Father mourns after wife aborts their son against his will

Post-abortion father Kevin Albin tells his story:

“We had been together for a year and a half when she found out that she was eight weeks pregnant. At the time, we were both happy, and I thought at first that things were going to get better now that we were expecting a baby. Over the next several weeks, we began talking about what we would need. I had started making plans for a nursery, and we started buying things for the baby! She was just as excited as me. At about the 19th week, just seven days away from hopefully finding out the sex of the baby, things took a drastic change.

She went to a party at her family’s house that I did not go to with her because I was working. A few days later, out of nowhere, she comes to me and says she has decided she is killing our baby (obviously, that is not what she said, but because of my strong stance, this is what I believe abortion is, especially this far into the pregnancy) and that I had no say whatsoever in the matter.

For the next week, I pleaded with her. I begged her to let me adopt the child, but she refused to listen. She wanted me to take her to the procedure. I said no, and I began to pray that she would change her mind or chicken out. Two days later, she came back home and said it was over and that “it was a boy.”

I was so enraged that I told her we were through, and I gave her 24 hours to get out … I just could not face her without seeing what she did…. It took me a very long time to even forgive her, and, of course, by that time, it was too late. I never really had a chance to get closure and find out what made her change her mind out of the blue….

[T]here is not a day that goes by that I do not grieve for my lost son… In most cases, abortion advocates scream that men do not have an argument in the fight, that we have absolutely no say because we are just ‘sperm donors’ according to their logic.

The reality is that men feel an immense amount of pain as well, and we hold on to our own fair share of demons, whether it was our decision or not…There are so many fathers I talk to who have felt lost because they feel they have no rights and would do anything to hold on to their child.”

Kevin Albin “My Experience With Abortion And Its Effects” Human Defense March 22, 2019

19 week preborn baby

19 week preborn baby

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British study gives reasons why pregnancies end in abortion

A study on abortion from England said:

“Having surveyed vast numbers of reports on unplanned pregnancy, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists concluded that a pregnancy was particularly likely to end in abortion “if it would force the woman to abandon her plans for herself, or if she lacks the income, housing and personal support that she needs to cope with the child.”

Royal College of Obstetricians Gynecologists “Report of the RCOG Working Party on Unplanned Pregnancy” (London: RCOG, 1991) 10

Quoted in Ann Furedi Unplanned Pregnancy: Your Choices (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1996) 67

Furedi is the director of a chain of abortion clinics in England.

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“Feminist” says her abortion brought her “pain” and “loss”

From a post-abortive woman who describes herself as “a feminist, a leftist, a liberally-educated eternal student” in her blog:

“I lost a baby, a baby that never got a name. Lost it on purpose, days after the thirty-fifth anniversary of Roe v. Wade. It was my first, one accident dropped into years of carefulness. I had wanted it in an abstract way for several years, but it came at a time that wasn’t right, and it didn’t have the father I would want to raise a child with. The feminist in me shrinks away from talking about the pain of that loss. Even though my heart believes I sent it back so it could return at a better time, there’s fountain of pain and a kind of aloneness I had never experienced that seems to gush interminably.

The interminable is relative, of course. Time has passed. I cry less. My body that for five weeks swelled in anticipation fits into my clothes again. I’m no longer avoiding the hugs of friends to protect my sore breasts.

I dream about the baby, the one with no name. In the dreams, I am overwhelmed with trying to find someone to help me care for it, of hearing it call the babysitter “mama” because its mother can never be there. When this happens, I feel like I made the right choice for myself and the children that will come. But I still grieve.”

She took the abortion pill at Planned Parenthood and describes her experience:

“I asked if I’d feel sick before taking the second round. It’s unlikely, they said. I woke up vomiting, and I vomited all day until I wished I were dead, especially knowing that I had to take pills that *do* cause nausea and vomiting. Severe cramping, bleeding, and more vomiting ensued within 30 minutes of taking the misoprostol. That was when I wished I could change my mind and have a surgical procedure instead. The unbearable pain continued for several hours, but eventually I was able to rest. I’ve since read in some forums that it goes on for hours and hours for some women. I can’t even imagine.

A week later, I was experiencing significant pain and a fever, so I went back to PP. There, they diagnosed a uterine infection and gave me more antibiotics… Now I worry that the infection may have done enough damage to make conception difficult in the future. It’s really terrifying. And there’s nothing I can do about it. So, I’m taking care of myself, trying to get better, crying when I feel like it.”

