Abortion On A Troubled, Hurting 14 Year Old, Lead To Her Suicide

Pro-choice activists are quick to say that the emotional trauma that many women feel after an abortion does not exist. However, studies show that a teenager who has an abortion is ten times more likely to commit suicide than a teenager who has not had one.

The statistics, however, do not tell the whole story. Each girl who commits suicide has a story to tell. There are faces behind the statistics.

One such face is that of Sandra Kaiser, who committed suicide when she was just fourteen.

In October of 1984, 14-year-old Sandra Kaiser went to a Planned Parenthood with her 21-year-old half-sister, Karen Flynn. The test was positive, and Sandra told Karen she wanted an abortion. Karen made an appointment and took Sandra to Reproductive Health Services (RHS) for a safe and legal abortion.

Karen later said that during the counseling session, Sandra did not seem ambivalent, and said that she thought she was too young to have a child. Sandra also lied, saying that her mother knew of the abortion plan, approved of it, and had provided the money to pay for it. Three days later, Karen brought Sandra back to RHS for the abortion.

It is important to note that Sandra had already led a very troubled life. At age 7 she witnessed the stabbing death of one of her half-brothers. At age 11 she was diagnosed with a conduct disorder. By age 12 her problems included drinking alcohol, running away from home, temper outbursts, skipping school, crying, and nightmares about her brother’s death. She was hospitalized at least twice and had received outpatient therapy and medication. She was, in short, a high-risk abortion patient, likely to suffer severe psychological after-effects.

Sandra signed the consent form, and Karen signed in the space for parent/guardian. The two sisters also filled out the other paperwork for the abortion. They checked “No” in answer to the question, “Have you ever been hospitalized other than for childbirth.” Karen later said that they checked “No” despite Sandra’s psychiatric hospitalization because she believed the question only pertained to hospitalization for physican ailments.

Sandra was then shown a film called First Trimester Informed Consent. The film said, “A few women have negative emotional feelings after an abortion. You may feel slightly depressed, but those feelings are normal. .. [S]evere depression is not to be expected. If you are severely depressed after this abortion, it may be that your feelings about ending a pregnancy have not yet been completely resolved.”

After the abortion, Sandra holed up in her room a lot, crying. About three weeks after the abortion, Sandra’s mother overheard Sandra talking to her boyfriend on the phone. The boyfriend had supposedly gotten another girl pregnant. Sandra said that she was going to go jump off a bridge. Half an hour later, Sandra went to an overpass and leaped into traffic.

The driver of the car that hit her stopped and stood by Sandra, waving his arms to alert oncoming traffic to her presence in the road. The driver behind him stopped his car as well, and began flashing his headlights and sounding his horn to alert traffic. A woman driving an oncoming car saw the man waving his arms, and the car with lights flashing, and became confused and alarmed. She drove past them, running over Sandra.

Upon arriving at her destination, this driver told a friend of the strange event. The friend suggested that they return to the scene to find out what had happened. By the time they arrived, the police had arrived, Sandra was being loaded into an ambulance, and somebody had found Sandra’s mother and brought her to the scene. The woman driver told the police what had happened, and no charges were brought against her.

Sandra died later of multiple internal injuries.

Sandra’s mother sued RHS for her daughter’s death, charging that they had failed to contact the her mother in compliance with the law. An expert noted that at the time of Sandra’s death, she had been depressed for several weeks, that the suicide was a direct consequence of this depression, and that the abortion was the “straw that broke the camel’s back.” The judge ruled that Sandra’s mother and her witnesses failed to prove that the clinic had been negligent in exploring Sandra’s history, and that Sandra had not been proved to have killed herself due to an uncontrollable impulse. To add insult to injury, the suicide had occurred during the time that the Missouri law governing consent of minors to abortion was enjoined by the Federal courts, so the law to protect Sandra and girls like her did not apply.

Two young women, Diane Boyd and Nichole Williams, died of complications of abortions performed on them by Robert Crist at RHS.

