Many relationships don’t survive abortion

Pro-Choice author Miriam Claire:

“Pregnancy forces responsibility on lovers and tests their capacity for communication, understanding, caring, and love. Many relationships don’t survive the test, and abortion becomes a source of great trauma and stress. Sadly, because of the lack of communication, couples who separate as a result of abortion often learn very little from the experience because they were unable to express their feelings to each other… The problems of lack of communication, understanding, caring, and love seem common to unwed and married couples, although the issues that trigger these problems may vary considerably.

Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995)104-105

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Studies show most couples break up after abortion

Pro-Choice feminist Kathleen McDonnell:

“Studies of abortion and its aftermath reveal that, more often than not, relationships do not survive an abortion; the majority of unmarried couples break up before or soon after an abortion.”

McDonnell Not an Easy Choice: A Feminist Re-Examines Abortion (Boston: South End Press, 1984)

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Aborting to save a relationship usually ends in failure

Pro-choice author and researcher Miriam Claire concedes:

“Having an abortion to keep a relationship together usually signals the end of the relationship.”

Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995)  145

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Abortion causes “serious communication problems” in couples

Pro-abortion author Miriam Claire:

“Women are generally more willing to talk about abortion than men… If he is still with his partner, he seems to feel threatened by the thought of sharing his experience in words, especially if his partner is present.

It appears that the main reason for this reluctance to talk on the part of men is the fact that abortion causes serious communication problems and emotional conflicts in their relationship with their partner… Both women and men were fearful of renewed conflict and tension over abortion, which might cause an emotional estrangement similar to what transpired at the time of the actual abortion.”

Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995) 102

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Abortion puts great strain on a relationship, says postabortion man

From a man whose partner had an abortion:

“An abortion puts a great strain on a relationship, largely by throwing into question its true nature and thereby administering the shock of disillusionment to one or both parties.… I have been involved in 3 abortion “situations.” In the 3rd one in particular, I was shocked by her failure to tell me of the situation at the time… But I was even more shocked by the great sense of relief I felt at having been saved from becoming the father of her child and thereby tied to her by a lasting bond. This appeared to me a revelation of my true feelings towards her, which were considerably less positive than I had supposed.”

Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995) 98 – 99

9-10 weeks. Legal to abort in every US state
9-10 weeks. Legal to abort in every US state
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Abortion “doesn’t allow space for mourning”

Psychotherapist Mira Dana,on postabortion grief:

 “Why would you feel sadness or loss about something you wanted to get rid of? On the surface it looks like a contradiction… The fact that it was your decision which caused the loss does not allow space for mourning.”

Mira Dana Abortion and the Emotions Involved (London: Women’s Therapy Center, 1984) 12

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World Health Organization acknowledges mental health risks of abortion

A World Health Organization technical report acknowledged that women with a previous history of mental illness were more likely to suffer negative emotional aftereffects of abortion :

“There is no doubt that the termination of pregnancy may precipitate a serious psycho neurotic or even psychotic reaction in a susceptible individual.

Studies concerned with women who have had legal abortions in hospitals, mainly for psychiatric reasons, show that serious mental disorders arise more often in women with previous emotional problems. These, the very women for whom legal abortion is considered to be justified on psychiatric grounds, are the ones that have the highest risk postabortion psychiatric disorders.”

World Health Organization, Technical Report Series, “Scientific Group on Spontaneous and Induced Abortion” Geneva, 1970, 41 – 42

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Depression and hopelessness as aftereffects of abortion

Pro-Choice author Miriam Claire lists the following as psychological effects of abortion:

“Depression: some women get into a state of depression which could be described as a general sense of hopelessness and diffused (unfocused) feeling of blackness… Feeling bad about yourself and your life and your environment, but without actually knowing what it is – a state of no specific emotion but this “darkness”… Feelings of worthlessness… and that nothing is of much importance… [Other reactions may be] Fear of Sexuality… Many women need time after an abortion before they feel relaxed and able to have sexual relationships again because they fear another abortion… Envy: Often women feel envious of other women who have babies after the termination… Some women will refrain from visiting their friends who have newborn babies as they feel it is too painful to be with them.”

Mira Dana Abortion and the Emotions Involved (London: Women’s Therapy Center, 1984) 14 – 17

Quoted in Miriam Claire The Abortion Dilemma: Personal Views on a Public Issue (New York: Insight Books, 1995) 18

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Social worker: hiding post-abortion trauma is unfair

Social worker Ava Torre–Bueno, on women’s depression and mental health problems after abortion:

“What you hear in the [pro-choice] movement is “Let’s not make noise about this” and “Most women are fine, I’m sure you will be too.” And that is unfair.”

Emily Bazelon “Is There a Postabortion Syndrome? Inside the Next Fight over Roe V Wade” The New York Times Magazine January 21, 2007

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Psychiatrist on abortion’s aftermath for women

Dr. Eloise Jones, a Toronto psychiatrist, on why she stopped referring women for abortions:

“An abortion has not helped the self-image of any woman I have talked with. I was listening to one recently. She was very frightened lest her teenage daughter discover what she had done, and since the abortion she has become increasingly fearful, hostile, and unresponsive to her husband. In her and in others I have been presented with psychosomatic illness… All kinds of neurotic disturbances and some deep depressive reactions.”

John Powell, SJ Abortion: the Silent Holocaust (Allen, Texas: Argus Communications, 1981) 124 – 125

Abortion has been hurting and damaging women for decades

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