Abortion led to anxiety attacks during sex, says woman

On the website AbortionChangesYou, one woman describes the aftermath of her abortion:

“At the end of 2019 I was just a regular 20 year old girl, having fun and making memories. One night I had sex with my ex and it ended up being the start of an anxiety driven nightmare. I initially thought that after having an abortion ill go back to my same happy self. no anxiety or anxiousness. I was completely wrong. …

Months later I still feel the physical pain I endured when I had the abortion but the worst part is that I constantly no matter if I had sex or not feel like I will not get my period and become pregnant. From 8 months ago till now ive had sex with 2 people.

One being the ex I got pregnant with. ive noticed that when I had sex with him, all the anxiety completely took over my body and I have a fear it will happen again. I make myself pretty much sick with the thought of it that I have huge anxiety attacks that make me believe something is wrong with me and I can’t seem to calm down.

I start getting insane waves of nauseousness and the feeling like I will throw up which is the beginning signs of my last pregnancy. I obviously know that the chances are low because I took extra precaution but the thought of it happening again is always stuck in my brain.

Ive noticed every month even when I DONT have sex, I have to buy pregnancy tests and get scared that somehow I am all because I feel sick or my period app says im late (which till this very day my period has been so irregular since my abortion which just adds to my stress). but now that I had sex with my ex this month I have the most sick, anxiety filled feeling ever and it completely destroys me. …I knew it was the best choice for me and my life but the aftermath of emotions, trauma and stress that it has given me if too much sometimes for me to go about my day as if its completely normal.”

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Reasons for abortion in Canada

Here are the reasons why some women had abortions in Canada. The sample was of women referred from a birth control center in Toronto to abortion facilities. The year was 1981.

Reasons Given

Personal choice: 12.2%

Still a student, too young: 34.7%

Emotionally unable to have a child: 14.3%

Financially unable to have a child: 34.7%

Fear of birth defects: 2%

Maternal health: 0%

Rape: 2%

Incest: 0%

A third of the women had a previous abortion and over half were not using contraception when they got pregnant.

Bruce Alton The Abortion Question (Toronto: Anglican Book Centre, 1983) 15

The research was done by MG Powell and RB Deber.

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Abortion clinic director: if I had a gun, I’d shoot pro-lifers

Kristina is the director of a chain of abortion facilities. After Dr. George Tiller’s murder, other abortion workers urged her to get a gun. In an interview for a pro-abortion book, she said:

“They wanted me to get a gun, but I would probably shoot one of the protesters, and I’d be in jail. So I don’t want to have a gun.”

David S Cohen and Krysten Connon Living in the Crosshairs: The Untold Stories of Antiabortion Terrorism (New York: Oxford University Press, 2015) 26

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Pro-choice writer complains about ultrasounds

Pro-choice writer Lisa M Mitchell complains about how ultrasounds reveal preborn babies:

“Struggles over the meanings of personhood have implications for other persons, and I’m interested in the ramifications of “seeing” into women and “seeing” particular fetuses… To what extent is [ultrasound] disempowering, subjecting women, fetuses, men, and sonographers to a normalizing gaze?… What has been the evidentiary status of fetal images in the struggle over abortion rights?”

Lisa M Mitchell Baby’s First Picture: Ultrasound and the Politics of Fetal Subjects (Toronto: University of Toronto Press Inc., 2001) 12

Mitchell is so out of touch that she puts the word “seeing” in quotes, as if she can’t quite accept that we can actually see a preborn baby.

One wonders how many women, going in for an ultrasound and seeing their baby on the screen, feel that the ultrasound was “disempowering.”

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Post-abortive Woman: “I’ve lived with this 47 yrs and it has never gotten easier.”

One post-abortive woman said:

“I’m a 63 yr old woman who had an abortion when i was 16. I became sterile due to an infection and was never able to have children. Still barely a day goes by that i don’t regret having it and not standing up to my family who pushed me into it. Still, it is my fault for allowing it. I’ll never get over my regret, sadness, anger and a dozen other emotions. Think long and hard how it will affect your life. See if there’s not another option like adoption. Anything else. I’ve lived with this 47 yrs and it has never gotten easier. Just be sure you can live with your choice.”

From AbortionChangesYou

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Pro-Abortion Conference Lists Obstacles to Legalizing Abortion Worldwide

On February 28, 2021, a doctor who spoke at a conference sponsored by the American Association of Pro-Life Obstetricians and Gynecologists presented the following slide.

