Post-Abortive Women Hopes Others Won’t Make the Same Mistake

In 1991 I found myself a difficult situation. I was 15 years old and pregnant. I desperately wanted to keep the child but was forced by my mother to have an abortion. I am traumatized by the fact that I felt I had to “get rid of it” or betray my mothers choice. I think about it everyday when the sun is shining on me, how good it feels, how I created this little life and then so horribly deleted it, how this person will never feel the sun, or see a beautiful sunrise. I would not ever suggest having this procedure performed. It’s so disgraceful. My Mom thinks that she did me a favor, when really I feel absolutely terrible. I cry about it all of the time. Don’t do it, it will affect you and your unborn baby forever. No matter how bad you feel or how much you want to change your decision afterwards you can never. Those doctors are murderers.

KL

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Postabortion Woman: I Will Live with This till the Day I Die

I wish I had seen this information two years ago. Every day of my life until the day I die I will live with what I did to my child. The pain never goes away. I would like for anyone who is contemplating an abortion to know that it is not an answer and it is not an easy way out. I have two children,and giving birth and raising babies is much easier than living and dealing with the pain that you will feel when one day you wake up and realize that you murdered your child, and there is nothing that you can do to change that.You can not take abortion back,it will haunt you for the rest of your life.I pray to the lord for forgiveness,and I also pray for another chance to give my baby life. The only thought that enables me to keep a grip on my sanity is knowing that the Lord Jesus Christ is holding and loving my sweet baby in his hands.

JE

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Find Out As Much As You Can Before Aborting, Says One Woman

I just celebrated my 21st birthday, and if I hadn’t chosen to have an abortion just over a year ago I would be celebrating my child’s very first birthday. The due date was May 23, 1998. A date that I will never in my life forget. To all the young ladies that are trying to find out as much information as you can on the internet or this web site in fact let me tell you first hand that there are many things you need to consider before making this decision. This decision will be one that you will NEVER forget! Read this web page and then ask yourself the question…..Why are you doing this? If you are having an abortion because anyone but yourself thinks this is the best choice for you, you need to rethink this. The choice I made haunts me everyday of my life. I never go a day without thinking of it and praying to God that he forgives me for what I have done. My heart goes out to any girl that has to make this decision. Your not alone and there are people out there that can help you with this.

Sincerely,

From someone who has been there 4/14/99

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Postabortion Woman Suffers Grief, Despair, and Guilt

In an article in The British Medical Journal Sept 2, 2000, entitled “Abortion: A Hell of a Decision” a woman writes:

“Slowly I began to notice little babies, and grief started to eat into my calm exterior. Pain such as I had never felt before worked its way into my vulnerable mind, and I realized that I was crumbling. The numb feeling that had protected me for so long was ebbing away, and I didn’t know what to do. The reality of the termination had hit me in the form of grief and despair and above all guilt. I tried to reason with myself that I had no option, but that grief was being translated into anger. …. I couldn’t sleep at night and during the day I alternated between self pity and pain. Worst of all were the frequent moments when tears just poured uncontrollably down my face.”

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Woman Haunted by Abortion at Nine Weeks

Another woman posted a story under the heading “I’m Pro-Choice But….

Here is an excerpt:

“It is the worse feeling in the world, to know lying on that table, that you can’t take it back. I have struggled with depression, flashbacks, anxiety and a big sense of loss. I also struggle with guilt, the guilt of having actually taken a life, yes a life. I believe now that life begins at conception. No it didn’t look like a peanut, or a glob of jelly; it had arms, legs and eyes and moved around, although it was too early for me to feel.

I was 9 weeks. I lost my life after i lost my child, i had to give up my apartment because i was too unstable to stay alone, and the memories, well they were overwhelming…..”

 

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There Would Be Less Abortions If People Knew The Truth, Says One Post Abortive Mother

I am a 20 year old woman who had an abortion 3 yrs. ago. I think it is appalling how these clinics lie. I was nine weeks pregnant and they told me my baby looked like was a piece of skin, that is had no heartbeat,or feeling. I had a friend recommend me to this website and I know its murder, and I know that if the clinic would actually tell the truth, there wouldn’t be so many abortions. There is so much pain involved, not only physically, but mentally as well. That clinic never told me that I would feel bad about this later, or that it reduces my chance of having kids, or about the risks of breast cancer. All they wanted was my money. They don’t care about these women, all they care about is getting that abortion done, and getting the money. I really like your site and I wish you the best of luck!
Please just sign me,

Anonymous

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Forever Childless And Broken Hearted After Abortion

