Pregnant rape victim faces pressure to abort, but has her baby

A girl named Kali who was raped at 13 tells her story:

“After I was assaulted and everybody found out that I was, in fact, pregnant, everyone was against [having the baby]. I was assaulted at thirteen. Everyone said, ‘You’re going to ruin your life. You’re making a mistake. It would be so much easier if you got an abortion. You’re too young.’…

Medical staff made inappropriate comments, claiming that the baby would grow up to be a rapist. But Kali said:

“‘No, that’s just not even relevant to him. That has nothing to do with my son. He didn’t choose how he got here. He didn’t choose the man who was his sperm donor.’…

Now that I have been put in that situation, I am totally pro-life. Once you hear that baby’s heartbeat it is an indescribable feeling. It was an emotional time, but it [choosing life] wasn’t honestly that hard of a decision at the time. That’s a life. To me abortion is murder and so I’m totally pro-life completely now that I’ve been put through one of the most horrible situations.”

Kali gives the following message to those who tried to get her to abort:

“In a nice way, I would try to just tell them told you so and I hope that they learned something. I hope that my story will open their eyes so they realize that not everybody has to be pro-abortion in a tragic situation and to realize the beauty behind it — and that baby was totally it for me. That’s what I told everyone — that I’m doing this for him. I hope they change the way they treat people. I hope they start giving women more respect and keep their negative comments to themselves because those really aren’t needed in that stressful time.”

Nancy Flanders “Raped at 13, Kali chose life despite intense pressure to abort her son” Live Action News November 22, 2017

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Rape survivor: my daughter is “the most beautiful girl in the world”

A woman who was raped by her ex-boyfriend and conceived a child, does not regret giving birth to her daughter. She says:

“My little girl is now three years old and she is the most beautiful girl in the world!  We are (age appropriately) honest with her.  She knows that her Daddy didn’t make her, but he chose her.

She is not a “rape baby.”  She is MY baby.  She is the baby of a rape victim, and she is worthy of life.  Children like her should not be punished for the crimes of their fathers.

My daughter is truly the rainbow after the storm.”

The “daddy” is the woman’s  husband, who she met later.

HALYN MCGUIN “Pregnant After a Brutal Rape and Told to Have an Abortion, Here’s How I Responded” LifeNews  JAN 7, 2016

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Rape survivor: babies conceived in rape don’t deserve to die

An 18-year-old woman named Alisha went on blind date with her pregnant best friend, her best friend’s boyfriend, and another guy. Her date got her drunk and the four of them went back to his house. While she was under the influence of alcohol, he raped her. The two men had planned the whole thing. The rapist also attempted to rape Alisha’s friend, but she fought him off. They eventually brought the two girls home, and her best friend lost the baby from trauma the next day.

Alisha says:

“Eight weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. When the nurses and doctors heard that I was pregnant by rape, they tried to convince me that aborting my baby or adopting my baby out would be the best thing for my baby. I was in disbelief! I was just traumatized, and now they want to do that again? More violence, more trauma? Why would I kill an innocent child? Why would God give me a gift so I can say, “No, I don’t want what you just gave to me,” and throw it right back at God like a piece of trash? My child is human and he deserves to live!

My parents found out I was raped and pregnant when they overheard me tell a friend on the phone. Of course, they were upset that two months had gone by and I had not told them, but they were extremely supportive of me and my baby. They had raised me to be pro-life, and I knew it was never okay to kill a baby….

When I look at my son, I have never thought of him as being born from rape. Life has been good for me and my son. He’s smart and gets great grades. He’s in the 7th grade now. He knows what happened and he’s so thankful to be alive. He will one day grow up and get married and have children and grandchildren. My son deserved his right to life….

He told me that he’s glad I didn’t abort him and that he’s happy to be alive….

I am sharing my story now because people need to be aware that these babies don’t deserve to die for someone else’s crime. I’d like to get the message across that there are more women like me who love our children who were conceived in rape, and like my son, who deserve to live – and without shame to them.”

Raped after a blind date, Alisha refused abortion and is raising her son on her ownLive Action News October 31, 2017

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A woman who conceived in rape is grateful she has her daughter

From a woman who had a daughter from rape:

“Innocent life came from one man’s intent to hurt me. But my baby hasn’t hurt me. She’s provided me with healing and growth and new experiences that I never knew could happen in my life…..

I’m so grateful I made the decision to have my daughter, because she’s brought me so much joy. Every day I wake up to a beautiful smile, and had I not made that decision, I would have been left with just a disaster on my heart….becoming a mother has changed me in ways I never imagined. I feel like the most optimal version of myself. … I’ve drawn out a lot of strength I didn’t know was there….

My daughter brings me a lot of hope for the future to let me know that not every disaster has to bring traumatic pain to where you can’t cope. It actually can bring beauty….

You can look for the beauty in the disaster. She’s my beauty.”

Fr. Mark Hodges “Pregnant after rape, Louise rejected abortion and never looked back” Live Action News October 13, 2017

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Rape survivor describes forced abortion

A rape survivor named Cari S wrote about her forced abortion:

“My friend’s dad began molesting her, and me, when we were 12. I became pregnant the second or third time.

I was feeling sick for almost 3 months, so I went to the school nurse.

She must have done a pregnancy test on me. She had me pee in a cup. She told me not to tell anyone I was sick.

The following week, she took me out of class, and said I had a doctor’s appointment. She said, afterwards I would feel much better.

When I got there, all my clothes were taken from me. I guess they didn’t want me to run.

I was scared, but when the doctor said to get on the table, I did.

