Woman’s abortion stirs unexpected feelings

Author Mary Kenny tells the following story:

“I have a friend who is extraordinarily tough… doesn’t give a damn, you know. She became pregnant – she is also very ambitious and has a very good job. There was no question whatsoever of continuing the pregnancy. It was an immediate abortion. And she went to this abortion clinic in Brighton.

She told me she took the train to Brighton, thinking, “Oh, jolly day down at Brighton, go to the beach, get a silly hat and a stick of rock, have an abortion”… she got down there and she went, and suddenly, it started to dawn on her that it wasn’t really very funny. Ridiculous, she thought, babies, who wants them? That’s for other silly women – not for me. And afterwards, she was completely shattered. Walk on the pier? – No. She took a taxi to the station, cried all the way back to London. It just tapped something inside her she hardly knew was there. Actually, it broke her heart. She never suspected she would take it that way. She only told me about it recently. Otherwise, nobody would ever know.”

Mary Kenny Abortion: The Whole Story (London: Quartet Books, 1986) 287 – 288

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Postabortion woman “A black cloud hung over me”

Postabortion woman Athlynn Reeves shares her story. She got pregnant when she was in college.

“The month between pregnancy and abortion was a time of extreme crisis. My goals! My dreams! No money! I sought counsel from a nursing student, who said, “It’s just a blob of tissue.” I sought counsel from clergy at my church, and she said, “Whatever you decide, God will understand.” Society, a family member, and all but one friend said abortion was the way. One friend said, “If you choose abortion, God won’t like it.” I hung up on her. My heart was like stone…

That day in January turned my life to death. The day I killed my child, I died, too… A black cloud hung over me. I never knew abortion would do that.”

Wendy Williams, Ann Caldwell Empty Arms: More Than 60 Life-Giving Stories of Hope from the Devastation of Abortion (Chattanooga, Tennessee: Living Ink Books, 2005) 166

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Abortion advertiser acknowledges some clinics aren’t “up to standards”

Ana Rose, founder of Abortion Clinics Online, a site advertising abortion facilitiess, acknowledges that there are abortion clinics that are dangerous and substandard:

” We know that there are some clinics that aren’t up to the standards the pro-choice community would like. How do you think the pro-choice community should deal with this?”

[Rose] responded, “That’s a really tough issue. I would like to see a national entity like the Joint Commission of Accreditation of Hospitals that would oversee the nation’s clinics.”

“Ann Rose — Not Afraid of the “A” Word By, Interview by Anne Bower The Body Politic, Vol. 7, No. 3 – March 1997, Page 15

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10% of 1.3 million women experience psychological problems with abortion

Pro-life author Maria Gallagher quotes researcher Priscilla Coleman:

A researcher at Bowling Green State University, Priscilla Coleman, told the Toledo Blade that approximately 10 percent of women who undergo abortions experience psychological problems as a result.

Coleman says:

“It’s that 10 percent with a common procedure that just keeps nudging at me. I think that’s a group we really need to look at more closely. Ten percent of 1.3 million women. [the number of women who abort every year] How could we ignore that? If it was any other medical procedure it would get more attention.”

From the author:

Coleman has co-authored a study which compares psychiatric hospitalizations of women who abort versus women who give birth. The data for the study, which was published in Canada’s most well-respected medical journal, came from California’s Medicaid program, MediCal.

The study showed that women who had had abortions were much more likely to be hospitalized for psychiatric illness during the four years after pregnancy

Maria Gallagher “Abortion Advocates Discount Emotional Problems After Abortion” LifeNews.com January 27, 2004

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Abortion supporter calls abortion “self-enhancing”

Abortion supporter B. R. Arnowitz:

“The self-nurturant woman may even view the procedure “as a growth-promoting experience”; and “the circumstances surrounding the abortion may even be a self-enhancing occasion for the woman.”

“The Psychodynamics of Abortion” in Critical Psychophysical Passages in the Life of A Woman, edited by Joan Offerman-Zuckerberg. Quoted in Camille S. Williams “Abortion and the Actualized Self” First Things November 1991

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“I wish I had my baby”

From one postabortion woman:

“I cried during the abortion. The nurse thought I was in pain, but it wasn’t physical pain. That night when the sedative wore off, I wanted to die. After that, at parks or children’s events I mourned the baby I had aborted and couldn’t fully appreciate the children I had. Not a day goes by that I do not wish I had my baby.”

