Former clinic escort tells of faithful, praying pro-lifer

Abigail, a former abortion clinic escort, tells a story:

“I was raised by an abortion clinic nurse, and required to work as a patient escort in the clinic parking lot on abortion days. There were many pro-lifers who came out to the clinic on those days; some were sidewalk counselors, some were protestors, some were prayer warriors. There was one woman in particular who never spoke a word, never even interacted with the other pro-lifers. She was a tiny, frail, very elderly woman, who each Friday would walk to the clinic, kneel on the sidewalk at the corner (some distance away from the entrance), and pray the Rosary. Sometimes she would be there for hours, through any weather, with her bony knees on pavement that could be blazing hot, freezing cold, or soaking wet. I saw her every Friday I was there, and she always smiled at me when she arrived and again when she left, but never said a word. One winter day she came and prayed for at least three hours, in freezing rain. The clinic owner came out and saw her, and asked the escorts to ask her to come in for tea when she was done. When she got up from kneeling, I went over and invited her in. She accepted, and I walked her into the clinic and the owner brought over a pot of tea. The three of us sat together on one of the couches in the counseling area. The old lady (I never did find out her name) sipped her tea and smiled peacefully, nodding solemnly as the owner explained that her efforts in prayer were wasted, that she was needlessly inconveniencing or even harming herself by kneeling on the sidewalk, that she would be better off staying at home in comfort since nothing – NOTHING – would ever dissuade the clinic’s owner, doctor, or staff to stop performing abortions; and that by just kneeling and praying without interaction, she was hardly going to convince any women to change their minds. When the owner finished speaking, the old lady put her teacup down, and said “God knows what I’m doing out there, and it matters to him even if it doesn’t matter to you or anyone else. My prayers have value to God. And if I can change one heart – even ONE” – and she looked straight into my eyes as she said this – “then it will have all been worth it. I know God will reward me in the end.” The clinic owner rolled her eyes, sighed, and shook her head. The old lady stood up, thanked us for the tea, and left.

I never forgot her. I was already questioning and doubting my pro-abortion indoctrination; and years later, I would join the pro-life movement as a post-abortive mother, and speak out against abortion and to encourage people to reach out to women considering abortion, people who have been harmed by abortion, and especially to clinic workers. I now pray in front of our local abortion clinic, and I plan to one day pray in front of the clinic where my mother worked. I am certain that the little old lady who used to so faithfully pray there is in Heaven now; and I want to encourage all of us to follow her faithful example. She did change the one heart she hoped for; and who knows how many more?”

The power of prayer – NEVER give up!” 40 Days for Life – Charlottesville October 29, 2010

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10% of girl babies conceived in China are aborted

From Steven Mosher:

Over 10% of all baby girls conceived in China are aborted

Steven W. Mosher Population Control: Real Costs, Illusory Benefits (New Brunswick, NJ: Transaction Publishers, 2008) 18

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Woman has nightmares after abortions

An American post-abortion woman reported:

“3 years after my second abortion I started having nightmares in which I saw myself in a baby parts cemetery and holding a dead baby in my arms and crying for the ones I lost. I was… holding a dead baby and trying to bring him back to life.”

T Burke & DC Reardon Forbidden Grief: The Unspoken Pain of Abortion (Springfield: Acorn Books, 2002) 124

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Pressures from others influenced minor’s abortions

From a study:

“Pressure from parents, sexual partners, and peer group members were particularly influential with younger adolescents. Such factors totally dominated the decisions of adolescents who had failed to establish relative independence from parental object or to achieve some degree of object constancy.”

P Barglow & S. Weinstein “Therapeutic abortion during adolescence: Psychiatric observations” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 2(4) 1973

Catherine Coyle “Coercion and/or Pressure” in Rachel M. MacNair, editor Peace Psychology Perspectives on Abortion (Kansas City, MO: Feminism & Nonviolence Studies Association, 2016)

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Woman has abortions because there are interesting things to do

A woman named Sarah who had 3 abortions gives her reasons:

“The first one, I was a student and I didn’t want to interrupt my studies. The second and third, I had plans for my life. I had real definite plans for my life that did not include totally changing them to marry someone that would not fit into my vision of myself and my future.”

The interviewer says:

Motherhood had never appealed to Sarah. She was always more interested in education and career, travel and adventure. Pregnancy and motherhood were incompatible with the goals she set for herself and the basic vision she had of her life. There was simply no room in her life for a child….

Sarah noted, continuing a pregnancy ‘would have been more of a decision about giving up what I had planned. And I really did view myself as kind of an adventurous young woman. There are so many more interesting things to do than have a family and kids.”