Three women held me down while the doctor aborted me. I screamed, and cried, and the doctor said, “Shut up, whore.”

I didn’t even consent.

It hurt so bad.

I could hear crying from every room.

I felt as if I were being raped.

I had 2 more abortions after that.”

From Abortion Concern.

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Daughter of rape victim who had an abortion speaks out

A woman describes how her mother had an abortion after rape and how it affected her:

“My mother was raped at age 16. Her parents forced her to have an abortion. She stopped going to church, dropped out of high school and became depressed. Her young adulthood was during WWII and she had a problem with relationships. She eventually married my father after only a two week courtship and she told him what a horrible woman she was because of the abortion.

They vowed to have as many children as possible. God sent them ten children and she lost one to miscarriage; she mourned the lost baby along with her aborted child. When she was pregnant with me, her third child in four years, the doctor told her she wasn’t really pregnant and that he would remove some tissue. She knew what he meant and got another doctor.

I told my dad how blessed I was that mom knew what he meant and he then told me, 60 years later, that the reason she knew was because of the rape and subsequent abortion. She took this secret to her grave and I would have never known except my dad was praising me for getting involved in the pro-life movement through 40 Days for Life.

I was almost not here along with my four children and six grandchildren. My dad told me she mourned that aborted child her whole life and she never forgot and never received healing. My mother died at age 67 and I was told her secret when I was 60.

Rape hurt my mother, but abortion devastated her.”

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Rape survivor glad she had her son

Kathy DeZeeuw survived a brutal rape and got pregnant. She tells her story of what happened after the assault:

“I didn’t tell a single person what happened to me, I just went home…. I lived in constant fear, remembering the threats of my attacker and what he would do to me if anyone found out.

I was fearful of being pregnant and having this person’s child. As a result of the fear, I felt ending the life of “his child” was the only solution.

I attempted to abort by swallowing a bottle of aspirin. I ate ant poison and jumped off haystacks, but nothing worked. When the child inside me moved for the first time, I was horrified. But I would come to recognize that I no longer wanted to abort the child.

When my parents discovered I was pregnant, it was decided that the baby would be placed for adoption, so I was sent out of state to a maternity home until after the delivery. While away from my family, I began to feel an attachment to the baby. It was no longer “his child,” it was my child.

After 27 hours of labor, my son was born. Because he was to be placed for adoption, I was not allowed to hold my son, but could only see him from a distance through the nursery window. Even though I had tried to abort my child, now he was a part of me. My maternal feelings had grown so strong that I could not bear to be without him.

With the support of my family, I brought my son home with me. There were times when I would struggle with the memories of the assault, and looking back now, an adoptive home may have provided my son with a more stable upbringing, but I am not sorry that I kept and raised my son.

To me it is an affront every time I hear all the rhetoric from the pro-abortionists. I, having lived through rape, and having also “conceived in rape,” feel personally insulted every time I hear that abortion should be legal because of rape and incest.

I feel like cases like mine are being used to further the abortion issue even though we are not being asked to tell our side of the “rape” issue. My son is not a “misfit,” nor has he in any way turned out to be like his biological father.

The rape still affects me today in only one way: That is, I’m so very blessed and proud of my son.”

Julie Makimaa Kathy Hoffmaster The Hard Cases of Abortion: A Pro-Life Response Family Research Council, 2000, 14 – 15

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Raped woman who had abortion: It didn’t heal my pain

A woman who became pregnant after rape writes about her abortion:

“My child was three and a half weeks old when I made the decision to have an abortion, killing him and wounding my heart forever. …

A few years passed and I tried my best to forget what happened. Stitches were removed, wounds healed and even scars began to fade. From an outside perspective, I looked as though I was doing much better, but my heart was plagued with the decision that I’d made.  I could never fully push it away, despite my best efforts.

I put up a good front, pretending that everything was fine. In reality, I had found my way to a secret life of drugs, alcohol and just about anything else I could do to numb the pain I felt inside my heart…..

Now, nearly five years removed from the decision to have my abortion, I can say with some certainty that I regret it to the fullest extent possible. My heart hurts deeply with the wounds that came from my assault.  But the pain of knowing that I will never meet my child hurts more deeply. While I continue to wonder how I could have coped with having a baby from rape, I know that killing him did nothing to heal my pain.”

After I was raped I aborted my child, but that only increased the pain” LifeSiteNews Feb 24, 2012

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Woman who conceived in rape: I love my beautiful daughter

A woman who was raped and decided to have her baby wrote:

“… I can honestly say that keeping my daughter was a great decision, and I really enjoy being a mother. Although she was conceived in traumatic circumstances, I came to understand that she had done nothing wrong and was not responsible for the way she came into the world.

Some people have judged me harshly for carrying the child of a rapist; but when I look at my daughter I don’t see the face of my rapist – I see my beautiful daughter, who I love. She is the proof that something good can come from something terrible…”

Lisa Firth Issues: Abortion – Rights and Ethics (Great Shelford, Cambridge: Independence, 2009) 22

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Woman pregnant after rape: My daughter is wonderful

A woman who was raped and had her baby says:

“I had no support, and at times I felt like I was drowning in darkness. Yet I had one magnificent secret gift – the flourishing life of my unborn baby. This life gave me a thread of hope to begin to heal. I gave birth to a precious baby girl with blue eyes and dark hair, so tiny and so vulnerable. I named her Jennifer, and I knew she was a sacred gift to be loved and cherished. My daughter is wonderful, and she has touched many lives including my own. I am so thankful for giving birth to her; I have no regrets.”

“This Is Not Your Only Choice” Human Life Alliance 2012

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