I had an abortion 10 years ago to date. I cant have children because of an infection I contracted after my abortion. I’m 25 years old. I beg people to practice safe sex. I didn’t think it could happen to me and it did. I’m a smart girl but it still happens. I used to be pro-choice to an extreme and hate all pro lifers. I definitely have changed my mind after seeing the online movie “the silent scream”. I can only imagine what my poor baby went through. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about my child. When I decided to get my abortion at 15 (without needing my parents consent) Planned Parenthood acted like I was just ordering the #5 combo meal from their fast food restaurant. There was no counseling, nothing. I beg , please, for any couple considering abortion don’t do it! If you don’t want your baby, I DO! Don’t let anyone talk you into killing your child! My boyfriend said he would leave me, I wish he did. Then at least I would still have my precious baby.

Signed,
forever broken hearted

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Woman Who Regrets Her Abortion Wishes She Had More Counseling At the Clinic

“I’m so sad… I’m so regretful for what could have been. …. Will I ever get over my regret? I want my baby back. …. I wish I would have thought through it more. I wish I would have taken the time to visit old friends I haven’t seen in a long time… who have little children in their thirties. But I didn’t… I was feeling pressed for time. As the more time that went by, the more attached I got. I was confused, I felt fat already and uncomfortable in my clothes. I wasn’t married. Didn’t want to get married… But would love to hold another big, fat healthy baby. I knew, with this one, there would be no arguing, no divorce or custody issues. I would be with this baby each and every day of its life. But its life never came to be… I’m still so sad… I feel I made the wrong choice. I believe in Pro-Choice… but why aren’t those clinics given more counseling requirements. Why couldn’t they be forced to make me wait another day or week? Perhaps I would be a very happy expecting mother… Now I’ll never know whether or not I made the right choice. I’m still so sad.”

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Never Let Anyone Talk You into an Abortion, Says Woman Who Aborted

I’m 23 I had a termination when I was 18. I had no idea how far I was, and I was in two minds.

The doctors and nurses seemed like they didn’t have any time for me. If only I was offered a scan then my baby would have been here now. I still regret what I done. Every morning when I wake up my baby is the first thing on my mind and the last at night. I still brake down and cry. When I had the operation the moment I woke up I felt empty. I knew I made the wrong decision. I don’t know what to do because I’m so depressed. I know now that I was talked in to doing it from my boyfriend and his mum. I torture myself by seeing those photos but its because I hate myself. If you are in two minds never ever go ahead with the termination. NEVER NEVER let anyone talked you in to it. My heart brakes when I think about what my baby was going through. Even the day when my boyfriend drove me to the hospital I was sobbing thinking this little person doesn’t know what his/hers mum is about to do to you. My boyfriend still kept saying shut up its the right thing. Why did I do it? I was a selfish bitch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EK

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Woman Has an Abortion to Please her Partner, Regrets It

A woman who calls herself pro-choice wrote the following:

“I just want my child back and I can never have that. (Expletive), I am never going to heal from this. I’m just going to live in regret, agony, and tears for the rest of my life. I have no purpose.

For a few fleeting moments my purpose was to be a mother and all that is gone now and I am left with nothing. And the would-be daddy? He didn’t give a (expletive). He just wanted me to kill it. He never cared one ounce about his child I was carrying. He didn’t want the responsibility even though he was physically and financially able to give his child the life it deserved. So now here I am. Alone. Empty. Utterly empty. Nothing can replace the child I wanted more than anything when I found out I was pregnant. But that chance has passed and now I am left alone. Crying. Alone. Inconsolable. I no longer have a purpose except to be miserable.”

This quote can be found on this page.

She describes why she had an abortion here.

“What is making it so difficult for me is the fact that I didn’t want to have an abortion. When I found out I was pregnant I wanted the baby. I knew I couldn’t handle an abortion, I knew I didn’t want one, I knew as I sat in the clinic crying I should leave but I didn’t. I got on that table crying, shaking, being told by the nurses I needed to calm down so they could give me the anesthesia. It was horrible. It was traumatic. I don’t know why I didn’t leave. I let TK convince me if I did it everything would be OK, that he was going to take care of everything and make it better. I knew in my gut that was not going to happen. I knew I shouldn’t abort my child but I wanted to believe in the impossible. I wanted to believe that if I did it magically TK and I were going to have some kind of wonderful relationship. We didn’t have a relationship before I got pregnant, why would I think we could have one after? I longed for what I had never had – love, family, someone to be there for me. I knew if I kept the baby TK was going to shut me out so stupidly I did what he asked me to, I aborted my baby.”

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