Cara J. Marianna Abortion: A Collective Story (Westport, CT: Praeger, 2002) 99

9-10 week preborn baby, a time when many abortions are performed
9-10 week preborn baby, a time when many abortions are performed
Dismembered body parts of baby aborted at 9 weeks
Dismembered body parts of baby aborted at 9 weeks
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Some minors having abortions were forced by parents

According to a study:

“Among the minors whose parents found out [about the pregnancy] without being told by the minor, 18% said their parents were forcing them to have an abortion, and 6% reported physical violence.”

S Henshaw & K. Kost “Parental Involvement in minors’ abortion decisions” Family Planning Perspectives 25(4) 1992

Catherine Coyle “Coercion and/or Pressure” Rachel M. MacNair, editor Peace Psychology Perspectives on Abortion (Kansas City, MO: Feminism & Nonviolence Studies Association, 2016)

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“Tremendous cost” of treatment influenced choice to abort disabled baby

A couple chose to abort their baby (by D&E) at just under 20 weeks when the child was diagnosed with severe kidney disease. He would have needed a kidney transplant and dialysis.  The woman says:

“We did not explicitly consider the potentially tremendous cost of pursuing aggressive treatment … but in retrospect those concerns were implicit in our decision-making”

Phoebe Day Danziger “A Peaceful DeathSlate FEB. 5 2014

Below: chart of how a D&E abortion is performed

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Woman describes her “grim” abortion experience

One post-abortion woman tells her story:

“I remember the clinic was very odd. It was set back from the street. There were lots of trees outside. It was a sunny day, and I remember the contrast with the clinic itself being so dark for some reason. There were so many people in there, and it was very ‘factoryish’ for some reason. I don’t remember any individuals. I don’t remember particular kindnesses. It was very business-like in some ways…. I remember that vacuumy sound, after the nurse had set up the equipment, and the doctor came in and very briefly sort of suctioned it out… I do remember—probably the worst part of the experience—being in the room with all of those other recovering women and the moaning of at least one other woman and thinking ‘Oh, God, this is sort of hellish.’ …

I remember the room being dark, and that is almost incorporated as a physical sensation. It seemed grim. The sound of the vacuum cleaner, the suction, seemed almost grotesquely juxtaposed with the New Age music that was playing in the room. I knew it had to be done. … The whole thing felt grim; there was nothing good about it. It was definitely exacerbated by that moaning, that I’ll remember till the end of my life, as we were all recuperating in [the recovery] room together. And then having to be escorted out the back because there were protesters in the front. It was a very sobering experience. I think it would have been really traumatic had I been raised religiously…

I remember the doctor and nurse being kind of abrupt, not hostile or mean or anything, but just abrupt. There were so many other people there. I didn’t feel comforted by anybody. I think they did what they had to do. I think they were probably feeling pressured. I do remember thinking, ‘God, how awful this would have to be to work in a place that was picketed every day.’ I think that felt stressful. I think there was a more stressful environment in the first clinic, among the people working there.”

Cara J. Marianna Abortion: A Collective Story (Westport, CT: Praeger, 2002) 113-114

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Daughter upset by mother’s abortions

A daughter whose mother had multiple abortions tells her story:

“I was only 12 years old on that disturbing day when my mother opened up to me … She shared with me that she had experienced more than one abortion prior to my youngest brother’s birth. To be exact, she had had four abortions… A thought hit me: my baby brother almost wasn’t born and almost wasn’t part of my life. …Did she also consider aborting me?

Then my mother complained about how my father was so selfish, how she couldn’t take birth control pills because they made her sick, and how he was never there for her emotionally. She told me that he worked such long hours, blah, blah, blah…

I could not help but be upset and disappointed at her for being so helpless and irresponsible… She then proceeded to tell me the reason why she kept my baby brother. The doctor told her that it would be unsafe to perform another abortion…

Nowadays, the aftermath and repercussions of these abortions still float around us and are still being experienced by our family. My mom constantly cries and complains about her health issues and how the abortions have weakened her body, causing all her aches and pains. She complains to me and nags me, but does not do so to my father. Why me?…

During my temperamental adolescent years, I would get myself heatedly involved between my bitterly enraged parents whenever they would separate. I would argue with them, at them, and for them… They had separated total of three times, and each time it made me extremely angry!… They would vent their feelings, then place me in the middle, as the referee… I felt like screaming, “Hey! I’m the kid here, not the adult!”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 59-62

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Woman feels baby kick before her abortion

From a woman who had an abortion after her baby was diagnosed with kidney trouble. He may have been on dialysis or needed a kidney transplant:

“It was a Friday afternoon, and we scheduled the dilation and evacuation for Monday morning. It was surreal … to walk around feeling our baby kick his little legs and flip around, knowing that after Monday I would never feel him again…Our daughter understood only that the little baby in Mommy’s tummy was very sick”

Phoebe Day Danziger “A Peaceful DeathSlate FEB. 5 2014

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