Her doctor had told her it was too risky to have another child.

Wendy Williams, Ann Caldwell Empty Arms: More Than 60 Life-Giving Stories of Hope from the Devastation of Abortion (Chattanooga, Tennessee: Living Ink Books, 2005) 160

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Doctor: Pressure women to abort for the “social good”

Dr. Harry Harris in Prenatal Diagnosis and Selective Abortion:

“In traditional societies, the doctors should only be concerned with the welfare of their patients. But in these changing social times, some may take a wider view of their responsibilities. They may, for example, consider the family, even if they are not inclined to the idea, should be pressed to take advantage of the opportunity [to have an abortion] for the social good….it is socially desirable to minimize as far as possible the amount of ill health in the community.”

He argues that to give birth to a handicapped child imposes a “burden on society.”

Harry Harris Prenatal Diagnosis and Selective Abortion (Nufflied Provincial Hospital Trust, 1974)

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Postabortion father: I think about the baby every day

A man named Matthew told the following story:

“In early 1975, when I was 20, I fell in love with a girl who was two years my senior. …. I had had relationships with girls before… but this was the first time I had been in love and it hit me like a mallet… In July 1975 we found out that she was pregnant. I was happy about it and thought with love and the support of our parents, which I was sure we’d get, we would be able to cope…

After a short amount of deliberation, she decided to have an abortion. It was she who was pregnant, it was her body, and she didn’t want to sacrifice her career for the sake of bringing up a baby that would have a poor start in life.”

The interviewer says:

Matthew argued that they could manage but his girlfriend was adamant. … Matthew started drinking afterwards. After the abortion, the relationship deteriorated…. By the New Year, they had split up.

Matthew met someone else; his former girlfriend pursued her career as a social worker, never married or had children. Matthew did marry and had three children. He sobered up and became a very devoted father. But he never quite got over the abortion.

“I still think of that abortion – nearly every day – and will do until the day I die. I have lit a candle in the church and prayed for the soul of my child and for forgiveness in consenting to its murder. This has brought me some peace. Hardly any attention has been paid to men who suffer as a result of abortion.… It is a real feeling that we have done wrong.”

Mary Kenny Abortion: The Whole Story (London: Quartet Books, 1986)  76 – 77

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Teen has abortion due to lack of support from mother

A teenager who became pregnant got no support from her mother, who threatened her with homelessness. She ended up having an abortion:

“I was in love with a man who abused me emotionally. I didn’t recognize the relationship as abusive because of my own insecurities and need for attention.

When I became pregnant, the relationship ended. I pleaded with my boyfriend to stand by me through the pregnancy because I did not believe in abortion. He told me to have an abortion because no one would marry me with someone else’s child. I was devastated, desperate, and alone…

I turned to my close friends, and they only had mixed answers. I knew I would have to tell my parents eventually because I lived under their roof. I could not make it alone in Hawaii, considering the high cost of living….

The response I got was devastating, especially from a Christian. My mother told me I would be homeless, and they would not help me through this terrible sin I committed. I said, “Then I’ll have an abortion…” She didn’t respond or try to stop me. I felt that this was the last straw, and I would have to go through with it. I wished she had encouraged me to keep the child and assured me that I would not be alone…

During the whole procedure, I wailed in agony and despair.”

Wendy Williams, Ann Caldwell Empty Arms: More Than 60 Life-Giving Stories of Hope from the Devastation of Abortion (Chattanooga, Tennessee: Living Ink Books, 2005)  28 – 29

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Doctor discusses the fetus as patient

Dr. Alan Fleishmann, New York specialist in the care of newborns, told London Standard correspondent Jeremy Campbell:

“The fetus is being looked upon as a patient now. This is a big difference and it has come about suddenly… This has increased the moral standing of the unborn. It has changed the way we think about abortion. People will decide that the fetus has a moral status as early the first 10 weeks of pregnancy. That is when we can do a biopsy, screen for genetic defects. Irregular heartbeats and vitamins deficiencies can be corrected at 15 weeks.

Legs of preborn baby at 14 weeks

Legs of preborn baby at 14 weeks

The question now is, if some fetuses have the same rights as a patient, shouldn’t all fetuses have those rights?”

Mary Kenny Abortion: The Whole Story (London: Quartet Books, 1986) 295

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