“Women are generally more willing to talk about abortion than men… If he is still with his partner, he seems to feel threatened by the thought of sharing his experience in words, especially if his partner is present.
It appears that the main reason for this reluctance to talk on the part of men is the fact that abortion causes serious communication problems and emotional conflicts in their relationship with their partner… Both women and men were fearful of renewed conflict and tension over abortion, which might cause an emotional estrangement similar to what transpired at the time of the actual abortion.”
Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995) 102
“An abortion puts a great strain on a relationship, largely by throwing into question its true nature and thereby administering the shock of disillusionment to one or both parties.… I have been involved in 3 abortion “situations.” In the 3rd one in particular, I was shocked by her failure to tell me of the situation at the time… But I was even more shocked by the great sense of relief I felt at having been saved from becoming the father of her child and thereby tied to her by a lasting bond. This appeared to me a revelation of my true feelings towards her, which were considerably less positive than I had supposed.”
Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995) 98 – 99