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Man tried to talk partner out of abortion, was in mourning 32 years later

A man named Karl Locker tried to convince his partner not to abort his baby, but in the end gave in and drove her to the abortion clinic. He says:

“I tried everything, I offered to marry her, to take the baby myself, or to offer it up for adoption. She said she could never give her child up for adoption – it didn’t make cognitive sense…

I didn’t know how I was going to survive; I wasn’t going to jump off a bridge, but I probably would have drank myself to death. I’ve thought about what happened every day for the last 32 years.”

Eventually married another woman and had a family.

“The men who feel left out of US abortion debate” BBC News August 28, 2019

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Young woman pressured into abortion, Planned Parenthood didn’t help her

A post-abortive woman was pressured by her boyfriend, and Planned Parenthood did not help her:

“When I began to realize I was pregnant, [her boyfriend] told me that if I were, I was going to get an abortion… I finally went to CVS to buy a pregnancy test. I took the test as soon as we got home, and it was positive. The first thing my boyfriend said was, “Call Planned Parenthood.”

I started to cry, and he began to yell. …I always get very afraid when he begins to yell, and when I tried to offer up an alternative, he said no.

“It should be your choice, but -” He said that he was not “ready to be a father.” …

He made me call Planned Parenthood less than five minutes after finding out I was pregnant; I scheduled an appointment for one week later. This whole time, I felt more and more connected with my baby girl. My boyfriend told me that he would kick me out if I kept our baby, and I would have no place to live.
I called Planned Parenthood when I was able to get alone (to tell them the situation), and they told me that I would just have to tell him I didn’t want to do it. They did not care what would happen to me. I pleaded with them to work with me, just until I could find something to help me.

I asked them if they could do an ultrasound for me. I told them that if I could get an ultrasound and show it to my boyfriend – who is much older than me – he would not make me abort my baby. However, Planned Parenthood told me that they would do a free ultrasound before the abortion to confirm the age of the baby, but if I did not get the abortion, I would have to pay over $100. I did not have the money, and did not know anywhere to turn. However, I did want to keep my baby. …

On the day of the abortion, the nurse knew my situation, but offered no help except for abortion. I cried, so helpless and alone, knowing my poor baby girl was about to be killed. The nurse just told me that they would give me a sedative before the abortion began. Still, I cried through the abortion….
I have had depression and dreams of my little girl ever since….Now, I have to live with this guilt for the rest of my life. I blame myself for the whole thing, and contemplated suicide for months after the abortion….

My boyfriend is happily going on with his usual routine. However, I’m sitting here a few days after my due date – which was Mother’s Day – and I think about how I was forced to give up on my own daughter. By the time my daughter would have been born, I had made enough money to be able to rent an apartment with a roommate and support Xianna – but I don’t have her.
Eleven of my friends just had their babies within the last three months, and a few more will have theirs very soon. I envy pregnant women, and have withdrawn myself from them all. I cannot be around pregnant women or children.”

Guest Contributor “LETTER I was forced to abort my baby – and I’m not alone” Live Action News May 20, 2016

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My abortion was a “peak experience” says woman

Ingrid Andersson has had abortions, both by pill and surgically. She describes how she felt after one of them:

“this profound sense of liberation, a profound sense of ‘My life has come back tenfold. It was sort of a revelatory, peak moment, or peak experience, of life. That’s what an abortion can be if it’s well supported.”

The article says:

“Andersson, who has a 17-year-old son, said she has had abortions, including in clinics and at home. She is happy and her son is happy because he was wanted, she said.”

DAVID WAHLBERG “New Madison group offers ‘abortion doulas,’ supports pregnancy options” Wisconsin State Journal Aug 9, 2019

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Woman describes extremely painful abortion

This woman seems to have gone through a second trimester abortion, which takes two visits to commit. At the first visit, laminaria are inserted to dilate the cervix, at the second, the baby is dismembered with forceps and removed piece by piece.

“I didn’t expect the dialation to hurt much. As soon as I got into the operating room I started crying. My nurse was pretty cold and she told me to stop crying and that it would only make things worse. I pleaded for them to stop and told them I didn’t want to do it anymore but since I had signed the consent form they proceeded. I started freaking out when they told me they would put a needle into my cervix but I wasn’t looking and when they did it I just felt a little pain. I must have sworn because the nurse got a little miffed. What hurt the most was being open by some metal thing. I was hyper ventilating and all the nurse said was, “You got yourself into this” and “stop making this harder for yourself”.

