Category: Personal Stories

After abortions, we are the parents of children who died

Post abortion father Dr. David Russell:

We’ve all heard the platitudes regarding abortion that are being bandied about the workplace and the schools. “It’s the only choice… It will pass… It will be like nothing ever happened… You can have other children…” You’ve heard them all…

It won’t pass. It will never be like nothing ever happened. Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, from the moment of conception, we are parents, and on some deep level, we realize it. After abortions, we are the parents of children who died, and carry the burdens of our parts in those deaths. No matter how strongly you may believe that you could forget about that child, I can tell you from experience it doesn’t work that way.

Dr. David Russell Through My Father’s Eyes (Mustang, Oklahoma: Tate Publishing and Enterprises, 2016) 44 – 45

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16-year-old girl converts from pro-choice to pro-life after seeing abortion pictures

A 16-year-old pro-choice young woman saw pictures of aborted babies on the Priests for Life website. This is what she said:

“Hello, I am a 16-year-old female and I just finished looking at the pictures on your site and reading what actually happens during an abortion. Up until five minutes ago I was extremely pro-choice. I thought things like, “let women make their own decisions about their own bodies” and things along those lines. Because of your site, I realize that abortion is not a choice about a woman’s body… It is the LIFE of a BABY. Never before did I realize how truly horrible and careless abortion really is. Maybe it’s because I’d never seen the pictures, or read the actual descriptions of abortion. Maybe I was too afraid to know the truth. I really don’t know. But within three minutes of viewing your website, my face was covered in tears. Those pictures just really hurt to look at. I thank you so, so much for your wonderful website. I cannot express how grateful I am that you have shown me the truth about abortion. God bless you. Thank you once again.”

Rev. Frank Pavone Abolishing Abortion: How You Can Play a Part in Ending the Greatest Evil of Our Day (Nashville, Tennessee: Nelson Books, 2015) 166

You can see what abortion pictures like the ones she was talking about here

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Midwife talks about her pro-life views and rape

Midwife and pro-lifer Jeannine Parvati Baker says:

 “Before I first published my book Prenatal Yoga in 1974, I was sure in myself that abortion was “missing the mark” in my own journey as a fertile, spiritual being. I knew that I wouldn’t consider it as an option for myself. So I took the precautions I then thought necessary and used contraceptives–not realizing that I ran an even greater risk of pregnancy with those technological tools than if I had then known fertility awareness. And some forms of contraceptives are actually hidden abortifacients. I was just beginning my heterosexual experience and trusted technology to deliver me from unwanted pregnancy.

Then I had an experience which radically changed my ignorant trust.

I was raped. I had to confront the possibility of carrying and birthing a baby whose beginning was less than auspicious. Throughout the crisis, my belief in the sanctity of life strengthened and I understood that any baby coming from rape was not to be blamed or killed because of my ideals. I wasn’t even married, nor did I have a means of support for a child, yet I trusted that life itself was more precious than these most real, material concerns.

For over a month I waited, unsure of my fate. When I eventually began menstruating, it was with profound relief. Looking back I now realize that this experience, as horrible as it was, was given to me to build my conviction and maintain full credibility as a guardian of life. My path has led me to be a midwife and healer and with integrity I took the vow to “Do No Harm” fully to heart.”

Jeannine Parvati Baker “THE SWORD WAS NOT WITH THE GODDESS: A SPIRITUAL MIDWIFE ADDRESSES THE NEED TO HEAL ABORTION” Feminism & Nonviolence Studies Fall 1998 – Special Issue on Spiritual Diversity

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Sidewalk counselor appeals in vain to clinic escort’s conscience

A pro-choice clinic escort writes about how a pro-life sidewalk counselor tried to appeal (in vain) to another escort.

“The protesters were late coming out. When they did finally show up, they had reinforcements (most likely from Saint John), some of whom we had never seen before. One of them, an elderly woman, came up to one of the escorts and said, in a nice-little-old-lady voice, “You know what I wish you people would do? I wish you would provide these women with all the options. They suffer, I know you see them suffering.” Poor HB (the volunteer in question) could hardly keep in all the clever comebacks, but she did an admirable job.”

“They Say it Comes in Threes” Anti-Choice is Anti-Awesome Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Read about how abortion hurts women emotionally. Read women’s stories about their abortions.

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Keeping my baby conceived in rape was a “great decision”

A woman who was raped and decided to have her baby

“… I can honestly say that keeping my daughter was a great decision, and I really enjoy being a mother. Although she was conceived in traumatic circumstances, I came to understand that she had done nothing wrong and was not responsible for the way she came into the world.

