Category: Men and Abortion

Post abortion father Dr. David Russell:

We’ve all heard the platitudes regarding abortion that are being bandied about the workplace and the schools. “It’s the only choice… It will pass… It will be like nothing ever happened… You can have other children…” You’ve heard them all…

It won’t pass. It will never be like nothing ever happened. Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, from the moment of conception, we are parents, and on some deep level, we realize it. After abortions, we are the parents of children who died, and carry the burdens of our parts in those deaths. No matter how strongly you may believe that you could forget about that child, I can tell you from experience it doesn’t work that way.

Dr. David Russell Through My Father’s Eyes (Mustang, Oklahoma: Tate Publishing and Enterprises, 2016) 44 – 45

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A man wrote 9 years after his partner had an abortion:

I would have made an excellent father, and I feel now at my age (49) my chance has probably gone. And this makes me sad.

Catherine T. Coyle and Vincent M. Rue “A Thematic Analysis of Men’s Experience With a Partner’s Elective Abortion.” Counseling and Values October 2015

Randall K. O’Bannon,” Research reveals men’s sense of grief and helplessness in response to woman’s abortion” NRL News Today October 20, 2015

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Married father of 2, with his wife’s agreement, aborted her 3^rd child:

“Hardly a day goes by that I don’t shudder and almost weep again for the murder I helped to bring about. Quite often I even wake up in the morning thinking painfully of the undeniably selfish act I did over 11 years ago – STILL! I know I overrode in my core being my conscience (dulled at the time) and my Fatherhood instinct. No two ways about it: I acted – no, I was a coward. My action, despite my confession and repentance before my Creator – continues to rob much of the joy from my life.”

“A Father’s Testimony: I Was a Coward” priestsforlife.org

Quoted in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

 

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A man who at 17 convinced his girlfriend to have an abortion looks back on the experience 24 years later:

“It’s amazing to think that back then we thought our lives would be ruined with the birth of a baby. 24 years later, we both know that our lives would’ve been significantly better if we had kept the child. 24 years of pain and suffering could’ve been avoided if we had just dealt with a few months of disappointing friends and family. The true friends and family would have eventually come around and supported us – we know that now. We could have had our daughter, who would be graduating college by now. We would not have gone through the depression and struggles that we did.

If we only kept the baby…”

“Reflections from a Father” priestsforlife.org in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

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Postabortion father Jeff Bradford:

“I hid and suppressed the realization that the only reason our oldest daughter was not alive today was due to my own cowardice. I went to my wedding, pretending to be an upright, moral young man with my bride dressed all in white. She was beautiful, and we looked great on the outside. No one could see the brokenness we were both hiding so well. We had aborted our first child just months before.

For 15 years, I was too ashamed to tell anyone what I had done, except my best friend. My wife and I never talked about it, we did not grieve together, and we hid it deep in the recesses of our minds. Our marriage began to unravel, and through extensive counseling, we realized how much of our struggle had come down to the decision to end the life of our first child. We began to deal with our shame and guilt. We realized the extent of the mental and emotional trauma it caused. There were many levels – resentment, a lack of forgiveness, feelings of abandonment – all revealed as we dealt with the reality of this decision many years earlier…

There is not a day that goes by that I don’t regret my decision. After all, any good father would jump in front of a train to save the life of his child. The life of our first daughter, Sara, should not have been any different.”

Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

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Phil McCombs, journalist for the Washington Post, and post-abortion father, wrote:

“I feel like a murderer… I was not by her side to support her. I turned my face away. My behavior was in all respects craven, immoral.  [The baby] would have inconvenienced me. I’d had my fun. He didn’t fit into my plans… His name, which I carved on my heart, was Thomas … I still grieve for little Thomas. It is an ocean of grief.”

Phil McCombs “Remembering Thomas” Washington Post, February 3, 1995

Quoted in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

 

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Dr. Keith Ablow, a psychiatrist says he has:

“listened to dozens of men express lingering, sometimes intense, pain over abortions that proceeded either without their consent, or without them having spoken up about their desires to bring their children to term and parent.”

Dr. Keith Ablow “Men Should Be Allowed to Veto Abortions” Fox News.com July 22, 2011

Quoted in Brian E Fisher Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women (Frisco, Texas: Online for Life, 2013) Kindle edition

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A man whose partner had an abortion said this:

“I conceded to an abortion. And even as a pastor, that decision still haunts me today. What would that child look like? Would it be boy? Would it be a girl? Their first steps, saying ‘daddy,’ watching them grow – but those are just dreams, and dreams which often leave me heartbroken.”

“The Apology’ – Men speak up about abortion” CNA Catholic News Agency  Jan 21, 2015

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