The slide  presents the obstacles to legalizing abortion worldwide discussed at the pro-abortion Women Deliver Conference in 2007:

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Post-abortive man shares story of girlfriend’s abortion of twins at 20 weeks

A man who identified himself only as RDF shared his story on Facebook. His girlfriend aborted twins at 20 weeks. He said:

She went into Planned Parenthood because she was “too young” (24) and wasn’t ready for children. She hadn’t “planned” to be a parent. I know… It’s ironic that a person who hadn’t planned to be a parent would visit “Planned Parenthood” to have her babies murdered inside her and then sucked out in little bits and pieces. That doesn’t sound anything at all like “planning” to me.

There were protesters there with posters and booklets and handouts… Offering insight, wisdom, help… An alternative to murder. She walked past the pictures of cut up babies. She ignored the small group of protesters. She was expressing her “legal rights”. She was expressing her “Womanly Rights”. She was a “modern woman”. Her life was about her. Not about the inconvenience of the “fertilized eggs” that were inside her.

They weren’t babies yet. She was less than 20 weeks pregnant… by a few days. Though the Sonogram showed two little babies. With fingers and hands… And feet and faces… And heartbeats… Two little innocent babies who were being protected by their mother in the safety of her womb. Two little babies who had never experienced hurt or pain, who never knew the evils of this world or the great wonders of this world. Who were completely 100% innocent. Alive… Waiting to be born.

The night before the abortion, we were talking about alternatives. I cried. She cried. She was a loose Christian. She believed in God in a spiritual sense but didn’t believe in the God of the Bible. I put my hand on her hand and then on her stomach and prayed and said, “Dear Lord, Please guide us through this dark and confusing hour. Please point us in the direction that only you know is right… Dear Lord…” And then we felt the strongest kick. And then another… And another. I cried. She cried. “The Lord is speaking to us. He answered our prayers.” She said, “But I’ve already made the appointment.” And I said, “That appointment means nothing, God has spoken to us.” I felt it. She said she felt it too. For the first time in her life… She felt God speaking to her.

Later that night, we were talking about the future and future plans. She said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” I told her that nobody is. She said, “I’m scared.” I told her that every mother is scared. Although she wasn’t enrolled in college at the time, she wanted to go. I was enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program and was working toward my degree. She said, “But I want to finish college and do something with my life.” I told her that I would help with the baby and somehow we’d both finish college. “It might be harder. We may have to make some sacrifices but we’ll get through it.” She said that she was going to college and I could stay home and watch the baby. I was working for Lockheed Martin at the time and a condition of my employment was that I had to be enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program. So we disagreed on who was going to finish college first.

The fear and the anxiety and the uncertainty… led to a small disagreement that ended with us going to bed not talking. She faced one way. I faced the other.

That morning I got up and was getting ready to go to work. I thought everything was going to be fine. We made it through the storm. She came downstairs and said, “I’m going through with it.” “What?” She said, “I’ve made up my mind. I’m going through with it.” She asked me to drive her to the clinic.

I tried to reason with her. She wasn’t having it. I refused to take her. She called a cab. I thought to myself, “If I let her get in that cab, she’ll surely go through with it.” So I agreed to take her to Planned Parenthood in hopes of talking her out of it. She wasn’t having any of that. I tried to talk. She was silent. Not a word. I drove. She stared out the window. She was stubborn. She was a “modern woman”, nobody was going to tell her what to do… Not me… Not God… Nobody.

So we got to Planned Parenthood and I pulled into the parking lot and parked as close as I could to the protesters. She was unfazed. I walked with her through the small group of protesters. I took a pamphlet and tried to give it to her. She was determined. I said, “Look those are fingers. That’s a head. They were alive. Our babies are alive.” She was walking briskly… She pretended she didn’t hear me. We got to the security gate of Planned Parenthood and rang the doorbell. A woman came out and unlocked the gate and then locked it behind us. We went into the lobby of the building. I grabbed my girlfriends hand, “Don’t do this.” She tried to pull her hand back and said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” “Please, don’t do this. Reconsider” The lady who escorted us in told her the clinic was on the second floor. “Please, We can get through this. Don’t kill our babies.” She pulled her hand back, turned away from me and went up toward the clinic.

I was defeated. I left the clinic and got in my car and drove way too fast down the street. I ran a couple of red lights. I was so scared and angry and hurt and lost and all the emotions like a broken damn came flooding through me. I wanted to scream. I was helpless to protect my babies. I was completely unable to do a single thing to protect them. Where were my rights? Where were the rights of those two beautiful babies? What in the hell did rights have to do with murder? Nobody has the right to murder!!! All of these thoughts flooded my emotions like a freight train… with each box car a thought… And it was going 500 miles per hour through my head. And then…. like an explosion… A tragic horrific wreck… A screeching scraping explosion of thought…

Everything went high pitch… And then went silent….

The moment my children were murdered, a ripple, a shockwave went through my body. Though I wasn’t there… I felt it. I knew something terrible had just happened in that moment. She felt it too.