Some people have judged me harshly for carrying the child of a rapist; but when I look at my daughter I don’t see the face of my rapist – I see my beautiful daughter, who I love. She is the proof that something good can come from something terrible…”

“Hard Questions” in Lisa Firth Issues: Abortion – Rights and Ethics (Great Shelford, Cambridge: Independence, 2009) 22

 

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Man on partner’s abortion, 9 years later: my chance of fatherhood is gone

A man wrote 9 years after his partner had an abortion:

I would have made an excellent father, and I feel now at my age (49) my chance has probably gone. And this makes me sad.

Catherine T. Coyle and Vincent M. Rue “A Thematic Analysis of Men’s Experience With a Partner’s Elective Abortion.” Counseling and Values October 2015

Randall K. O’Bannon,” Research reveals men’s sense of grief and helplessness in response to woman’s abortion” NRL News Today October 20, 2015

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Undercover pro-choicer is surprised by what she finds at crisis pregnancy center

Pro-abortion feminist Sarah Mirk went undercover to a pro-life crisis pregnancy center that helps pregnant women. Mirk says:

“The consultation went differently than I thought it would. The counselor wasn’t a Bible beating hell raiser. She didn’t snipe or snarl as she asked me a list of questions about my religious preference and relationship status. Instead, she seemed like a regular woman, a compassionate just past middle-aged woman from a different background than me, dressed a little conservatively.

Maybe, if I’d been born 40 years earlier, to different parents, in a different state, I would’ve wound up in her chair trying to be honest and conservative, rather than critical and liberal.

I told her I didn’t think I was ready to bear my imaginary child, and she nodded kindly.

“This is a major decision,” she said. “The choice is permanent.”

I wasn’t expecting such a balanced response from an organization whose stated mission is “making a life-changing difference in the lives of our unborn.”

At the end of our 10 minute conversation, the counselor wished me well and handed me a fat stack of pamphlets …. Sorting through the glossy flyers and booklets was horrifying. They were antiabortion propaganda… chock full of gory fetus pictures, anguished stories about women who got abortions, and praising, heroic tales of women who decided to keep their children.”

Sarah Mirk “Lucky Breaks and Little Miracles” in Kim Wyatt, Sari Botton Get Out Of My Crotch: 21 Writers Respond to America’s War on Women’s Rights and Reproductive Health (South Lake Tahoe, California: Cherry Bomb Books, 2012) Kindle edition

If the “gory” fetus pictures (like these) and stories (like these) are true, is it really “horrifying” to share them? Shouldn’t women be able to learn the truth before they submit to surgery? Does she really think she will get a thorough and unbiased material from abortion clinics? If you think so, go here. 

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Woman has abortion, father doesn’t know yet

A reporter at an abortion clinic observes an abortion patient named Keesha going in for counseling:

In her counseling session, Keesha explains that she’s going back to school and it isn’t a good time in her life to have another baby. The man who got her pregnant is out on the streets, and she expects to see him again, but he doesn’t know she’s here today.

“He thinks he got me knocked up and I’ll have his baby,” she says. “But I ain’t worried about what he’ll do when he finds out.”

Linda Feldmann “Abortion: Uneasy Day at the Clinic” The Christian Science Monitor JANUARY 22, 1998

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Man regrets partner’s abortion 11 years later

Married father of 2, with his wife’s agreement, aborted her 3rd child:

“Hardly a day goes by that I don’t shudder and almost weep again for the murder I helped to bring about. Quite often I even wake up in the morning thinking painfully of the undeniably selfish act I did over 11 years ago – STILL! I know I overrode in my core being my conscience (dulled at the time) and my Fatherhood instinct. No two ways about it: I acted – no, I was a coward. My action, despite my confession and repentance before my Creator – continues to rob much of the joy from my life.”

“A Father’s Testimony: I Was a Coward” priestsforlife.org

Quoted in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

 

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Postabortion father; ‘If only we’d kept the baby’

A man who at 17 convinced his girlfriend to have an abortion looks back on the experience 24 years later:

“It’s amazing to think that back then we thought our lives would be ruined with the birth of a baby. 24 years later, we both know that our lives would’ve been significantly better if we had kept the child. 24 years of pain and suffering could’ve been avoided if we had just dealt with a few months of disappointing friends and family. The true friends and family would have eventually come around and supported us – we know that now. We could have had our daughter, who would be graduating college by now. We would not have gone through the depression and struggles that we did.

If we only kept the baby…”

“Reflections from a Father” priestsforlife.org in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

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