Sources: Eidson v. Reproductive Health Services, 863 S.W.2d 621 (Mo. App. E.D., 1993), accident report

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Young Woman Commits Suicide To Be With Her Aborted Baby

In the most tragic cases of all, the sense of loss and guilt after an abortion drives a woman to suicide. Arlin della Cruz’s case will never be cited as a statistic of fatal abortion complications, but her death was due to abortion just the same.

Christina Dunigan writes:

A woman I used to picket with in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, told me of a day she was outside one of Harrisburg’s two safe and legal abortion facilities. The clinic was set back from the street by an expanse of lawn, with a parking lot to the side and back. Sidewalk counselors would stand in the alley, where they could call to the women as they got out of their cars. The picketers would stand on the sidewalk in front, where patients could see their signs from the waiting room.

The woman saw a middle-aged white couple get out of a car. They opened the back door and pulled out a teenage girl who appeared to be Filipino. The girl was crying. The sidewalk counselors called out to her, and she tried to move toward them, the picketer said, but the middle-aged white couple took the girl by the arms and led her toward the front of the building.

The picketer called out to the clinic escort. “Can’t you see she doesn’t want to do this? I can’t step on your property, but you can help her. You’re pro-choice, right? Can’t you help her?”

According to the picketer, the escort smirked at her, then held the facility door open, to make it easier for the couple to propel the girl into the clinic.

The next time she saw that girl’s face, the picketer told me, was on the news.

It was October of 1992, and the news story was about the suicide of 19-year-old Arlin Della Cruz. She had disappeared from her home. A search found her hanging from a tree in a nearby woods. “Under her shirt, the coroner found Arlin’s favorite stuffed animal — a rabbit.” Arlin’s mother said that Arlin had left a suicide note saying that she wanted to go be with her baby.

One of Arlin’s friends reported that Arlin wanted the baby, but chose abortion to try to salvage her relationship with her boyfriend.

If the picketer’s observations are correct, Arlin had serious second thoughts the day of the abortion.

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Woman Recalls Sister Who Committed Suicide After Abortions

The Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion by Theresa Karminski Burke and David C. Reardon tells the stories of woman who have had abortions and suffered trauma from the experience. One woman identified as “Julie” told the story of her sister who had an abortion after being the victim of incest.

Julie’s sister eventually went on to have three children. She suffered tremendously from memories of the incest and also of the abortion, and went through many years of counseling.

As an adult, she became pregnant for a fifth time and was encouraged by those around her to have a second abortion. After the abortion, the woman’s problems became worse and she ended up killing herself. Julie wants abortion clinics to have better counseling and to screen prospective patients better. She says:

“She [my sister] was crying when she entered the clinic; she cried throughout the procedure, and was sobbing as she left. No one at the clinic asked her any questions that might upset her any more. But of course, had anyone asked her, they might have recognized that she was not emotionally strong enough to stand the abortion. Had they inquired about her health history they may have seen her as the high risk patient she was.

None of this took place. One week after the abortion, she took her life with a gunshot to the chest, striking her heart. Her three children are growing up without their mom because no one wanted to ask questions.

I am suggesting nothing that would bar any healthy, determined woman from obtaining an abortion she is sure she wants. But abortion without regulation doesn’t give her a chance to make all the decisions based on the true facts and the security of knowing that as much as possible has been done to protect her against criminal-minded persons and inferior medical practices.”

Excerpted from Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion by Theresa Kurminski Burke with David C. Reardon (Springfield, IL: Acorn Books) 2000

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Woman Silent About Her Abortion For Many Years

“I was in an unhappy marriage and my husband didn’t want a baby.

[The abortion was] very clinical and impersonal and no compassion. Absolutely no information given about the development of the baby. Referred to a clinic by Planned Parenthood. No encouragement to consider adoption.
Haven’t been able to talk about it with anyone except present husband. Blocked it for many years. Only through Jesus have I known complete forgiveness.”

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“Bitterness, Hate, rage.” – Woman Asked About Abortion’s Effect On Her

How did you come to have the abortion(s) and who was involved?

“I was unmarried, pregnant by a man I dated for two months.”

How would you describe your abortion(s)?

“I remember the noise of the suction machine. I remember crying all the way home. I remember being the first to get up and leave.”

How did your abortion(s) affect you and others?

“Bitterness, hate, rage.”