I turned around and drove as fast as I could back to that clinic. I parked my car in the middle of the road in front of the clinic, nearly on top of the protesters. I rang the doorbell by the gate. I rang it again… and again… Finally the same lady came out. She let me in… She said, “You can’t leave your car there, the police will have it towed.” “They can have it, please open the door, let me in.” She opened the door. I ran to the top of the stairs. Up to the clinic. I ran through the doors. I went up to the little window. I asked where my girlfriend was… “She’s in recovery.” My heart sank, “Can I see her?” “Let me check,” the nurse said. A few agonizingly long minutes later she returned and escorted me to the recovery room.

My girlfriend was crying. She said, “I was wrong. I felt them when they died. They pulled my heart out with our babies.” I cried. She cried. She said, “Oh God, what have I done? I feel horrible, empty… I feel barren… Like a dead flower” I cried. She cried. I stayed with her for a few minutes but needed some air. I went down and moved my illegally parked car. I parked away from the protesters in the parking lot. Then went back up. When they finally let her leave… We cried. We walked past the protesters. She could barely stand. She cried the whole way home. “Why didn’t I listen?” “What was I thinking?” And on and on and on… The emotional pain was unbearable.

RDF goes on to say that his girlfriend fell into a suicidal depression. She was soon going in and out of mental institutions. “It ruined her life,” he said.

When your rights… ruin your life… There is something wrong with the law.

He concludes:

It is a big deal. It is devastating to the mother. The little babies feel it. The mother feels it. The father feels it. It is murder.”

Sarah Terzo “A father’s heartbreaking story…and Planned Parenthood’s response to men like him” Live Action News July 16, 2013

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Abortion clinic worker encourages abortion for birth control

On the blog The Abortion Gang, an abortion worker says the following:

“Last week, I got into a conversation (as I often do) on access to abortion. The exchange was pleasant and informative, but in the course of the conversation the other party expressed she did not support free choice if “someone is using abortion as birth control.” In my experience (and other abortion ganger’s experiences as well), conversations about abortion often come to this same limit, or some version of ‘abortion is not an acceptable if’ statement.

And when the ‘if statements’ start flying I wonder: Why are we so afraid of liberating the use of abortion for whatever means an individual may choose? Why is it that when abortion comes up, some “moral limit” (within the legal limit) must be placed on the procedure? …Abortion, biologically is birth control, in every case, regardless of if contraception was used during sex or not.

Furthermore, safe, legal abortion is one of the most effective forms of birth control; in the US, abortion procedures only “fail” or need to be re-administered less than .5% of the time. … However, advocating that using abortion for birth control is totally 100% OK/kosher/great/moral usually terrifies people….if someone wants to use abortion as birth control, let him or her do so.”

Quoted in Sarah Terzo “Pro-abortion blog supports abortion as a method of birth control” Live Action News March 31, 2013

This abortion worker has no problem promoting abortion as just another method of birth control.

9-10 week preborn baby
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Abortion Clinic Escort says Woman who had 10 Abortions is “Empowered”

An abortion clinic escort, whose blog can be found here, wrote the following in a post on March 18, 2013:

“There are times a client and/or companion is so empowered they instantly gain my admiration.”

What is she so impressed by? She goes on to explain:

The companion [of the woman who was having an abortion] got out of the car first. E [the pro-lifer] was hovering right behind me ready to start shaming. I was able to explain the vests and offer to escort them before he began his spiel. E handed the companion some literature. When I explained he was a protester, they handed it right back to him.

The companion and I escorted the client down the sidewalk. We were in a line: E, companion, client and me. E started with “Women regret their abortions. Don’t lead her into this place.” The companion waved dismissively at him and said, “Oh, I know all about abortion. I have had 10 already.” There was a pause then E leaned over towards the client and said “You don’t have to go into that place.” The client turned to me and said, “I am not listening to him.” I replied that was best.

It was great to witness these two completely ignoring the words meant to hurt and shame them…I felt privileged to witness this calm confidence.”

Elsewhere in her blog, the clinic escort talks about sidewalk counselors offering to help the women with adoption or other alternatives. Pro-lifers often offer free help to pregnant women outside abortion clinics. To the escort, this is “shaming.”

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Post-abortive woman: “I want my son or daughter back”

An anonymous post-abortive woman writes:

“I was very, very confused. My feelings were so mixed. All along I was told it was the right thing to do, but then why was I feeling like it was so wrong and terrible? I hated myself so much. I wanted to scream. I wanted my son or daughter back but it was too late. The nurses wouldn’t talk to me. All they would say is “relax,” or “it’s okay, it’s all over now.”

Pam Koerbel Does Anyone Feel Like I Do? And Other Questions Women Ask Following an Abortion (New York: Doubleday, 1990) 3

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