The right choice’ leads to a ‘fountain of pain‘ The Dawn Patrol  February 7, 2008

Visited August 4, 2019

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Abortionist admits he kills “babies”

Late term abortionist Dr. Leroy Carhart, who does abortions through the third trimester, told reporter Hilary Andersson of the BBC that he believes he is killing babies. Here is the transcript:

Carhart: To the fetus is makes no difference whether it’s born or not born. The baby has no input in this, as far as I’m concerned.

Hilary Andersson: But it’s interesting that you use the word baby because a lot of abortionists won’t use that. They’ll use the term fetus because they don’t want to acknowledge that there’s a life.

Carhart: I- I think that it is a baby and I tell our- I use it with the patients.

Hilary Andersson: And you don’t have a problem with killing a baby?

Carhart: (Pause) I have no problem if it’s in the mother’s uterus.”

BBC July 22, 2019 program:

America’s Abortion War”

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Nursing journal says handling aborted babies is a “challenging clinical event” for nurses

An article in the Journal of Clinical Nursing says:

“… the New Zealand situation would be common in that nurses are frequently required to clean and dress the fetus, ensure transfer to an appropriate receptacle if the mother wants to see it, all the while supporting the woman as she goes through this process. This often occurs after a lengthy period when the women and nurses have been intimately connected, working through a range of decisions such as whether the mother wants to see, and perhaps name or photograph the fetus. Consequently, although women undergoing mid-trimester termination are `well’, this is a challenging clinical event that requires much from nurses in terms of physiological and psychological skill and expertise.”

ANNETTE D. HUNTINGTON RGON, BN, PhD “Working with women experiencing mid-trimester termination of pregnancy: the integration of nursing and feminist knowledge in the gynaecological setting” Journal of Clinical Nursing, 2002, 11 273-279

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Post-Abortive woman: I had dreams about drowning children

Pro-Abortion writer Linda Weber interviewed a woman two weeks after her abortion. Weber quotes the woman saying:

“Tom and I are finally recovering from all the unexpected emotional roller coaster rides.… I had lots of dreams of drowning children for a while.”

Linda Weber Life Choices: the Teachings of Abortion (Boulder, CO: Sentient Publications, 2011) 129

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Pro-Abortion activist “grieved and went wild” after her own abortion

Pro-Abortion activist Jan Wilberg had an illegal abortion with a wire in 1967. She writes about suffering grief and guilt:

“I grieved and was wild for a full year after that. I broke up with my boyfriend, realizing right away that any man who would advocate the wire wasn’t lifetime commitment material. I drank too much, bounced from guy to guy, and remember not much from that time except long times in the shower crying in grief and guilt. For years, I counted the days and months — how old the child would be if the pregnancy had not been terminated. The guilt was overwhelming. But as I matured, I recognized the decision for what it was, what I believed was right. I accepted responsibility and forgave myself. In the truest terms, I did what I had to do.”

Jan Wilberg “My illegal abortion” Salon  AUG 26, 2012

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Post-abortion woman says there was no counseling

A post-abortive woman named Jasmine wrote:

“I was nine weeks pregnant. There was no counseling offered, just a leaflet telling me that I might feel a little upset, but that it was hormonal and would pass…”

Melinda Tankard Reist Giving Sorrow Words: Women’s Stories of Grief after Abortion (Springfield, IL: Acorn Books, 2007) 33

At nine weeks, her baby was rapidly living and growing.

Preborn baby at 7-8 weeks after conception, 9-10 weeks LMP

Preborn baby at 7-8 weeks after conception, 9-10 weeks LMP

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Chinese one child policy is compassionate, says pro-choicer

Sarah G. Epstein, a member of the advisory board of the Population Institute, a pro-abortion organization, wrote that:

“The Chinese system is both compassionate and fair. For example, if an oldest child is handicapped, the family can have a second child with all the privileges of an only child. If both parents are only children, the same thing. If the parents belong to minority groups (5 percent of the population), they can have more than one child, with all the benefits of an only child. … Let us work out a rational population policy for our own country and respect policies of other countries that are dealing humanely with the critical need to slow population growth”

Published letter to The New York Times entitled “China Has Humane and Fair Birth Policy.” September 15, 1988, page A34

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Sex Selection abortions are a woman’s right says feminist

Taslima Nasreen, pro-abortion feminist, tweeted:

“Abortion including sex selective is women’s rights. Why should women want female babies knowing girls are hated,abused,raped, killed by men?”

Cassy Fiano-Chesser “Pro-abortion feminist echoes Planned Parenthood founder: People with ‘bad genes’ shouldn’t reproduceLive Action News June 20, 2019

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