How do you think your abortion(s) changed your life?

“Now, then or the years in between? I was so guilty, and dysfunctionally unhealthy. I tried to end the relationships I was in. Therefore, we continued dating and 2 years later found ourselves pregnant again. We now have a daughter.

This is extremely difficult for me.”

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Abortion Profitable For All Involved, Except For Mother/Baby, Says Post Abortive Woman

How would you describe your abortion(s)?

“Emotionally confusing, draining. Done at Planned Parenthood. First time by doctor in office. Efficient, calculating, clean. Profitable for everyone involved but me and my babies.”

 

How did your abortion(s) affect you and others?

“I’m 33 and have a lot of life ahead of me I hope, if it is God’s Will. I believe I’ve walked with the devil. I know hate and pain and depression. I know what it is to fight suicidal thoughts and tendencies. I know the feeling of life without goodness and happiness and peace and contentment.”

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Decades Later Woman Relives Pain Of Her Abortions

“Today I am 50 years old. When I was 16 I got pregnant and initially planned on having my baby…but my mother pressured me into having this “operation” and to forget about it. My boyfriend went into denial, and so I thought that if the doctors, government and my Mom thought it was okay, that it must be. In my twenties I was again single and pregnant, my boyfriend pressured me to abort, sadly I did. This time I went to an abortion clinic, it was horrific, I was wide awake, it was VERY painful, I went into shock and felt like I had been raped again.

I got an infection, damaged cervix, badly scarred uterus, and was only able to have one child, a beautiful son, he is 15 years old and I love being a Mom. Doctors said that due to the damage done as a result of those abortions, they couldn’t believe I had him! Children are a blessing, they will never hurt you. Don’t believe the lies. God will help you, there is help. It’s a baby. Abortion deeply hurt me, and killed my children, it is a wrong, and not a right!”

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Hurt By Abortion, Woman Now Ministering To Those In Similar Situations

“I was 19 years old and had lost my virginity the year before. I always believed abortion was wrong and that it was murder. I told my mother when I was 9 weeks and the whole family joined in on persuading me. My mother told me that if I didn’t have [the abortion] she would kick me out of the house.

It was a nightmare. They strapped my legs down. I got very upset and kept saying I’m killing my baby and the doctor kept trying to calm me. They didn’t want the others to hear me. I lifted my head up and saw the jar and what was left of my 12 week old baby.

I gave my life to the Lord and with His forgiveness I can begin to forgive myself. That is the hardest part — doing something and knowing how wrong it was. It was a heavy burden to carry. I have forgiven myself but at times I still cry tears over my baby.

It made me able to see that the situation a girl is in isn’t just black and white. I now volunteer counsel, trying to use my experience for good.”

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Abortion Worker: The Clinic Administrators Exploit Us

A worker at an abortion clinic was quoted saying:

“They [the administrators] have this pin that says “The Woman’s Care Center: Working for the Lives of Women” or something. They do, but not for the lives of the women that work there. They exploit women who work there, and they abuse them…It’s just like working for someone who’s sexist. You have to be “in” to be treated fairly…which I think is not right.”

Abortion at Work: Ideology and Practice in a Feminist Clinic by Wendy Simonds, Rutgers University Press, New Brunswick, NJ., 1996 146

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Woman Not Informed Of Post Abortion Complications

How would you describe your abortion(s)?

“Very painful. I was very misinformed about the after effects, the emotional and physical complications. I was deceived by all I had read or heard in my medical referrals to have an abortion. It was a rough procedure. I bled a lot there and after I got home. I was hurried out the door shortly afterward. I knew as soon as my uterus was violated that I had participated in a murder. My spirit fragmented and the evil that was in that clinic came in all around me. I lost my mind.”

How did your abortion(s) affect you and others?

“I had a severe emotional collapse. I was thinking of killing myself. I cried every day for a year or more. I did not get along with anyone too well. I was not a very good mother. I had marriage problems that led to a divorce. I felt like I hated the world. I suffered nightmares, bad thoughts while awake. Every time the vacuum was used I thought about how my baby died. I wanted another baby. I did get pregnant approximately one year after the abortion and had a replacement baby. I grieved for years.”

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