As soon as they let me leave I hugged my boyfriend and cried. I cried on the way home because of the pain I just felt. I was angry at the nurse and dreaded the next day when the actualy surgery would begin. In a few minutes I cramped up terrible and took my tylenol 3. The medication did not make me feel much better and I cried and cried at the motel until I fell asleep.

Those cramps were nothing compared to the ones I had the next morning when I took the cyotec medicine at 6:30 a.m. I cried and rolled around. I was screaming and moaning for nearly an hour. Finaly, I called 911 and had the paramedics come. A woman explained to me I was in premature labour. All I could do was cry and moan, “It’s hurting me, It hurts”. It was definately the worst pain I have EVER felt in my life. The paramedics called a taxi and he drove my boyfriend and I to the clinic.

I got to the clinic and waited in that damn room for nearly twenty minutes. I was moaning, clutching onto the chair with my head tilted back and breathing heavily. The other girls who were probably no more than a month pregnant pretended not to notice. They called me in and gave me some ativan. In no time I was relaxed and when they inserted the IV in I didn’t have a care in the world. The nurse who I had been so angry at the day before now seemed nicer than ever. I didn’t feel much pain. it felt like they were reaching all the way inside me to my neck and I just said something along the lines of, “Oh my gosh” a few times. Even though I felt pain I was so relaxed it didn’t both me.

I felt a wet thing down my leg and we were finished. I went to recovery and tripped out. It felt like 10 minutes but it must have been two hours. i felt fine the rest of the day and still do. Happy I did this. No regrets. Pain was nearly unbearable but worth it.”

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Young woman glad she chose adoption over abortion

A young woman who had originally wanted an abortion put her baby up for adoption instead. Her story was told in the Grand Rapids Press:

“I decided right away I wanted my baby to be adopted. Adoption was right because I was only 16 and worked at Domino’s Pizza and, despite how grown-up I had to be for the next months, I wasn’t grown-up enough to raise a baby…..

Laila was born on May 23. That was the hardest day of my life — physically and emotionally. Laila Noelle was born at 5:34 p.m. She was a beautiful 6 pounds 9 ounces and 19 3/4 inches long. Holding her and having her look at me with her big dark eyes made me cry, because I almost had had an abortion…..

I thought I wanted an abortion, because it seemed like something you could just do and never worry about again. But, in my experience, I think about my baby all the time and I’m really happy to know she is here.”

Anje Schepers, a teenage girl from Grand Rapids who made an adoption plan for her child after trying to get an abortion.

Quoted at Jivin’Jehoshaphat

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Father mourns after wife aborts their son against his will

Post-abortion father Kevin Albin tells his story:

“We had been together for a year and a half when she found out that she was eight weeks pregnant. At the time, we were both happy, and I thought at first that things were going to get better now that we were expecting a baby. Over the next several weeks, we began talking about what we would need. I had started making plans for a nursery, and we started buying things for the baby! She was just as excited as me. At about the 19th week, just seven days away from hopefully finding out the sex of the baby, things took a drastic change.

She went to a party at her family’s house that I did not go to with her because I was working. A few days later, out of nowhere, she comes to me and says she has decided she is killing our baby (obviously, that is not what she said, but because of my strong stance, this is what I believe abortion is, especially this far into the pregnancy) and that I had no say whatsoever in the matter.

For the next week, I pleaded with her. I begged her to let me adopt the child, but she refused to listen. She wanted me to take her to the procedure. I said no, and I began to pray that she would change her mind or chicken out. Two days later, she came back home and said it was over and that “it was a boy.”

I was so enraged that I told her we were through, and I gave her 24 hours to get out … I just could not face her without seeing what she did…. It took me a very long time to even forgive her, and, of course, by that time, it was too late. I never really had a chance to get closure and find out what made her change her mind out of the blue….

[T]here is not a day that goes by that I do not grieve for my lost son… In most cases, abortion advocates scream that men do not have an argument in the fight, that we have absolutely no say because we are just ‘sperm donors’ according to their logic.

The reality is that men feel an immense amount of pain as well, and we hold on to our own fair share of demons, whether it was our decision or not…There are so many fathers I talk to who have felt lost because they feel they have no rights and would do anything to hold on to their child.”

