Abortions against the husband’s will poison marriage

From one man:

“Eight years into our marriage, my wife became pregnant with our fourth baby. I was so excited and happy about the soon to come new addition to our family. Three weeks after the announcement of her pregnancy, however, I was hit by shocking news. My wife had aborted our baby without telling or asking me. …. I wanted our baby! We were financially well-off. Why would she do such a horrible thing without consulting me?…

My wife calmly explained that she was physically and emotionally drained. She couldn’t handle a fourth child…

Then, a year later my wife got pregnant again. Once again she made the same horrible choice to have an abortion, and once again I was not involved in the decision. Thus, our fifth child was aborted. This time I became visibly angry with her because of her selfishness. We fought with heated and ugly words. She screamed at me, “it’s my body, and this was my choice!” She accused me of never being home for her or the children…

I had been faithful to my wife for the first 12 years of our marriage and suddenly I realized that I didn’t really know who this woman was.…

15 years have passed…. Yes, we are still married, but in name only… We sleep in separate bedrooms.… I lead my life and she leads hers. The years go by as we sit silently in our anger and rage. Our lives are so empty and devoid of love. Yes, we are still married – a marriage that has lasted 27 years.

I admit that I have had to seek other ladies for solace, while my wife involves herself with the children and her many charities. She’s a good mother, a good woman, and I only wish that she never made those deadly choices. It’s very possible that our lives and our marriage could have been different.

It’s been a long time to be so angry, but I just can’t bring myself to forgive her… Abortion is a decision that doesn’t just affect the woman. It is a choice that also affects the father.”

Cheryl Chew Make Me Your Choice (Shippensburg, PA: Destiny Image Publishers, 2006) 56 – 58

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Sarah Terzo is a freelance writer and journalist who works for Live Action. She is a member of the board of The Pro-life Alliance of Gays and Lesbians and Consistent Life.
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