke the Baby: What the Abortion Slogans Really Mean” (Minneapolis, Minnesota: Bethany House Publishers) 1979 pg 80

A young handicapped woman named Carla Egan discussed her feelings on abortion in a newsletter from American Life League.

“Productive members of society like me are killed every day, before they are given the chances that I have been given…I graduated from college and excelled in my studies. I am employed in my field. But I was born with a bone condition…I have a type of dwarfism. Although I stand only four feet tall, I lead a normal life. I ride a bike, I swim, I work, I play…There are thousands of people like me who have been denied the chance to try because society didn’t feel like looking at them….People are aborted every day because society doesn’t feel like dealing with Down’s Syndrome, Spina Bifida, or other abnormalities. We have to take chances on people with disabilities, to learn from them, to have fun with them. We have to stop flushing them down the toilet.”

“Life for the Disabled” Celebrate Life, publication of American Life League, Oct 1991

Professor Jerome Lejeune, discoverer of the chromosomal pattern of Down syndrome once related a story he had heard from a geneticist colleague which sheds some light on the concept of human worth and the handicapped:

“Many years ago, my father was a Jewish physician in Braunau, Austria. On one particular day, two babies had been delivered by one of his colleagues. One was a fine, healthy boy with a strong cry. His parents were extremely proud and happy. The other was a little girl, but her parents were extremely sad, for she was a [mentally handicapped] baby. I followed them both for almost fifty years. The girl grew up, living at home, and was finally destined to be the one who nursed her mother through a very long and lingering illness after a stroke. I do not remember her name. I do, however, remember the boy’s name. He died in a bunker in Berlin. His name was Adolf Hitler.”

Quoted in “Why Can’t We Love Them Both” Dr. and Mrs. J.C. Willke. here

A mother of a child with Down Syndrome writes the following:

“Most women who choose to be tested [amniocentesis to detect Down Syndrome in the fetus] will also choose to abort the baby if the test is positive. Some studies say the figure is 90%…To muddy matters even more, the women who test are more often than not the mothers to be of ‘wanted’ babies.

That is, I want you if you are the baby I want. The idea that a mother might ever choose to have or not have her child based on knowing something about her child – his I.Q., what he will look like, his emotional demeanor- defies all logic of the heart….

In one of the most poignant, fierce, and determined battles to live deeply and well, Down Syndrome people are breaking through the walls of their own retardation and grasping their world…

Unlike those who would abort them, these Down Syndrome people have accepted the dare of life, which is to live it. In California, an eleven year old girl writes her first line on a computer. She painstakingly taps out “I like God’s finest whispers.”

In Brooklyn, a Down fifth grader dashes off the bus to his mother with a report card from his yeshiva; he has earned average grades in all his classes and speaks and writes in three different languages.

And then there’s our Chrissie, who last week crawled seven paces for the saltine cracker her dad held outstretched to her. She had been battling for that saltine for two months…

Chrissie is a blessing in a way a normal child is not. It is in describing her that the word “special” rises from banality and comes grippingly alive.

That she may now be a member of the last generation of her kind, a group silently and methodically targeted for extinction, alarms my heart. Especially now, knowing as I do that when she is older, Chrissie will be able to read- and understand- what I have written.”

Christine Allison “A Child to Lead Us” Human Life Review Summer 1989