Kevin Albin “My Experience With Abortion And Its Effects” Human Defense March 22, 2019

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British study gives reasons why pregnancies end in abortion

A study on abortion from England said:

“Having surveyed vast numbers of reports on unplanned pregnancy, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists concluded that a pregnancy was particularly likely to end in abortion “if it would force the woman to abandon her plans for herself, or if she lacks the income, housing and personal support that she needs to cope with the child.”

Royal College of Obstetricians Gynecologists “Report of the RCOG Working Party on Unplanned Pregnancy” (London: RCOG, 1991) 10

Quoted in Ann Furedi Unplanned Pregnancy: Your Choices (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1996) 67

Furedi is the director of a chain of abortion clinics in England.

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“Feminist” says her abortion brought her “pain” and “loss”

From a post-abortive woman who describes herself as “a feminist, a leftist, a liberally-educated eternal student” in her blog:

“I lost a baby, a baby that never got a name. Lost it on purpose, days after the thirty-fifth anniversary of Roe v. Wade. It was my first, one accident dropped into years of carefulness. I had wanted it in an abstract way for several years, but it came at a time that wasn’t right, and it didn’t have the father I would want to raise a child with. The feminist in me shrinks away from talking about the pain of that loss. Even though my heart believes I sent it back so it could return at a better time, there’s fountain of pain and a kind of aloneness I had never experienced that seems to gush interminably.

The interminable is relative, of course. Time has passed. I cry less. My body that for five weeks swelled in anticipation fits into my clothes again. I’m no longer avoiding the hugs of friends to protect my sore breasts.

I dream about the baby, the one with no name. In the dreams, I am overwhelmed with trying to find someone to help me care for it, of hearing it call the babysitter “mama” because its mother can never be there. When this happens, I feel like I made the right choice for myself and the children that will come. But I still grieve.”

She took the abortion pill at Planned Parenthood and describes her experience:

“I asked if I’d feel sick before taking the second round. It’s unlikely, they said. I woke up vomiting, and I vomited all day until I wished I were dead, especially knowing that I had to take pills that *do* cause nausea and vomiting. Severe cramping, bleeding, and more vomiting ensued within 30 minutes of taking the misoprostol. That was when I wished I could change my mind and have a surgical procedure instead. The unbearable pain continued for several hours, but eventually I was able to rest. I’ve since read in some forums that it goes on for hours and hours for some women. I can’t even imagine.

A week later, I was experiencing significant pain and a fever, so I went back to PP. There, they diagnosed a uterine infection and gave me more antibiotics… Now I worry that the infection may have done enough damage to make conception difficult in the future. It’s really terrifying. And there’s nothing I can do about it. So, I’m taking care of myself, trying to get better, crying when I feel like it.”

‘The right choice’ leads to a ‘fountain of pain‘ The Dawn Patrol February 7, 2008

Visited August 4, 2019

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Abortionist admits he kills “babies”

Late term abortionist Dr. Leroy Carhart, who does abortions through the third trimester, told reporter Hilary Andersson of the BBC that he believes he is killing babies. Here is the transcript:

Carhart: To the fetus is makes no difference whether it’s born or not born. The baby has no input in this, as far as I’m concerned.

Hilary Andersson: But it’s interesting that you use the word baby because a lot of abortionists won’t use that. They’ll use the term fetus because they don’t want to acknowledge that there’s a life.

Carhart: I- I think that it is a baby and I tell our- I use it with the patients.

Hilary Andersson: And you don’t have a problem with killing a baby?

Carhart: (Pause) I have no problem if it’s in the mother’s uterus.”

BBC July 22, 2019 program:

“America’s Abortion War”

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Nursing journal says handling aborted babies is a “challenging clinical event” for nurses

An article in the Journal of Clinical Nursing says:

“… the New Zealand situation would be common in that nurses are frequently required to clean and dress the fetus, ensure transfer to an appropriate receptacle if the mother wants to see it, all the while supporting the woman as she goes through this process. This often occurs after a lengthy period when the women and nurses have been intimately connected, working through a range of decisions such as whether the mother wants to see, and perhaps name or photograph the fetus. Consequently, although women undergoing mid-trimester termination are `well’, this is a challenging clinical event that requires much from nurses in terms of physiological and psychological skill and expertise.”

ANNETTE D. HUNTINGTON RGON, BN, PhD “Working with women experiencing mid-trimester termination of pregnancy: the integration of nursing and feminist knowledge in the gynaecological setting” Journal of Clinical Nursing, 2002, 11 273-279

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